Is my friend prejudiced and what should I do?

Question

My friend came to pick up her kitty I cat sat for and my new "gentleman caller" was here (if you get my adult drift) and now, she has not returned my calls. Her phone doesn't have voicemail so she always calls me back within a day when she sees my ID on it. I have called her twice now so far and no callback. It is now two days later. (one call per day)
My caller is black and I am white and she is white. My thinking on this is to give her three strikes and then she's out.
Before you ask, she was in and out of the house but she had her daughter and granddaughter outside waiting at the curb.
I'm a bit bummed about it largely because I never thought she had it in her. Problem arising soon: I'm going to be starting an art class that she has been attending. I DO NOT want to quit the class as I want to learn sketching, pastels, etc and its free. Nor do I see where I should change my life to please her.
How should I handle this whole situ??
p/s bigots stay away from thisQ

I don't recall her saying anything that would indicate prejudice. But she has tried to get me to run my life a certain weay if she feels I am doing something she doesn't like. I usually ignore and do want I want anyway. I think what bothers me the most about it is that I simply didn't think she had it in her. This is the 21st century!!

Answer 1

First, make sure that there isn't another reason for her not getting back to you. There could have been an emergency, etc. If the reason is that she has a problem with the race of your friend, then I'd calmly ask her if that is why she is avoiding you. If it is the answer, I'd let her know that you don't judge people based on skin color and that you're not about to change. She what she has to say. If she's very negative about the situation, you may have to re-evaluate your relationship with her. I wouldn't quit the class. There's no reason that the two of you can't be civil.

Answer 2

maybe she is busy and she might think you are probably busy too. my question is why do you feel so dependent on her is there more to the story..you shouldn't let her affect what you do. its your life. unless you are in a relationship with her what dose it matter to her what you do if she has a problem with you for being with a black man then that is her problem she is very narrow minded and will have to learn this lesson on her own.. don't stop your life for any ones issues...you don't get a second chance. she may have been brought up the pejudiced way and needs to have a change of life or you could be over re-acting.... good luck and live life to the fullest..

Answer 3

Has she said anything in the past to you to indicate that she is prejudice? If not, she might just be busy trying to get things squared away after her trip. Give her the benefit of the doubt. If she HAS said something in the past derogatory about other races you should just drop her as a friend. Obviously you two don't have as much in common as you thought.

Answer 4

you cant change her feelings about it but you shouldnt try to accomodate her negativeness against interracial dating i hear that all the time people saying im not racist but are appauled by interracial dating you know what i still call that being prejudice and if she is a real friend she will continue being your friend without judgment Im sure somewhere down the line she dated some jerk off who she thought was the world but you didnt stop being her friend because of it but im sure her come back on that would be well he was white like it matters keep doing you make yourself happy dont let her ignorance make you feel guilty.

Answer 5

HI! It doesn't sound like this person is a good friend. You help her out by watching her cat and she shows her gratitude by mistreating you. My suggestion would be when you finally do catch up with her to ask her exactly what you've been thinking already. Peace.!

Answer 6

just ask her what her problem is and if she's racist avoid her.