Okay, I don't like my job. I really don't like it. I hate it, actually. I want to quit and take a job making $5 less per hour until I can find a job I like. I am married. My husband and I are agressively paying off our house. If I take the less paying job-remember, this is only until I find something else or my business takes off-we can still pay all of our bills, but we will have to stop agressively paying off our house. The job I am at currently is stressing me out a lot and I really don't like it at all. I have been there 3 years. Am I selfish to quit?
2007-06-12 17:00:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The time to aggressively pay off your house is when you have excess money. You should not kill yourself trying to do it. Nor should you be miserable at a job in order to do it. Don't waste your life in a job you hate, life is too short. Some things are more important than money, like happiness and sanity.
2007-06-12 17:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish. You aren't happy in your job and it's important that you be happy. Go ahead and quit this job you hate. Maybe even take a few months or a year off to relax a bit before starting your new job. There will always be other jobs out there for you but you definitely need to take care of yourself first and you need to get away from the stress.
Don't worry about the money. Your husband is still working and there are always ways to make some extra cash if the two of you need it. Your husband could work overtime to make up the difference or even find a second job evenings or weekends to help with the payments. What matters most, though, is that you're happy.
2007-06-13 00:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are being selfish if the job is stressing you out so much. Perhaps you could explain your feelings to your husband, so that he will understand why you want to leave it now. As long as you are still able to pay the bills, aggressively paying off the house can wait for a little while until you get your business off the ground, or get a better paying job. I am sure your husband would understand, and would want you to be less stressed, which will be beneficial to your marriage.
2007-06-13 08:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, that's a tough spot. Ask yourself which decision you think you could live with. Taking longer to pay the house off, or suffering a little longer to get it done faster.
You have no idea how much I can see where you're coming from. I absolutely DESPISE my job. I'm a single mom however, and for right now I don't have a choice. If I could do it, I'd quit in a heartbeat!!
If it's really getting to you, then get the heck outta there. When you're miserable, everyone else is miserable.
Talk to your husband and let him know how stressed you are. You're not selfish for wanting to quit, I have to say though, if you quit without letting him know all the details, it would be inconsiderate of his feelings. At least talk to him and let him know what's up. Maybe he can keep an eye out for other opportunities as well.
2007-06-13 00:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by tiosharaveen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is selfish to want to get out of a job you hate. But I think you should keep the present job until you find one of equal or greater pay. You can do it. You found the $5 dollar less one while you are working this one, so you can find one that pays better and then quit the job. Just know it is only temporary until you find the new good job. You can choose to have a different attitude about it and try to make the job better until you can quit with out changing the family finances.
2007-06-13 00:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not selfish, just unreasonable. You have a partner and a plan. It is not fair to him for you not to hold up your end of the agreement. You need to compromise and use the distaste for this job as a catalyst to find that other one pretty darn quick. You act as if the one paying less money is the only job you can get. What is to say that you can even find the other job in a short period of time...that is unrealistic speculation and that is what your hubby is looking at. To keep the peace and your part of the deal, find that job now and then move to at least a job making what you are getting now. Good luck.
2007-06-13 03:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! You're the furthest thing from being selfish! Where are you all going to be when you get truly sick from all of the stress that this job is causing you as it is slowly killing your immune system. When it gets bad enough, which could happen any time now... three years (over a thousand days of working day after day at a job you despise is enough to make anyone ill). What's a paid house if you're in a sick bed? Five dollars an hour is nothing for a better job you like more if it leads to your overall better and more positive attitude... Everyone will benefit, including your husband... A happy wife goes a long way... A sick one, no where!
Stress is the major cause of illness leading to death and to love oneself is part of the second greatest commandment Christ himself ever gave us, namely "love your neighbor as YOURSELF". Remember that one??? How can we love anyone else properly unless we have it for ourselves???
Take care! and be happy! There are some things that money will never buy... Health and happiness are two of them...
2007-06-13 00:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Terisina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion, no. Because I think if you work at a place, you have to like it and be happy. But if it's really stressing you out, I think you should just find a better job that pays better. As long as you can get enough money to pay for the house. But the point is to be happy. I mean, that's what life is, isn't it? To be happy and successful?
2007-06-13 00:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should quit if you are unhappy. i am sure you bring th at unhappiness home with you and your husband would love it if you weren't so stressed out all the time. you said you would find a new one after quitting and as long as you both still have jobs, i think you will be okay. if you do stay, you might have to pay more in medical bills or therapy to deal with the stress so you would not be saving money :O
2007-06-13 00:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many reasons you should take another job. The main one is that stress is a killer. You're not the wife (or mommy if you have kids) you could be if you were happier. Your happiness isn't worth $5 an hr. This is just a temporary setback. Your sanity and marriage is worth a lot more than that.
2007-06-13 00:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋