i have been separated for sometime now. without children. i have been wanting to have a child for a long time. then this guy comes along, willing to give me one without the promise of marriage. do you think it is okay to agree to this?
2007-06-12 15:06:41 · 8 answers · asked by macruzphil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is willing to stick around but he hasnt said anything about commitment
2007-06-12 15:17:53 · update #1
You know, part of being mature is realizing that we CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING WE WANT IN LIFE. Sure, you want a child; but, did you ever think it was fair to raise a child without the benefit of a loving family unit. NO IT IS NOT. It is not like you were raped, lost a bf/husband and are now alone. YOU ARE CHOOSING TO FORCE A LESS THAN DESIRABLE HOME LIFE FOR YOUR CHILD AND THAT IS NOT FAIR. GROW UP!
ALL THE KIDS THAT NEED A HOME; BUT YOU JUST GOTTA PRODUCE ONE OF YOUR OWN, I HAVE HEARD THIS A MILLION TIMES. WELL, GO AHEAD AND USURP GOD'S AUTHORITY AND JUDGMENT....PUSH THE ENVELOPE AND SEE HOW HARD IT IS AND TELL US IN 5 YEARS HOW YOU WISHED.....YOU HAD LISTEN.
I SEE NOW WHY YOU ARE SEPERATED! YOU ONLY THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT.
2007-06-12 18:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Children deserve two parents. Children from single parent households do worse in school, and in life. Do not be selfish and bring a child into the world without two parents who care about them!!
2007-06-12 22:20:15 · answer #2 · answered by fire4511 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure but you might want to look into legal issues...is this guy going to try and take the child from you etc...maybe he can sign off his rights to the child etc.
2007-06-12 22:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I'd say sure it would solve your delema, however, speaking for the child, I'd like to have mom and dad in a committed relationship.
2007-06-12 22:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's obvious you've NEVER tried to raise kids on your own. It is a monumental task for two, much less one. If you really want kids, find a good guy, marry him, and have a house full if you can afford them.
2007-06-12 22:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by coffee56man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get divorced first, a seperation is not a disillusionment of marriage.
2007-06-13 00:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you love this guy ... dont have a kid for the sake of wanting a kid .
2007-06-12 22:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay if you think he has good genes. He's probably gay.
2007-06-12 22:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋