is it Possible to LOSE a REASON to LIVE?

Question

is there such thing as a good REASON to DIE?

Answer 1

There are all the reasons in the world to WANT to live.

To breathe every gasp of existence...to the END ...

The only reason to die would be to save another life....

If not,

Listen to the Psychic Cat....

Answer 2

It is indeed possible to lose a reason to live. That's why we always need to keep one handy for when we most need it. Those reasons creep up and bite us in the butt when we the most vulnerable, and they do not let go.

There are also good reasons to die. The thing is, once to make the decision and pass on, there is no turning back and no second chance for this life. Sometimes you have to lie to yourself, and sometimes you have to take it on faith that a reason to die will turn back on itself, and it doesn't always. I have a very good friend whose sister literally lost her will to live and nothing they could do medically made any difference at all. She slipped away, leaving us feeling helpless and useless. It took months to get past that. Sometimes knowing what that decision will do to others is enough to decide not to make it. Sometimes it isn't.

If you have the ability to make that decision and carry it out, you also have the ability to wait one more day and give life a chance. Someone you love (usually everyone) will appreciate the fact that you gave it one more chance.

It is possible to lose a reason to live, but there are a thousand more waiting in the wings. there is such a thing as a good reason to die, but one reason can not stand against the reasons to live. The person you are going to be, needs you now.

Answer 3

NO Never Enki never lose reason to live!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I grew up with a man my Stepfather who was terminally ill and he still lived and gave hope to others even when he lost his eyesight at the end he suffered so he was such a good man....We come into this life for a reason to make a difference in someones life make them see the light what ever that light is call it faith or what ever..when we reach out to others we could never lose a reason to live that is why life is so beautiful. Reason is everywhere around us if we choose to see it Enki the positives and the negatives in the end you DECIDE. I will tell you this there are the Strong and the weak and I hate and detest when others take advantage of others and always play the vistim and lean on others all the time and take advantage that is wrong tooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

enki, if only they knew! The judges & juries, the speculators, the unknowlegable, the uninformed. Yes, it's possible to lose a REASON to live, (never mind Psyengine's semantics & heartless response). REASON is most often the defining point of choosing to die. The most important. I don't "advocate" suicide, nor am I critical of it. I've answered countless questions here about suicide. A common view is that it's "cowardly" (note [darkmistresse]; lots of "heart," that one! Another assumption is that it's for revenge..."They'll be sorry when I'm gone!" Believe me, for people who take their own lives, OTHERS are the last thing on their minds. Yet one more anti-suicide argument--how unhappy the people will feel that they left behind! NO ONE, NO ONE can make assumptions or even try to comprehend. Sweetie, I've seen so much--people in highly emotional states that didn't consider REASON. The unsuccessful suicides that left people worse than they were before, (brain dead or whatever, since there's no guarantee in whatever method you use, that you will die). People who have been unsuccessful, & grateful for it, & lived fulfilling lives. "Justification" isn't necessarily determined by the terminally ill, who are in pain. Pain can also be of the spirit. Who can measure the degee of pain? NO ONE. I have been saddened by the suicide of one special friend, yet it was NOBLE. It was to "prevent" further hurt to those he loved. I agree that there are often "temporary" motivations, & in such cases, have helped everyone that I could, to realize there were options, & the "pain" was not carved in stone. I was successful all but once, & this had to do with drugs--. Bottom line, perhaps three things: #1. It is audacious to make assumptions when we can NEVER, (& sometimes don't even try), to get to the inner person. #2. Don't even consider wanting to die when your emotions dominate. #3. (Or perhaps this should be #1!) DO use REASON; is it one thing, many things, everything--can there be resolution? This is one's ultimate control, & choice. Use wisdom.

Edit" Mental D had, basically a good answer. But, sometimes, there IS no purpose, or, no "apparent" purpose.

Answer 5

Have you ever considered that your attitude and way of thinking could be flawed? With a little humillity and a willingness to listen and change you could dramatically alter your attitude through counseling. If you feel you are right in this mindframe (which I am suggesting is unhealthy), then sadly any joyful little thing I offer you as a reason for loving life, you will sh*t on. Seek joy. Start by getting some help. I want to emphasize that a happy life is not a conformist life, neccessarily. I'm an oddball, I like music no one has ever heard of, I like dark things, dark humor, punk rock and bad boys. We have a darn good time, though. And we don't judge others.

Answer 6

I don't know if suicidal people "lose a reason" to live. I think one loses all hope; recurring experiences and subjective perspective on these experiences results in ensuing learned helplessness. I think this arises from very individual emotional and physical pain that is deemed or IS actually endless.

But, whether someone's choice to die is a "good" one is really not up to anyone else but that person. Now, I'm not saying that we should endorse another's suicide or anything of that nature. Of course, life is a gift and we should *try* to preserve it when it is possible. All I'm saying is who are we to judge how another person feels? Who are we to impose judgement on another person's experiences? It's always easier (but, also erroneous) for an outsider to ridicule scars that have never felt synonymous wounds.

PS: Aside from suicide, I can see how people would misplace or have to ponder reasons for living. Philosophical questions about "why am I here" often get lost in day-to-day routine and tasks.

Answer 7

No its not possible to lose a reason to live, because life itself is reason enough however it is possible to feel like you´ve lost your reasons for living...which is incredibly saddening and hard to get over i know but....there really is no such thing as a good reason to die....life is worth living...even in the hardest times, it is worth living....you just gotta keep reminding yourself of that and fight your way through....you´re never alone in the fight so you dont have to feel alone or afraid....

Answer 8

Yes, it is possible to lose a reason to live.

Some are positive, some are negative. A friend of mine described being in an abusive relationship as: "He was my only reason for being on this planet. It was like everything had to come through him. If he wasn't happy - I wasn't happy. He was my only reason to live... I believed in him that much." He almost killed her - she almost died. But once away from him, she found some other reasons for herself. Now she lives.

Other people lose good things in their lives and with them lose the desire to find other good things... other reasons. We all need something to believe in.

Is there a good reason to die? Is there a way of answering this question fully while honestly stating that I really don't know? If I needed to die to save the life of another, one of those spur of the moment 'me or them' decisions, I believe I would. If the choice was me or one of my students... it would be me. In any other situation, I do not know what I would do.

Is there a good reason to kill oneself? Suicide? I do not think so. Suicide hurts me. In the vast majority of causes, I think there would be hope for healing, if the chance were still available.
Euthenasia? That too makes little sense to me. But then I have not been faced with a terminal disease, overwhelming pain, or the peace that some people describe when they relinquish life to go on to their reward (whatever they perceive it to be).

Answer 9

This is such a deeply personal question. It depends so MUCH on the person, the reason, & none of us can ever understand. (It isn't our province to do so, anyway.) I think this is a very objective question, but how can it be answered? Can it be answered? Only by the person.

Answer 10

As human beings, we have this great capacity to what is called rationalize.

Whether by insanity, depression, and or other mental disorder, we can determine our loss of momentum for life.

It is hard for us to distinguish the objective from the subjective. In fact, many believe that there is no such thing as objective. all our thought processes, relationships, understandings are in relation to "I" therefore subjective.

If, for one reason or another, our subconscious no longer finds an energy/force for life, the individual can realize at a conscious level this emptiness. The arguments are so strong and convincing, that the person feels as if she/he has no other choice but to take his/her own life.

In Central America, we describe "Susto." a mental disorder somewhat synonymous to "Trauma" or PTSD here. Susto differs in that it is believed that the patient has symbolically "fallen," and in his fall (that we can compare to traumatizing event), has lost his/her "alma." Alma in this context is exactly it: The life force. Only a skilled shaman can reunite the patient with its "raison d'etre."

Again, in the same region, it is believed that the death of certain individuals who die of unnatural death (such as heart attack, stroke, ...) is an opportunity for them to finish their mission. In other words, these individuals are described to be unable to finish what they are supposed to do (work, religious mission, humanitarian,...) while in this life. Death or destiny is a "Deus Ex Machina" that will free them from the "living cage" to bring them into the world of shadows where they can finalize their duties. Also, it is believed that there are good reasons to die indeed.

Answer 11

Yes you can loose a reason to live.If you put your whole self into something or someone and it disintegrates in front of you then you feel life has no reason and you want to die.Best to get back to daily life even if you have to force your self to.

There are a lot of good reasons to die..I would die for someone I loved deeply.
For Peace in the world.
To protect my homeland.
There are many reasons.By way of Nature,we are born and we die.Sometimes we choose the way and time.