why is vasectomy not that popular, considering that so many men are afraid to have kids? what do you think?

Question

by the way, gentlemen, I'm only wondering so don't hold this question against me, okay? ;)

Answer 1

What do you mean, not that popular? In the USA alone, something like ½ million are performed every year.

In my work area there are eleven men. All of us are in our late 30’s, and early 40’s. Six of the eleven men had vasectomies, and openly discuss them. Most of my friends have them. Ok, well, maybe we skew the statistic because we are all educated. I tend to hang with educated people.

I had my vasectomy at age 21. I am now almost 41. I considered it the greatest milestone of my life. To me it was greater than graduating college, traveling to Europe, Asia, and getting what some people would call a dream job. If anything it was like winning the lotto. What could be better than having all the sex I ever want and not having to ever think about birth control?

One guy I work with had a vasectomy, and he is single. He says there is no scar, so no woman I date needs to know that I had it.

Ok, well, maybe men, like me, skew the statistic because we are all educated. I tend to hang with educated people. Perhaps uneducated men are less likely to get a vasectomy. I have noted that many uneducated men think it is the same as castration. Also un-educated men tend to have delicate egos. Not being able to make a baby seems to rob them of their perceived manhood.

In closing, I have to state, that a vasectomy is the greatest birthday present a woman could ever give her man. I think they should have vasectomy gift cards. If a man is chicken to get one, and expects his partner to get her tubes tied, he is nothing but a wimp. Getting a vasectomy is 100 times simpler than a tubal ligation.

Answer 2

He has been listening to urban legends. Just do some research about vasectomies and you will see what I am talking about. There are more urban legends than facts. Even some of the answers you have received already contain urban legends. Your hubby probably heard that he won't be able to ejaculate any more, he will loose all his hair, his penis will get smaller, etc. I don't know how all the urban legends come about, but I am pretty sure they are propagated by religious groups. Tell him to talk to other men that have had one. I had mine when I was 21. The novelty has not worn off in 20 years. I still think it was the best $250 I ever spent. For me that is true because I never had children. Today I am 42, and have sex about five times a week.

Answer 3

The fact that a vasectomy is permanent and there is no option of reversing it when you do decide to have kids may be the reason why.

Think about it, some men say they dont want to have children but then later in life they meet that special someone and he changes his mind and wants to have children.

Had he done the vasectomy i think that option of having kids would be gone. Stick to condoms, and if you are seriously not going to have kids then get a vasectomy so there wont be any mistakes.

Answer 4

I had a vasectomy a year or two after the birth of our second child. We didn't want any more children and it made sense for me to have the procedure.

It hurt for a little bit, but no big deal. I watch my wife give birth to two children, two little snips was nothing compared with that. I had some discomfort for less than a week.

Everything still works the way it did same amount of ejaculate, no loss of feeling, no less of a man. Any guy who doesn't want kids should jump at the opportunity! Recreational sex for the rest of your life!

Answer 5

Actually vasectomy is very popular, thousands of men have it done every year. It may not be popular among men in your age bracket (I'm assuming you are young). Historically speaking, birth control has been left up to the female. There is, of course, alot of research going on regarding a male pill, I guess we'll see ?

Answer 6

In my experience, many if not most men do not like the idea of a vasectomy because they think it will affect them sexually. If they think it will, psychologically it might since the mind is so powerful. I think it is done more often because the man already has kids and does not want more.

Answer 7

Let's correct some misconception's here........
If you have a vasectomy, you can still ejaculate. There is no difference in the amount of semen you produce.
Painful? What the hell do you think childbirth is? At least they don't expect you to hyperventilate your way thru' a vasectomy.
Honestly, a man who is afraid of a vasectomy is a total wuss. What kind of man expects his wife to go thru' the pain of having children and then go thru' the pain of having tubes tied?

Answer 8

Many men are absolutely convinced it'll render them impotent - unable to have normal sexual relations - which isn't true. Others are just dreadfully squeamish about the thought of having strangers manipulating their privates, while others are afraid of pain. And some are so immature that they believe it makes them less macho in the eyes of their peers...one has to wonder why they'd blab about a vasectomy!

Answer 9

I have suggested this to my boyfriend,( he has two sons with his previous marriage and two sons with me) I told him that he should get a vasectomy...of course he refused, mostly because he thinks his manhood will be destroyed or compromise in any way. I already explained him and so his other friends who have it.... last year when I had my son this topic was in our everyday conversations...he told me that If I got my tube tights he would get the vasectomy....well I did get my tubs tight but he hasn't gotten the vasectomy...he will never do it.

Answer 10

Men who have had the procedure report that it is particularly painful in all the wrong places. If you care to ask, most men will explain to you the magnitude of the pain involved when the testicles are hit. In a few words it is crippling agony. A vasectomy recreates that exact same sensation. Having had a number of testicle experiences, I can tell that men will not voluntarily subject themselves to this much pain. Also, as noted above, the procedure is pretty much permanent, although I have heard of a few cases of successful reverse vasectomys.
Hope this sheds some light on a rather sensitive issue. (No pun intended!!