We were having a really big fright and this morning my husband slap me across the face and this is not the first time. Im at work and he has not call me at all today and i cant stop thinking about him. What is wrong with me?
2007-06-12 14:20:07 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife came from an abusive marriage. We have now been married 30 years and she is happy as she can be. We never argue, we have worked hard and saved and are comfortably retired.
The reason I say this is that you too need to find someone that loves you and treats you well. Find some support. Move in with a family member. You need to get away from him especially if you have kids.
There are organizations in all cities and towns for abused women. Look them up in the directory. Get information from them.
What is wrong with you? THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You are very smart to start to look for information as you have done. Keep moving forward. You can do it!
2007-06-12 14:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm.....what is wrong with you?? Kind of hard figuring that out one an internet message board with no background.
From what little you've typed the first thing I'm going to guess at is the possibility of you being a co-dependent person. You need to get out now before it's more than just a slap in the face.
2007-06-12 14:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by whatchagonnado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You evidently like being abused is all I can figure. If you stay and put up with it the you can expect it to get increasingly more frequent and more brutal.
There are battered women's shelters which will give you a place of refuge from him and you can obtain a restraining order to keep him from where you work. The women there can tell you stories that will make you think twice about going back.
If you want help it is in place. If you don't buy more make up to cover the bruises.
2007-06-12 14:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you have identified it yourself that you are being the victim of abuse. This is much more important that being told it by others. If possible you and your husband can attend for relationship counselling (if both are willing to be honest and participate). But if either is not open minded enough to try and repair this relationship then it would be wise to put it to bed and get on with your life. If your husband should threaten you in any way then I would suggest that you seek help immediately from a women's shelter who will help counsel you and put you in contact with the proper people to help you. Whatever the outcome, I wish you luck and happiness in your life and relationship.
2007-06-12 14:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK stupid listen. I am 6'2" 275lb+ I can be mean and nasty when I have to but I have never hit eather my ex wife of 21 years or my present wife of 9 yrs. if I did I would figure I was a worthless no good peace of **** and deserve to go to jail I am sorry for one thing I/we don't know you personally or I would come over and slap his face and see in he likes it. Press charges against him force him to go to therapy and if he does it again you will hire a young stud to take care of him and you the same night. you may shock him but if your a looker he just might straighten up.and if he does it again after he is punished well think about it. if you continued to disrespect your parents what would they do the second time around. May god clear the path before you.
2007-06-12 14:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by 7.62x54 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh hell no!
no one is allowed to slap a lady, if he does, hes not a true man. I strongly suggest that you get over it and leave, go to yur moms house of a friend or a sister but dont stay with his, he'll some to his senses eventually and call you. I think that you are just afraid that you wont find someone so you want him no matter what and gurl i dont think that you ahould stay if he cannot respect you. take a break and then, see what happens. remember there are always guys out there that would die to have someone to love and you dont need to stay with some punk who talks with his hand.
2007-06-12 14:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by EllaBella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you? You should of packed up and left after the first slap. Are you waiting for broken bones? You need to harden the heart and see reality Dear. You must know that it won't get any better. If you need help,email me.
2007-06-12 14:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by seahorse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still like him. You gotta give him up. (Pardon me, no offense) That asshole deserves some time in prison. Call the police in private, when he's not around. Makes me enraged whenever a guy is abusive. What a goddamn coward. Probably can't hit men so he's gotta hit women. You don't deserve this abuse, you should put him behind bars for a while.
2007-06-12 14:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You MUST tell him that is completely UNACCEPTABLE! and that today was the LAST time he will do that. And/Or make a plan to get out of the marriage. You are tied and committed to him (and that's why you can't stop thinking of him) but you are worth more than that and no one deserves to be hit. He needs anger management (or a restraining order). Your call.
2007-06-12 14:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has the problem not you! a man should never put his hands on a woman! kind of a scary situation because that slap could turn into something worse....if i were you i would either have a big heart to heart with him about whats going to happen next time he does it....like your going to call the cops or maybe you should talk to him about seeking counciling....don't put up with that...no one deserves to be hit!!! good luck!
2007-06-12 14:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lesley k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋