In everyday life, can you think of an example where choosing to say or do something "Negative...?"?

Question

...would be better than choosing the "Positive...?

I started focusing on "saying" and/or "doing" the "Positive" alternative to almost everything (even against my emotional instincts to say or do the "Negative...") and the results have been amazing and quick...Everything around me has been getting "better"...almost like magic...
Do YOU stop and think, and then choose the "Positive" thing to do or say? If not, why not...?
(not trying to sound gooshy...just curious if anybody else has tried that...kinda like telling someone you love their fruitcake to make them feel good, but you "really" can't stand it...and then apply that concept to EVERYTHING...it really works great for me...!!!) ???
In other words...it seems like choosing even a "false" positive is better than choosing a "true" negative...not repressing...
Impressing...!!!

Answer 1

Works great doesn't it?

Love and blessings Don

Answer 2

Mind control certainly works well that way, but doesn't do much for planning for the negative, does it. Positive is only half the human, but of course there is no such thing as half a human. Managing the negative in a positive way is not the same thing as negating the Judgment (the Judgment is negative, the Will is positive). Negating the Judgment diminishes the minds capacity to perceive the totality of reality and the ability to judge.

"Thus the life of God and divine cognition may well be spoken of as a disporting of Love with itself; but this idea sinks into mere edification, and even insipidity, if it lacks the seriousness, the suffering, the patience, and the labor of the negative." G.W.F. Hegel

http://www.gwfhegel.org
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/insipid

Answer 3

You are learning the art of salesmanship very well.

Let us say your boss is as jerk and he is destroying employee moral and customer relations are far worse than they should be. What would you say to the president of the board of directors? Hum. Maybe you have a point because you could say, "What a wonderful event it would be if Jerky left his job. Think of all the opportunities it would open up for Jerky!" You could actually write him a letter of reference stating all the positive things he has done for the company. Regarding employee relations you could say communicates his positions well. Has unusually creative perspective. Works to engender customer awareness of company attitude.

And then after the next employer destroys his business he can send you a similar letter. Communicates well etc.

Answer 4

I would quickly mistrust you and doubt your integrity.

There is, I think, a difference in being 'brutally honest' and speaking to anyone with a bit of tact or diplomacy.

I wasn't clear on what the results were, but lying to me would only damage our relationship as friends. In very short order in watching you interact with others, I would notice the dishonesty and no longer trust you and your comments.

In the long run, you may pay a price despite any current pleasant feelings about this approach.

Answer 5

It's actually only a 4-5 x a week event, but doing it.

Answer 6

Postive and negative are only perceptions, not facts. What is positve to one might be negative to another (ex. if you are driving to New York, ending up in California would be negative. If you are driving to California, it would be positive). I think it's less about thinking about positive things, and more about feeling good.

Answer 7

Thats an awesome idea! I'm going to try that starting tomorrow! I am very happy for your positive lifestyle...congrats!

Answer 8

I wouldn't like that. I would rather have someone hate me than pretend to like me.

Answer 9

i don't need to focus or think, i just open my mouth and say what is on the end of my tongue! it's called being real!

Answer 10

I do it for my professional life, but not my personal life.