If a guy has been divorced before, women do you see it as a bad thing. Will you hold against him and not give him the time of day or does it not matter at all and you are willing to give a guy a chance no matter what his past is.
2007-06-12 13:30:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, i'm engaged to a divorcee , so obviously I gave him the time of day. It's not necessarily a bad thing, people make mistakes sometimes and I don't believe they should be punished for them forever. However, I did ask my boy to tell me in detail, why he felt divorce was his only option when we first started dating. I did want to know that he was committed to the relationship and he had tried everything he could to keep it together.. and he did.
My advice to you is to be completely honest with any girl you start dating. I think you'll find that most will be happy to accept that you just made a mistake, if you can honestly say that you tried to make it work. Don't worry, I'm not the only woman in the world that thinks a divorced man can be every bit as good as a man that has never married... Good luck.
2007-06-12 13:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by sc3578 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would go so far as to say I would give a guy a chance no matter what his past is: If he has an ex-wife, I would just want to know she is not a nutcase or draining the guy's wallet every month of a huge amount in child support. I basically want to know the woman from his past is not going to be a problem in our relationship.
So, no, I don't see a man being divorced as a problem and yes, I would date a divorced man but I would want to know his past is not going to haunt us so-to-speak.
I would also want to know if he has children (their ages and who has custody, where do they live, etc); if he does not have children, I would want to know how he feels about kids (because I have some myself).
2007-06-12 14:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why he got divorced in the first place, like was he cheating, or abusing her mentally or physically?
If he has kids, is he still in their lives? A good father would never abandon his kids, no matter what.
Divorce is not bad, it's the actions people take to have no other choice but divorce.
There are many reasons people divorce, two people refuse to get along, infidelity, domestic abuse, a spouse is gay, financial reasons. Some even leave their spouses because they work too much, and the list goes on.
Some people remain friends after a divorce, because they are both able to forgive each other.
2007-06-12 13:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Emerald 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with a 50% divorce rate I think you are in the clear. Most women are more understanding about things like divorce, children from prior marriage etc. then me are. I think it used to be seen as a big red flag, but these days it's so common that at 30 people wonder why you've never been married. :)
2007-06-12 13:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by katiebug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being divorced isn't always a bad thing. Why is he divorced? Did he cheat on his wife, get caught, get someone else pregnant, hit on her family members/friends... or was he in a very bad marriage where the wife cheated on him, was abusive, lied, what? Everything has to come together... my husband now is divorced.. why? His wife cheated on him got pregnant by another man, and left him.. should he have stayed in that marriage? No... so, look at the whole picture.
2007-06-12 14:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by emtb9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wore my divorce like a badge of honor. I freely admitted that I stupidly married a psyco and came to my senses.
I'm now happy and living with the woman of my dreams. how ever, every now and then she pats me on the head to remind me that I was once stupid.
A person who holds a grudge against another for being divorced shouldnt be a candidate for a relationship.
2007-06-12 13:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by phule_poet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most people that are over 30 it does not matter, unless you have been divorced like 3 or 4 times. If you are under 30, girls may not like that so much, especially if you have kids. They may think that you are to tied down, but for most people it doesn't matter.
2007-06-12 13:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Susan R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I only date divorced men. I am divorced myself and only a man who`s been married knows what it takes to succeed at marriage. I prefer a divorced man to a single man who`s never had a long term relationship meaning he`s incapable of commitment.
2007-06-12 13:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take more time to figure out yourself how you feel about him. Just because he was in a relationship that didn't work doesn't make him a bad guy, it just means that he wasn't meant to be with that one woman. No matter what his passed is you will never know all the true facts, so best to find out who he is now and see how you feel about him.
2007-06-12 13:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by maev 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the man not his past. Half the people we meet are divorced so you should not rule them out just for that. Everyone makes mistakes. Yes, divorce is bad but not the end of the world for you to find someone else.
2007-06-12 13:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Dance 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋