would like to get married but not good looking, should i get a mail order bride or try to get a fat chick?

Question

im serious........what do u think......im a guy scared of rejection too. should i try to move to a poorer country.....no females like me.....

Answer 1

well i am pretty sure if you can't get someone based on your personality and what you have to offer then a mail order bride might be your only option. a "fat chick" is also looking for someone with personality and someone to love them for who they are and that can bring something to the relationship. that is not you. so scratch the "fat chick" off your list. go for someone who does not care who they marry as long as they get what they need. ie rich or citizenship

Answer 2

I'm in no way a feminist but...................
Get a mail order bride by all means but........why the hell do you think you could get 'a fat chick' anyway? No wonder no females like you - as for moving to a poorer country - the women may be desperate for a better life but surely not so desperate as to think a man considering getting 'a fat chick' or a woman from 'a poorer country' would be a good catch. Christ - move into the 21st century chauvinist.
P.S. If you've only posted this question to wind up females - well done, put it on your C.V. son, I'm sure it'll impress people.....not.

Answer 3

There is someone for everybody, you just have to be patient. What does "not good looking" mean?...Is this in comparison to......?

Do you have a local mall?...Go there on a Saturday, walk or find a good seat and just watch all the couples who come in. Ask yourself, are these all models?...Do some of them make you scratch your head and wonder, "What is the attraction?"

What's the deal with the "Fat chick"?...Do you place them in the 'not good looking' category?...My personal taste is slim, but I've seen some very good looking 'fat chicks'.

Mail order brides...they still have those?....Wouldn't that be something like opening a cracker jack box and seeing what kind of prize you got?...No thanks!

Live your life, go to places you enjoy, do the things you enjoy and it will happen. You'll find someone who has common interests. It's a well known fact that men go for looks, women go for personalities. Be a nice guy, don't judge women by their size...Love will find you!

Answer 4

Hi
That is really very sad, but not all is lost as I had a very good friend of mine who is now married and her face is disfigured.
If you really feel that u are to ugly for anyone to love then I suggest that you seek some one that you can talk to about how you feel. (friend, family member, doctor or other person that is their to help you)
As I don't know what you look like I cannot really say what you can do to improve your appearance so as to encourage female attention.
If you think getting a mail order bride or a larger female person to be in a relationship with you is the answer, then you need to ask your self if you would be willing to live with that individual.
Would this make you happy, to not be alone?
Aroha (love) to you and I hope you do find someone that loves you!
Take care...
Sereena

Answer 5

Neither, you seriously need to work on the fear of rejection thing. You may need to talk to a therapist, working out bugs in your system will quickly make you a more attractive person.

I guessing by the question that you are a very, very insecure person. Your attractiveness to women (or lack thereof) is probably more a result of your insecurity.

You should give some serious thought to where your insecurity really lies. Usually feelings of insecurity are unfounded for example: maybe you're not that bad looking but, you belive that you're unattractive because of reactions that women are giving you when maybe they just see a look of a man that is very hard on himself (not attractive).

Try thinking about where your lack of confidence is really coming from and look at it from a realistic perspective. It's probably BS that you have convinced yourself of to begin with.

Think positively, look at your good points, stand up straight and smile these are almost instantaneous ways to improve your attractiveness.

Answer 6

Gain some self-confidence first. You're not ready to get married if you think you have to buy a wife or settle for someone that you don't like.

People who consider themselves good looking sometimes have difficulty meeting people as well. It's usually a confidence issue more than looks. Find what you like about yourself first.

Also, you're lucky because many women are concerned less with looks and more with other things that a guy has to offer. Show people why you have a lot to offer even if your looks aren't the best.

Answer 7

I would say that the world or even the world you are in is still a vast piece of the planet that has people with different mind set. All you have to do is be what you are and be who you are. I am sure that there is someone out there that looks more at the inner person rather than the external physical attribute. You would find the right connection with the belief in yourself. You might look at yourself as one who is not good looking but you do not know that someone out there looks at you as a sexy man because of you being witty, fun to be with, intelligent converationalist and many other factors. It could be that you have been looking at one side of your world. Be alert and have your confidence intact and be proud of what you have and be thankful for it.....GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

For a guy who is scared of rejection you are very opinionated about people. You only say a "fat chick " because you are under the sad impression that people are as shallow as you are. I am a BBW and have dated lots of men ---none of whom have ever referred to me as a fat chick.
You have to find the beauty in yourself and others will see it also.
From your question you sound like you have some work to do on yourself before you add the second hardest job in the world---to have a successfull relationship. Start each morning by saying you are desirable: think of others feelings before you say rude or uncomplimentary things [hint -- like fat chicks]: improve yourself and your life WILL emprove.

Answer 9

You said that no females like you. I can't imagine why?!?

You have shown a huge amount of disrespect for women in your short posting here. I suggest that it is that disrespect and not your looks that women are reacting to.

I think you're got some power and control issues too. Movng to a poorer country for a wife? That's just sad.

See a counsellor - at the very least.

Answer 10

Think about it this way... whats the worst that can happen if your rejected?? don't you wanna marry for love? if there is a guy like you out there then there has to be a girl like you out there. Give yourself more time you know your problem so try and change talk to girls if only as friends become more comfortable with the opposite sex have friends hook you up with their friends

good luck