this boy at school seriously has a huge crush on me. he catches up to me in the hallways and keeps talking to me. he also pretends like he needs the hw so he could find an excuse to sit near me at lunch. whats most annoying is that he gets mad if i talk to other guys and keeps instant messaging me. i dont know how to tell him to leave me alone without hurting his feelings. what should i do?
2007-06-12 12:46:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes you can't help being mean. Tell him you aren't into him that way. But DEFINITELY don't make it seem like you could learn to like him!!!!
2007-06-12 12:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by cassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make an omelette without breaking eggs so you have to accept that you ARE going to hurt his feelings whatever you do, unless you agree to him. Nobody likes rejection of any sort. So decide what matters to you most: not hurting him, or getting him off your back, because it will affect what you say, as you can't have both. You are not responsible for him getting mad and, if he was mature enough for a relationship, he would be taking things more in his stride and not getting upset.
If you really want him to stop, then you have to also acknowledge that you have a RIGHT to him not pestering you. So, one day when he comes next to you at lunch, or at a convenient place, say something like this, in your own words:
"I am flattered that you like me because you are a really cool guy. But, just now, I am not really keen on a friendship and would prefer if you give that attention to someone else because it is rather wasted on me. Maybe some time in the future, but I need my space to do my own thing. I hope you accept that."
Make NO apologies for your action.
Then listen to what he has to say, but continue to stick, politely but firmly, to your guns. Don't be persuaded. If he still tries to home in on you after that, just completely avoid him when you see him, or remind him of what you said. I hope this is of some help.
2007-06-12 13:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ms CYPRAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
View from an adult: This behavior is called stalking. The fact that he gets mad when you talk to other guys and you're not in a relationship with him is a bad sign. Doesn't matter how nice he seems to be, if you are not interested then no, means no. Be very clear about the fact that you are not interested. If he continues to harrass you after you have told him to go away, please speak with your parents or another adult whom you trust.
2007-06-12 13:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by KMcG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i kind of sorta had a situtaion like that. Ummm, just tell him that you don't like him like that and you would rather be friends instead of being a couple. tell him there's no hard feelings. It's either now or later that you is going to tell him to leave you alone. there is no way that you won't hurt his feelings, because you will. So either you suffer or stop it.
2007-06-12 12:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by mickeymousegirl00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you have a dream. You wanna be a feminist, a career success woman like Opera or Ms Rice. If he serious about your friendship and respect you as you're, he should give you some space. Tell him you dream boy is the one who know how to respect woman and understand what is 'no' mean 'no'.
2007-06-12 13:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by maddog ooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him u aint interested! easy as dat! He needs 2 take it like a man!
2007-06-12 12:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, and that you don't mean to hurt his feelings, but its something you had to do.
2007-06-12 12:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Hoagy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him I'm not trying to get rid of you but I need my space away from you.
2007-06-12 12:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by ~softball~punk~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋