Who is right?

Question

I am married with two boys that are not the biological children of my husband. They have different fathers. I have gone through all the legal procedures to file for child support for one of the dads. Needless to say I haven't seen a penny and even though they say you go to jail for not paying he is free as a bird and obviously not worried because he still isn't paying. The other father is great and gives whatever I ask for. My husband says I need to put him on court ordered child support but I say why, I went that route and got nothing from it. My husband thinks that I won't do it b/c I have feelings for this one and he know s I detest the other one so he thinks it was easy to do it to him. This is not the case at all and I don't think i've given him any reason to believe i still care for this man. This is a big issue for us and I wanted to know if anyone out there has any advice on what I should do. Who is right here?

Answer 1

I was in the same situation as you, to an extent. I don't press my sons father because I know it will do no good. Sure, I could take him to court, pay the court costs myself (which is what happens) have the judge say "You MUST pay X amount to your childs mother" and then have my X say "Well...I don't have it."
They put him in jail (if they are feeling frisky), or they try and work out a payment plan with him.
Either way you know, in your heart, you're not going to get the money.
I live with a man who is not the father of mine, yet he supports them day in and day out....He gets very upset at times...not with me, but with my sons father...He doesn't feel resentful that he has to support my son, he feels resentful because my X doesn't love my son enough to do it himself.
Do you need the money? Is it dire that you chase him down and try and collect? If not, then it's really not that important. You need to tell your childs father ( who is not paying) that if doesn't pay then he will not see his son, and stick to it. He may not pay all that you need to, but you have to get in his face and get strong with him, or everyone will suffer. If your husband feels that this is important enough to go to court for, then explain to him that you two will be paying all court costs, and that it will most likely result in a nothing outcome. Bust his butt ( your X)...Let your husband hear you do it....It all comes down to how you react to the situation.... Don't let your X get away with nothing.....And don't let your husband think that you are........

Answer 2

Put him on court ordered support not for your husband but for the kid, in this case he is right

Answer 3

I dont believe he has any right interfering with these issues u have done all u can he should leave it alone.