2007-06-12 10:28:30 · 10 answers · asked by not yet 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I understand that your intent is benign, but I don't like this question in general. Society asks it far too much and creates general confusion. Forget all those "10 ways to light his fire!" bits in the magazines and help from friends.
Get to know the guy. Its that simple. Ask him. Every guy is different. I have encountered no end of trouble from women that assume certain things about me as a male when they try to "turn me on". I don't blame them. I blame society for confusing them. All people are different. If we conform to set assumptions, we cheat ourselves of the experience of getting to know someone.
The pendulum swings both ways. This is true of both sexes.
2007-06-12 10:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by The_Music_Man 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
First, I guess I understand my woman's sexuality better than my own.
One is for her to trust me as I trust her. I am a one woman man. If, I go out with some of my friends, just trust that I go to have fun, Fish, Hunt, Shoot Pool, Drink some beers. I not hunting for a woman, I have that. I do like to talk to women and may even joke sexually, I have even done this when my woman is with me. I do need some "time alone" and this is something I want my woman to understand. I am not mad or it not mean I stop loving her, but, sometimes it just nice to sit and "Gel" and not talk. Funny thing is she can be there talking and I am off in another world (Deep Thought, lol), it not take long she realize this and just does something else, she not get mad, she understands. Later she may ask, "What were you thinking"? Then we can talk about it, maybe it a Dream I have or a Goal. Then she will encourage me and not say; "That a stupid Dream".
So, just understanding me and my dreams (not mean they will come true). Encouraging me when something goes wrong. And loving me for "me", not trying to change me into someone else. This spurs my sexuality and excites me to more creativity with my woman. I have a desire to be with her and doing things together, she is my best friend! But, when a woman bombards me with one way or no way, it like she no fun to be around. :-(
So, together we develop a best friend relationship and want to be with our Best Friend (That why they the best!!!). Somewhere, as best friends we fell in love and then our sexuality became a desire for each other and not a personal gratification.
2007-06-13 12:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The_Music_Man hit the nail right on the head. There's no blanket statement to cover any group of peoples' sexuality. There was a study done by Alfred Kinsey about what's normal for sexuality. He found that everyone is different and there is no normal way to do it.
I agree with his findings completely. I guess that's the most important thing for anyone to understand about anyone's sexuality.
2007-06-12 18:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
We're not all sex-mad freaks. And we're very protective of certain organs, so teeth and nails should be kept well away (ugh, some poor bastard had the flesh that connects the foreskin to the head cut by his girlfriend's inch long nails...) And some of us have hang ups about a girl we respect giving us oral, some of us worry about if we're clean/odour-free down there.
2007-06-12 18:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not as simple-minded as you think.
My gender does not mean my primary role is to make money, I want to also raise the kids.
I want to be free to be scared and uncertain sometimes - but nobody will allow that.
I want you to be my equal, not my weaker-manipulator.
We do not think about sex all the time. Despite what you think, it is not true. And I am offended when you talk about me as if I am a single-minded sex maniac, a threat to all women and kids.
2007-06-12 23:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Richard of Fort Bend 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Steve.c_50 for the most part. I should add that we don't need forplay or any type of special setting... the girl IS the setting for me.
2007-06-12 20:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think most men even think about it in terms of our sexuallity.
2007-06-12 17:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Temüjin 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
don't expect us to take initiative every single time. it's tiresome and predictable. not good.
2007-06-13 13:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are simple beings. We do not need a broadway production. Pretty much rub on it and it works,every time.
2007-06-12 17:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 4⤊ 4⤋
more oral
and don't forget about the "boys" hanging down there y'all
2007-06-12 21:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋