Ok.. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 3 weeks. yes its short but see i love him i know i do! and hes leaving for texas in 17 days? and then we've talked about what we're gonna do.. and he wants to sleep with me and says he'll wait as long as possible til i want to because i'm still a virgin. but what the question is. How long do i actually wait til i give it to him you know? oo and hes gonna be gone for like either 11 days or 3 months.. i dont know which one it is yet.
HELP?!?!?
Thanks
2007-06-12 09:42:09 · 24 answers · asked by cherrycreampie073 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Oooo. and I have known him for like a year. We met at a party for my friend and yeah....
2007-06-12 15:31:12 · update #1
I'm so sorry to inform you but you are not in love. Love grows over time. Not three weeks. I'm sure your feelings for this guy are very strong and I don't doubt that. But you're not in love, not that fast. Yes, it feels like that I know but it isn't.
If you have to ask if you should wait or not then the answer is more than likely to wait. Why don't you know how long he's going to be gone? This doesn't sound very hopeful right now. Please wait. You don't say how old you are but I'm guessing your still young. Just wait. If he's that great of a guy then he'll respect you for it. Don't just give it away.
2007-06-12 10:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't "give it" to him, period. When a guy says he'll wait until you're ready, no matter how long it takes, he's just trying to soften you up while at the same time making himself look like the good guy. It's the oldest trick/line in the book that most all guys have used.
Here's the reality: Your relationship will likely last a few short months, a year tops. You'll have at least a half dozen more "serious" relationships before you settle down. If you lose your virginity to this guy, you're setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. Once "IT" is gone, it's gone. You'll become more and more free, sexually, and there's a good possiblity you'll end up with an STD, or become pregnant.
Save you virginity for the man you'll marry.
I know my comments sound harsh, but they're more realistic than any other answer you're going to get.
2007-06-12 09:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by cardinalfanusa 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A few years wait would be a good idea. Otherwise, you lose the cherry and he disappears forever. What you might gain from the experience might be a baby, the clap, or worse. So... don't be a jerk sweetheart - If he's the man you think he is, he'll be back and love you the more for being and acting like a grown up woman. If he ain't the man you think he is, he'll turn out to be some jerky kid who got you to drop your drawers so he could get laid before the trip to Texas.
2007-06-12 09:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by squeezie_1999 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,age has a big part to do with it. If you still really young definitely wait until you are of a proper age. If you are old enough and just want to do it then go for it but remember no matter what he says, sleeping with him isn't going to ensure he'll be there for you when he gets home. Remember it's only been three weeks. You should wait and see how you feel while he's gone and if your feelings stay neutral. And I don't think you love him yet. Lust sounds more like it. You already know what to do i think. You are just asking for the conformation. Go with your gut. It benefits you to wait.
2007-06-12 09:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well trust me hun if you have gone that long with out sex then a little longer will not hurt you. i know that for one you are gonna do what you want. i have been there and i made the mistake of giving it up dont do it. if your bound and determended to do it then wait for him to get back because 3 weeks is not very long at all.what if he was to find another person down there or something then now no guy would want something that has been givin to someone esle. you only get one time to give it away and that is it so make sure it is really what you want. but if you do have sex with him which i hope you take my advise and wait but if you do be sure to make him wear a condom and you need to be on birthcontrol. i can tell by the way this is worded that you are not very old so please please think about this. good luck and may god bless you
2007-06-12 09:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by kylie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With my first child a year and a half because my "baby daddy" left me at 8 months into my pregnancy and I was afraid to get into the same situation again. With my second daughter me and my husband waited about 1 month to 6 weeks. I was healing from c-section so I had to be extra cardeful.
2016-05-18 03:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Especially since you've only been going out for 3 weeks. If you can't wait until you are married, at least wait until you're 18. If he really cares, he'll wait as long as it takes you to be comfortable. Good luck!
2007-06-12 09:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by NYCLady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: Are you ready to bring another life into this world? Are you ready to be subjected to having a pap smear or a doctor look at your private areas? Are you ready to be worried about being pregnant all the time? Are you ready to worry about having an STD? Are you ready to be ridiculed or criticized for having sex? Are you ready to be called a hoe by all of your friends? Are you ready to lose all respect for yourself and not be respected by others? Are you ready for guys to think you're easy?
If you can honestly answer most of these questions with a yes... Go for it. Use protection. Get on Birth Control. Don't be stupid.
2007-06-12 09:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait till he gets back... If even then. What if you do have sex and you end up pregnant. Then what? Don't give in. you have strong morals and if you are under 17 your shouldn't even consider this as an option. Keep your innocence. If he loves you he will wait. By teh way if you have to ask tehn you aren't ready
2007-06-12 09:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ang3l-Uh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he willing to marry you in 17 days?
Didn't think so.
lol And most weddings take longer to plan than 3 months. Could be done - talk to his mom and dad, see if they think one could be arranged...
If he LOVES you and is or almost a MAN he will NOT want to have sex with you, a virgin, before he goes.
2007-06-12 09:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by SC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋