I am the mom-to-be's friend who was asked to do the baby shower. Of course I said YES! But, is it okay to ask her family for some help financially to make this wonderful for her? And how do I do this? Call them?
2007-06-12 08:14:03 · 15 answers · asked by Happy Girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Personally, I think it was bad etiquette for someone to ask you to throw a shower, its something that should be offered by the hostess.
Ask them if they would consider being a co-hostess, then split up the duties between yourselves making sure that the financial burden is split equally.
2007-06-12 08:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mean to be rude but if you were ask to throw a shower and you volunteered than I think It is sorda rude to ask for help from the mom to be's family . Because the grandmother probably has the most joy out of planning a shower & knows her daughter better then anyone. She could have reserved feelings and not want to finance your ideas. If your talking like bring soda or chips or make decorations or something sure just ask. However many people have ideas on baby showers and who should throw them. Example:Grandmother,Best Friend, The Mother Herself. Why don't you try a baby shower potluck and ask everyone to bring a dish and RSVP with the dish they will bring. GoodLuck
2007-06-12 08:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by SnuggJeans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Why does she need to have financial assistance?
Just have everyone invited bring some food and you're set. You don't have to make thus HUGE to make it memorable. Which is more important: spending a few hundred dollars to make it a HUGE event or inviting a few close friends of the mom-to-be and making it special for HER and the new baby?
Personally I think that asking her family is REALLY tacky. The mom-to-be isn't going to remember what was served, the decorations, or the games played. She WILL remember how much it meant for her to just be with friends.
2007-06-12 08:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the family of the mommy to be, I think they would be more than delighted to help make the baby shower run smoother and a better experience for their daughter. Just ask them privately and say something like, "Hey, so an so asked me to throw her a baby shower, but financially I can't afford to do it by myself. Can you help me out?"
2007-06-12 08:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by pixey03 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could do a pot-luck, or ask each person to come up with a fun activity or decoration to bring to help. Or you could just do cake and punch and some games. There are some inexpensive games you can do that are fun - e mail me if you want some ideas. Also, a clothes shower is fun and you can decorate by hanging a string and using cothes pins to hang the outfits (Like a clothesline) to decorate. There is also the idea of using three big square boxes, wrapping each one with a different color paper and using a sharpie to write letters or umbers on them, so they look like blocks. Or just ask the mother (or person she is closest to in her family) that you really want to do this, but would love to have a co-host to help with ideas and cost.
2007-06-12 08:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aboslutely yes, you contact her mother, sister and ask for their assistance. At a recent baby shower I put together a list of food items and asked everyone to bring something from the list. I asked the mother and sister of the mom to be to assist financially with the decorations. Everyone participated and everything went well.
2007-06-12 08:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by beliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually if you are asked to host a shower - then you are responsible of the expenses. However, you could ask someone to help you throw the baby shower - then you could split the expenses.
2007-06-12 08:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask her family, but please don't ask her, or her mom... An aunt, cousin, those are okay. Just give them a call and tell them you are planning a baby shower and wanted to know if they would like to participate (sounds better than "can you help fund it").
2007-06-12 08:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by izzymo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can ask! No one wants you to financially burden yourself over it! Just say, "Hey I was going to throw a shower for so and so, would you want to go in on it with me?"
2007-06-12 08:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you agreed to host the baby shower, then it is understood you will be paying for it. If anyone offers you assistance, then by all means take it! But it would not be appropriate to ask them, since you agreed to host it!
2007-06-12 08:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by FLmom3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋