Can you stand a 3 year old toddler to shout 'You moron' on your face?

Question

How do you deal with her?

Answer 1

a bar of soap.

Answer 2

She's 3, not 13. Keep that in mind.

I assume this isn't your child, or you'd be asking in another area. In the marriage and divorce area, might we assume that this is a stepchild? Not always safe, but I'll look at it like that.

Don't get mad. Don't strike out at her, call her names, or let her know that you're even annoyed. You'll only encourage her, if she's looking for negative attention, and you'll definitely lose an opportunity to find out what's really going on.

Have you ever called her a moron, or referred to her as one? Have you used that term in her hearing? Has she heard her mother or anyone else refer to you or others that way? If so, what would give her any reason to think she couldn't use it? Children listen to what we say and how we say it. If you and her mother don't want her to treat people that way, you'd best change your ways.

After you get over your temper, you and the child's mother should sit down and talk about family standards. Your nearest library should have a copy of a book called Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson. It's probably even available as an audio-book. Give it a chance - she's got some great techniques.

Answer 3

Time out , no treats, send child to bed, give him something to do that he doesn't like , treat him like a naughty pet and squirt water at him everytime he shouts in your face - really not a good thing to do and it would be classed as abuse. If he's doing it for a reaction then any of the above supplies his need for attention but sometimes it's good to ignore it and then really praise up the good behaviour (positive re-einforcement) The child needs to learn what's acceptable behaviour and what's unacceptable.

Answer 4

The same you way you train the child how to do anything else you want or not do anything else you don't want. If the child gets the response (the reward) they want by calling you that, they will continue to do so. Plain and simple - this is acceptable and good, this is unacceptable and will cause you to be unhappy - get in trouble.

It's also possible that your child is not getting enough attention. Most kids don't need and shouldn't get constant attention, bet every child needs to get 'some'. If this is the case, he or she might be deciding to call you the name (even though it will illicit a negative response) for the sole purpose of at least getting "some" response - any response. "I'm not getting any attention, so I'll call her a moron - that gets attention!". Make sure you pay sufficient attention to the child, then focus on acceptable and unacceptable behaviors.

Answer 5

first of all this is not appropriate behavior. there are few option you can take here. 1 you can sit her down and make her stay there for three minutes (one minute/year) and after she has sat there for her time you need to ask her if she knows why she is there and if she does let her know that you will not tolerate it, or if she doesnt you need to let her know why and teach her it wont be tolerated. 2 You can smack her bottom and let her know that it wont be tolerated. 3 you can let her know that this is a problem and lay her down for a nap if the timing is appropriate. Just a word of advice i dont ever smack my children in the face or head. that is why they have a bottom. besides if you smack her in the face or head you are basically teaching her that if she thinks that another person (child or adult) is doing something she thinks is wrong she has the right to smack them. good luck

Answer 6

Ignore her.Negative attention is still attention.Our second son use to call us a jerk when he was 3 and we punished him, explained that it was wrong ,put him in the corner,and spanked him he kept on until I tried ignoring him.Since he got no reaction he lost interest in saying it.I'm working on my 3 yr old daughter that picked up the word butthole from the oldest teenage son.She has a speech problem but can say butthole plain as day.Isn't nice how those bad words are short and easy to say for our children to learn one time of hearing them.She has just about stopped now.She used to say it all the time.It has been a little harder with her cause her brothers give her a reaction.

Answer 7

FIRST OF ALL THE QUESTION SHOULD BE...WHY IS THE 3 YEAR OLD TODDLER SHOUTING MORON IN YOUR FACE TO START WITH?

TIME OUT OR GOOD OLD FASHION WHIPPING MAY ADJUST HIS ATTITUDE.

REALLY HES ONLY THREE....WHO'S INFLUENCING THE TODDLER?

Answer 8

doesnt ANYONE believe in the school of discipline, and consequence, anymore? Whack their little bum with a switch and they learn consequense! Voila! Hey, a child only has two chances to learn discipline....from their parents, or from life....life hits a helluva lot harder than a child's parents ever will. But you could always go with this horribly screwed up society and blame the child's downfall later in life on circumstance, rather than accept what is. Have a nice day.

Yeh.

Answer 9

Discipline in this case would be very appropriate. Especially coming from a 3 year old.

Answer 10

well i have a 3 year old granddaughter that calls me a dummy all the time and a grandson that is 5 that calls me the b word and i yell at them all the time and it dose not do me any good. so when they want me tobuy them something i tell them no cause you remenber the names you said to me and they say mamaa i am sorry and i said maybe next time i will get you something when you stop calling me names

Answer 11

Put her in the corner....and do it now. Control what comes out of her mouth now or the next time she says something it will be worse. You also need to find out where she heard such a thing at the age of three.