Hey there Seniors..do you have any advice for me? :)?

Question

I bond very easily with Senior citizens..I volunteer with them weekly and I adore my grandmother. When I was a teenager I thought I knew everything and the rest of the world was ignorant and clueless..but now that I'm 21 I realize that what I know is very little..and when a Senior talks I better listen or risk missing valuable words of wisdom..

So do you have any life advice for me..or is there anything you wish you knew at 21?

Thanks and God Bless!!!!!

Answer 1

Don't be rushing to tie yourself down. Leave marriage and a family until (well) after you have gotten out into the world and experienced it.

If there is something you particularly want to do with your life, or somewhere you want to go, then do those things NOW while you have the freedom to pursue them, and the health of body to enjoy them.

If you jump into marriage and parenthood now, and think you are going to fulfil your dreams as well, you are definitely NOT seeing the world as it is. Husbands take a lot of time (I'm sorry guys, but it's true) and effort to maintain. Children even more so. After you have spent the majority of your energy taking care of them, you just will not have enough left for yourself to pursue those dreams.

My particular dream of becoming a Medical Researcher fell by the wayside TWICE--once when I first got married and my new husband insisted that we relocate because that was what he wanted to do--and the second time because I had to dedicate what time I wasn't working to support my newly divorced family, to my youngest daughter who was having a psychological crisis of her own, and acting out by running away and doing drugs and having promiscuous sex (she was 12).

Fulfil those dreams, and have those adventures NOW. Don't wait until they are irrevocably cast away because of life changes.

Answer 2

Not all things that look good to you are good for you.
Patience will serve you well.
Self-control is gold in your life.
Be careful of what you ask for, you may get it. Ask God for health and help. If He grants that, everything will be taken care of.
The key to good relationships (friends or love interests) is understanding and trust. If you don't have those, you don't have a lasting relationship and should not waste your time.
Look before you leap.
Do no harm.
Keep on learning every day.
Don't worry about what others think of you. Remember Jesus was the only documented perfect man and look at what they did to him.
Change the bad things in life that will come your way, if you can.
If you cannot change the bad stuff, put it in God's hands, through it out of your mind and go on about your business.
If you are the worrier type, set aside 1/2 hour a day and refuse to spend anymore time on it. 95% of what we worry about never happens or resolves itself.
Don't end relationships when you are mad. Wait until you are calm and make 2 lists. One for the good and one for the bad.
Then make a 3rd list of which of the bad you can or cannot live with. THEN AND ONLY THEN make your decision of whether to end the relationship.
Remember God loves you, even when you are convinced no one else does.

Answer 3

My dear, you have received so much wonderful advice.
If I were you, I would print all of it out and read it all at least once a week. That way it is always fresh in your mind.
I personality, would take all these wonderful answers with me when I go hiking-love my mountains of the AT-find a great view and read them aloud. A spot on a beach or other natural spot is great too.
You state that at your age you know very little; Guess how much more you will know when you reach our age? A lot more then we do now-that is the way life is.
I sat on a ridge one day and wondered why I had been born, why was I here. Looking out at a view,that words can't describe, I then knew- To add my own color & be part of this great master piece.

Answer 4

If you plan to do a genealogy, get the information now. I wish I had the interest when my Uncle F. was living (lived to be 102) and had a great mind even then. I got some info from him and my 86 y o aunt (passed on) but I wish I had picked all my family's brains and collected pictures that are all but gone now.

Always know that you can learn from anybody whether they are your age or a senior citizen.

May God bless you too!

Answer 5

I learned the value of education. My own parents never valued it and I was allowed to drop out of school at 17 and I thought hard work alone was enough. When I was 58, I lost the job I had for nearly 20 years and I went back and got my GED and it was something I'd always wished I had done sooner. I encouraged my kids and they both graduated college and are doing well-in fact the one is retired now herself. There are many losses in life-loss of people, loss of money, loss of health and loss of energy-but one thing you can never lose is education and knowledge. It's the one thing that lasts forever and continuously grows. My life isn't bad now, but I often wonder what it would have been like had I known this sooner.

Answer 6

You actually are a smart, smart gal if you have come to value the wisdom of older people at the age of 21.

You are right on track. To keep yourself humble and open to the wisdom of others is very commendable.

The only thing I wish I had known at 21 is that, I could trust the entire bible as the true word of God! I don't mean to push my faith on you *smile*...but if I had known that then, I would have avoided alot of trouble in life.

Best wishes to you, I think you have a great attitude.

Answer 7

I too love listening to seniors talk, even if you can't understand all of the words that they are saying, just to sit and listen to them means the world to them. I not too long ago ran into a really sweet senior woman and even though I couldn't quite understand everything that she said I was kind enough to just sit there and let her go on and on, and when I got up and left I told her it was a joy to have visited with her. The friend that I was with inquired as to what she was talking my ear off about and I told him I didn't know but I knew that it would make her feel good just to let her talk.

Answer 8

I wish I had had more direction from my parents. They didn't encourage me to go to college, or pursue any profession. It wasn't until much, much later that I went to college.

I also wish more than anything in the world that I had kept taking piano lessons or music lessons of any kind. I play piano fairly well, but I would love to have had a career as a musician playing in an orchestra. If not a musician, a geologist! Yes, I have always loved rocks, mountains, etc. I have more rocks in my back yard from all my camping trips. Hope I never have to move!

Answer 9

Yea. Graduate from college BEFORE you get married.
Realize that, at age 21, the rest of your life you are going to slowly grow older and weaker.
Realize that, when you do exercise every day for the rest of your life, of which is stretching, aerobics, and weightlifting, you will STILL grow older, but you will age VERY SLOWLY.
Realize that every one around you will be a physical wreck when THEY get older, while YOU will will be strong and healthy, when you get older.

I am age 55.
Best senior advice? Look up Jack LaLanne on the internet, and on Yahoo news. He is 93....

Answer 10

Hi Golden Girl..I'm not a senior in fact I'm only 24 years old, but I have learned and experience a lot in my life just this short time. The advice I would give you about being 21 is have fun, and don't take things to seriously. Now is a good time to start thinking about your future (career wise) and really search deep within yourself to find out what your passion and purpose is in life. It may not come easy, set aside some Silent time daily and listen to your inner self. Also Please listen. Lots of ppl in their 20's don't like to listen or take advice. Listen to what your grandmother tells you and parents. You don't have to figure out everything on your own. Being in your 20's is great, I have learned a lot about myself and Life! Hope this helps!