My husband is over in Iraq for a year & he wants me to send him very explicit pictures of me over the camera phone ( of...u kno what). But i dont feel comfortable doing it. I know he is my husband but who knows who will get ahold of them or who will see them. he says he will show noone, but im am still very scared to. I feel so bad cause he is away for that long but i dont know if he would show anyone or not. i doubt it but you NEVER know. What should i do?
2007-06-12 07:33:40 · 36 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-06-12 07:42:05 · update #1
That "little piece of heaven" that has influenced the decisions of kings, princes and president's is yours and his to admire on your own time and in the privacy of your home or where ever you decide to display this little gem.
Tell him forget pictures.....if he thinks he may forget what it looks like tell him you'll be sure that he is well re-aquainted with it upon his return home.
Hey...worse comes to worse...those babies are all over the internet. Seek one out that is very similar in appearence to thine own and send it as a counterfiet.
2007-06-12 07:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe how many people are saying don't send it. Your husband is over there fighting for us, and is undoubtedly very lonely. I think you should be flattered! At least he is still wanting to see you, and not someone else! He wants to remain faithful to you while he's over there, but he needs some kind of stimulation. Why not get it from the woman who supposedly loves him? I think it would be a nice gesture on your part to show him how much you miss him and really want him. Who cares if others see it, you're his wife not anyone elses, so it would make them jealous of him, he'd be a hero! And that's even if he showed them. He's already told you that he wouldn't, and as his wife I would think you would trust him a little more. Especially given the fact that he's fighting for your freedom. Something could happen to him while he's over there, and God forbids if it does, wouldn't it be nice to know that while he was here you gave him a little bit of happiness? The war over there is horrible, there's no telling what atrocities he's seen. He just wants to see his wife naked, what's so wrong with that? You're gonna do what you want to anyway, but I think if you don't do it, he might get mad and start looking for another woman who will fulfill his fantasies. Then he can say well he wasn't getting any support from you so he had to get it from someone. Think about that. Don't be such a prude.
2007-06-12 07:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how you feel and of your concern that others may come into possession or see those photos. Mayb compromise for now and send him one in a short skirt and low cut blouse to start and see if you feel more comfortable in less. If he comes home on leave you can let him take some photos there in your house, print them up there and choose which ones he gets to take. Also warn him what will happen to him if they get out (make something up, but include cutting off his penis even if you would never do such a thing)
2007-06-12 07:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him some picures of you in a miniskirt, or short-shorts and a halter top, but don't go any further. You are right to be worried about who may see the intimate photographs. When he asks for more, tell him there is no one who can take these pictures except him. That ought to stop the requests . . . . Ask him who is supposed to take such photos -- the boy next door? Good luck sweetie. I hope he comes home to you.
2007-06-12 07:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should trust your insticts... even if he doesnt pass your photo around, somebody else might get their hands on it.
Instead of extreme close-ups of your boobs & genitalia, I would suggest photos of you in sexy outfits, but not nude. What you're comfortable with other people seeing (but hopefully being impressed with "damn, your wife is hot")
But stay covered & you wont be portrayed as the skank you are not.
* my husband was in the navy & I had fun sending him sexy photos most days... they were all PG-13 rated, instead of R or XXX... mystery & imagination is a good thing. If he wants to look at nudity, I'm sure they have the magazines & movies over there for that.
He will probably really appreciate a simple pic of you smiling or looking sultry in some sexy outfit.
2007-06-12 07:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since he is your husband not just a boyfriend I would say that would be ok. He probably misses you and being away so long needs something to satisfy his needs. I seriously doubt since he's your husband that he would show other guys pictures like that. Guys are very territorial about things like that involving their woman.
2007-06-12 07:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with AngieC. I was in the Navy in Desert/Shield and Storm. We didn't have acess to email or any kind of phone pics but I know some guys that did get photos via the regular mail from their wives dressed in some very provacative outfits. The ones I knew that got them didn't pass them around but it also wouldn't surprise me if it happens. Trust me, he will appreciate those kinds of photos just as much if not more.
2007-06-12 07:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by onlyme78729 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1.) Tell him how you feel - you are uncomfortable taking pictures of your 'self' and sending them across the Internet to his government owned email account. 2.) He should respect that. 3.) He might not like it, and he might be so lovesick that he REALLY would like to see that part of you, but it shouldn't be what keeps him hanging on. If it is, he needs to talk to the chaplain or someone.
Maintaining the marriage relationship will be difficult with him over there and it's important that you two stay focused on the parts that don't go away with distance - the support, the love, and the devotion - not the anatomy.
2007-06-12 07:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it....What are you scared of ?? Its not like facing a firing squad. Trust your husband if he says he won't show anyone than trust he won't. Hide your face, it would probaly turn him on even more to see a hood over your head. Than go for it girlfriend, give that man the best show he has ever seen!!!! Who knows you may even enjoy it, go with it. I have been married 20+ years and when ever my husband wants to try something new, I go with it and most times it turns out I enjoy it... remember men LOVE to see us touching ourselfs, he knows you are while he's gone so show him what your doing.
2007-06-12 07:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by No Drama for this Queen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I just got back last year from that **** hole, I say send him a photo of you in a very hot oufit posing sultry and sexy if you feel uncomfortable with erotic or nude.
He just wants to have "mental" intimate dates with you.
Believe me, if you don't, there are plenty of women over there that will drop thier BDU's and give him the real thing. I say it says something about him that he is turning to you before getting a quickie from one of the female soldiers over there or one of the female contractors.
Just send a sexy picture of you in a nice short dress and he will be happy
2007-06-12 07:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by j g 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋