hey i am 14 yrs old almost 15 nad i am pregnet i think i am 3 months along and i haven t told my mom me and my bf are scared we dont kno what to do. i wanna tell my mom but then she will never let me see my bf again. we were being careful while having sex but his condom broke i am scared. and i love my bf and i dont want my mom to make stop seeing him. and he already said he would help with the baby when it comes
2007-06-12 07:13:46 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
by the way my boyfriend is 16 and he has a job to help support the baby when it comes
2007-06-12 07:34:35 · update #1
All three of you should sit down a have a talk together about this. You will need your mom's help too.
2007-06-12 07:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by twinkie.2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, as a parent, I have to say that having sex at your age was not the smartest thing you could have done. So, having said that, I think you should bite the bullet and talk to your mom. Let her know that he is being supportive, and you would like to give it a chance. Also, make sure that you are ready to have a baby. At 3 months, you can't hide it for very much longer. So, you might wanna just tell her. I'm not saying it's gonna be easy, or that she's gonna be okay with it. But at this point, there's not a whole lot anyone can do about it. Just try to be mature when you talk to her, and maybe things will work out. In the meantime, and the future, quit having sex until you KNOW you are ready for the consequences. I'm not gonna lecture you, cause it sounds like you've got enough on your plate, but in the future, try to be more responsible. And at 14, you might wanna consider adoption. You've got your whole life ahead of you. It's not impossible to raise a child at your age, but you have to decide if it's worth giving up what's left of your childhood.
2007-06-12 07:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
TALK TO YOUR MOM! What is wrong with kids these days. I was pregnant at age 16 and i told my mom that night. I cared enough to know that if there was a baby inside me i needed to see a doctor. You can really harm your baby if you do not get prenatal care. DO SOMETHING and CLOSE YOUR LEGS... Harsh? Maybe... but I was a teen mom. Your mom will be your biggest support. I am thankful she was tehre for me during my pregnancy... its scary. You have to talk to everyone involved.
Also... you have many options.. know that a 16yr olds job will not be enough to raise a child. I work for AT&T and i live paycheck to paycheck with my parents. Its not easy and it is not always fun. Babysitting is so much different because you can give the baby back. Please don't look at this lightly. I know the trials and i was 18 when i had my daughter. I graduated high school and i have a great job, a car, health insurance, all the things i need except my own place because child care is $140 a week. $168 for a newborn... think about that. Diapers $25 a box that lasts for maybe 2 weeks... Clothes... they grow fast. shoes.. socks... food! you need to be rational... you need your mommy
2007-06-12 10:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ang3l-Uh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to find out if you really are pg. There are groups out there to help you. Look up Parenthood in the phone book get on the internet for Social Services . Dont panic you might just be running late.
Honey dont believe everything he says about helping you when the baby comes. Some men have a bad memory when the time is here. They tend to leave you to face the problem while the y go out with the guys to find a new girl friend. I hope your BF is not like that. You are going to tell your mother I know you are afraid , but after the big blow up I bet she will stand by you and help you. Give her the chance for the babys sake.
do you belong to a church or synagogue there is help there believe me, you have to get help for the baby.
Lots of luck dear let us know what happens
Love JULIA G
2007-06-12 07:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girl who said it is too late for an abortion is wrong, first of all. Secondly, the sooner you tell your mom, the easier it will be to sort things out. Not telling her will put you in a deeper hole. You have the right to make any decision you want about your body, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you wish to keep this baby, by all means, do so. If you are not sure, assess your other options. This is a very difficult situation, and you need the help of a parent, teacher, or someone older.
2007-06-12 10:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I hope the guy is legal at least. Are you sure you are preg? Get an over the counter test ( double pack). Do 1 test one day, wait 2 days use other test.
If neg. , consider it a lesson learned.
If pos., you must tell a parent, counselor, or some adult that you trust. At 14/15 you will not be able to do it alone or w/ BF. Do not count on him for the long term. No one at your age stays together forever, no matter what you think. I am glad he seems mature enough to want to help and stand by you. I hope that continues. If you are preg., esp at your age, you will need med care. I wish you very much luck and Blessings.
2007-06-12 07:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by tacmedwarrior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her. Just don't be scared. Everything will turn out ok but you need to tell her so you can go to the doctor and make sure everything is ok with you and the baby. Also I don't think that she will not let you see your boyfriend, he is the babies father and your mother knows that it is his responsibility to help you raise and take care of this baby. Your boyfriend and you should get together and make up a plan. Where you are going to live. Who is going to pay for what. What the baby will need once it is born. What kind of help you will need. What kind of outcome you would like to have for you and your family. Include that you would like to finish school and need daycare of some sort and that you would like to go to college. Then sit your mother down and talk to her. Tell her that you are pregnant but that you have a plan and show it to her and tell her where you need help and so on. It shows that you are responsible and know what you have to do to succeed to be a good parent and a successful adult. Good luck and congrats!
2007-06-12 07:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Supermommy!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling her is the option. You won't be able to hide it from her for long, it will only get worse then. She will be mad you were hiding it and deceiving her all this time.
As for him, he has to start spending and saving his money to take care of you and the baby. You two have just learned a lesson that real life happens when you act like adults.
Just in case, you might have to be ready to lose him. Since he's staying together with you, it's probably best if he's there with you when you tell your parents. He needs to take a stand and accept his responsibility. No matter how scary or how loud it gets, he needs to do that for you. Same thing when he tells his parents about it.
2007-06-12 09:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Michael M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame that at 14 you have this responsibilty. But now you have to realize that by having a child, childhood is over and you are now a parent whether your mother likes it or not, do not do anything you will regret. Let me tell you from experience, that all family and friends will try and separate the two of you or try and advise, stick their nose in or tell you how to parent be strong. If I were you the best start for you and your boyfriend is to both work ( you as long as you can) get a small apartment and then tell then the news, do yourself a favor and immediately take control of your life and the situation or it will be pure hell trust me I know.
2007-06-12 07:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, if you are really 14 and pregnant you need to talk to your mother. How do you think that you and your boyfriend will take care of this child? You will need help and lots of it if you plan to keep this baby. That should be your first concern not whether or not your mother will let you see your boyfriend.
Please talk to your mother and a counselor whether it's a counselor at school, planned parent hood, your priest, rabbi, etc... some other adult who has experience in this area. You are not going to get the answers you need on the Internet except maybe to find a counselor in your area if there is no one you can turn to.
2007-06-12 07:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl F 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be upfront and honest with your mom. It may be a tough conversation, but your honesty will pay off in the end. Since you are so young, you will need your mom's help in taking care of the baby so that you can continue going to school. Explain to your mom everything you wrote in the question and convince her that you and your boyfriend are ready and willing to handle the responsibility of a child. If you aren't, you might want to explore other options, like adoption. Talk to your mom about all of these things, and her advice will help you make the right decision. In the meantime, check with your local Planned Parenthood office (www.plannedparenthood.org) as they offer counseling and guidance and someone that will just be there to listen and help you through this ordeal. Good luck!
2007-06-12 07:20:50 · answer #11 · answered by MILF 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋