Just recently my fiance's brother began going through a divorce, is not yet legally seperated no paperwork has been started but wife has moved out.
He has began dating a new girl, who has just plopped right in where his wife left off, taking care of their infant son, cooking, cleaning etc. And while I do like this girl, I do not support their relationship I feel it needs to be put on hold until the divorce.
My issue is, they have only been seeing each other a month, and I am feeling jealous that she gets to spend so much time with my nephew when I used to babysit all the time-now she does. She is sending my MIL pictures of our nephew, emailing, etc.
I know I am being stupid, but it is frustrating and im not overly upset about it...more upset about the fact that it even bothers me!!
2007-06-12 06:54:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol, oh my goodness...ok nevermind!! No I do not have feelings for my fiances brother! And no I am not jealous of her! I am friends with her! But I do not think it is right to just bring other women into his son's life when he isnt even divorced yet! Especially since it most likely won't last, why have your son make an attachment to all these different women if your not sure they will be around forever?
2007-06-12 07:03:43 · update #1
You are engaged and will be married and have your own baby soon. Spend more time with her and get to know her better - you might find a great friend. She must be a good person to help your BIL like that when he truly needs the support. Remember that they will be your family and don't create any situations you might have repercussions from later on!
2007-06-12 07:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand. It's just not an easy thing to deal with. I am happy for him that he has found love again......but at the same time its like she just took over something that isn't hers. Not yet any way. He should really have waited to get so serious and let the dust settle. But when it all comes to it, and this is the most frustrating part, is that you have no control over any of this. So, try to accept it and be friendly with the current girlfriend just to keep the peace in your family. Best of luck!!!
2007-06-12 07:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your feeling don't matter, do they? She is sleeping with your fiance's brother and she has control. If you want to be a part of your nephews life, right? What choice does it leave you? Play her game.
2007-06-12 07:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by mktxlady 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You said it yourself Allyson. You're being stupid. Knock it off. If this crap eats at you you'll be up the creek without a paddle if something major takes place.
Let it go for chrissakes.
2007-06-12 07:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you sure your not jealous of her in general?
do you have feelings for your fiance's brother? I'm not accusing, but from the details you gave that is what it sounds like you are really jealous of.
2007-06-12 07:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by CJ&Drewsmomma 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes you seem like you are being very selfish and immature. You know the relationship won't last, just hang tight.
2007-06-12 07:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Grow up.... If your brother-in-law is happy and trusts her that is his business not yours.... You could always ask to visit with your nephew
2007-06-12 06:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by To The Point 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
grow up and get over it.
or does she have what you want? be honest with yourself
2007-06-12 06:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋