but am afraid of doing sex bcoz of pain
2007-06-12 06:34:16 · 12 answers · asked by Ar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
are u a virgin? if you are it will probably hurt no matter wat.. but if you really want to have sex dont think about it if you are thinking of the pain it will hurt more no matter how many times you have sex.. just lose your self in the moment
2007-06-12 06:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be caused by couple of things -
1) dry vagina (use lubricant like kyjelly)
2) still intact hymen (would need a gyne to remove it)
3) other issues (need to see a doc)
4) not know how to do it .... it happens with indians who indulge in sex mostly after marriage.. they dont know how to do it and either go too slow or too fast. You will get used to it and will find a pace that suits you and your partner. Try different ways.
5) Doing it when you are not in the mood.... vagina becomes lubricated when there is foreplay involved. Ask your husband to be romantic and watch a romantic movie or whatever that stimutes you.. once you are in the mood, there will be less or no dryness/pain and you both will enjoy more.
2007-06-14 11:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first of all recommend to visit a doctor about this and research it on the internet to make sure you do not have a medical problem.
Sometimes if you are nervous or are not relaxed enough the muscles down there can be tight causing pain. Are you comfortable with your partner? Do you engage in foreplay? If not then you need to to make sure you re relaxed and turned on - when you are turned on the vagina readily accepts the penis bying being relaxed (open) and lubricated (wet). Do you get wet before intercourse begins? This is very important, if not as I said before you need more foreplay (fingering, going down on you, caressing, whatever it takes) or if that doesn't work then you might need some lubrication (KY jelly).
Good luck!
ps considering your husband is Indian, if he is like all other middle eastern men, he probably doesn't care much about how much youare enjoying sex, he needs to be taught and commincated with so that you have better lovemaking.
2007-06-12 07:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lovers' manual and practise slowly.
Lots of foreplay and only have sex when you're ready and really want to. If you and your husband make a pact to do "everything but" then as likely as not you'll be so turned on you'll end up doing it and enjoying it a lot more. Unless there is a medical reason (have you had yourself checked out recently?) then it's probably just nerves and the more you stress about it, the worse you'll be.
In all seriousness, a glass or 2 of wine beforehand might help you both relax too.
Best of luck
2007-06-12 06:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by pinkjil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go see your gynecologist. You may have a condition called vulvadynea, which causes pain during sex. You may also just have a small bacterial infection which is causing pain. Either way, the doctor could help you out by examining you and determining the cause of the pain, and then she will prescribe antibiotics or creams to help get you better.
2007-06-12 06:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor. Painful intercourse is one of the symptoms of STDS. Your husband might also be cheating on you and gave you an STD. I'm not being mean, because this has happend to me. Go get it checked out, because sex is not susposed to be painful, weather you're a virgin or not!
2007-06-12 07:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it relatively is the way of existence, do no longer shame him, yet attempt in all of the techniques you are able to to maintain the expenses down. do no longer upload extravagant issues to the marriage; insist that your loved ones no longer make it extra complicated on him the two. One thought, yet i'm undecided it could be proper. What in the adventure that your dad or mum provided some funds for the marriage, could he settle for that? it could desire to be your funds coming to him out of your father and mom? yet perchance that could shame him additionally, i don't be responsive to your way of existence.
2017-01-06 11:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by bianka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does this have to do with adolesence? If you really are a married woman, which I doubt highly, you have no business posting sexual questions here. Take this question to the married/relationship section. Why did you post it here? I don't think you're really an adult.
2007-06-12 07:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
See your GYN. There are medical conditions that could be causing that pain, all of which can be treated.
2007-06-12 06:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let him go gentle and if it hurts that bad then tell him to stop and gradually work your way up to complete sex.
2007-06-12 06:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by yourrad_letsmakeout♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋