i was married for 10 years and i hear over and over from guys that once you get married it all changes and the woman stops wanting it.......well in my case that was never true.....we had sex a minimum of 3 times a week the entire marriage.......so i want to know what makes it change or if it really does since it never did for me
2007-06-12 05:58:11 · 29 answers · asked by IM ALLERGIC TO LIARS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ps i am divorced now because i was married to a retard...hahaha but our sex life was never a issue
2007-06-12 05:59:53 · update #1
That was never the case with me either.....And I also got divorced for the same reason....lmao!
2007-06-12 06:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. For me the day we got married was the end of oral sex. And then I lost my job and there was no sex. I held a grudge for a long time about that and it happened less over the years. So It depends on how well you stay together. I think one goes hand in hand with the other. Open honest lines of communication. Fools rush in where others fear to tread. Being married is hard work. If you two are committed it will be fine, just work hard and stay active in your lives. Sex can be the Icing on the cake.
2016-05-18 01:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine changed dramaticly...we had a baby right before we were married so naturally my sex drive went kaput.
I'm only 22 and he is 25 but we don't have sex nearly as much as we used to. It went from 4-5 times a week to maybe 1 time every 2 weeks or so.
we have a 15 month old baby now that sleeps in my room (in his crib) and no, contrary to what others think the baby has nothing to do with my drive, it's just something I lack, I guess.
2007-06-12 06:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by CJ&Drewsmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our sex life has changed yes. It has been 15 years and I'm no longer that interested in sex. It has nothing to do with my husband, I'm just tired all the time and would rather sleep than have sex. We have two kids and I work full time. If you don't want the sex to change, then offer to do dishes or laundry once in awhile. Help your wife out. If she isn't so tired, maybe she will be more inclined to participate-lol.
2007-06-12 06:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by lori t.(works too much) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think in some cases it can go down hill, but i don't think it should ever be a problem. In my case it has gone pretty badly, but im a young mother of 15 month old twins, I just spoke to my doctor about it and she said a lack of sex life is common for young parents. So i guess it just depends.
2007-06-12 06:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's different for everyone. Depends on your age also. Some people get comfortable with their relationship and you find other things with your relationship that give you satisfaction other than having sex so much. If you were ever seperated from your spouse for a long period of time, you would find that it's not just the sex that you miss.
2007-06-12 06:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I choose not to have sex before marriage, SO heck yes it changed after marriage because we started having sex!
In all seriousness, the change occurred after the children, we have three now and the frequency has decreased but it is because by the time we get them all ready for bed and asleep we are too tired to do anything. Before kids we could have sex for breakfast lunch and dinner and on the kitchen table, but now it is behind our locked bedroom door.
2007-06-12 06:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A little. The quality of the sex got better (it was better with him than with anyone else before we got married, now our love life is stellar). But other than that, the frequency stayed about the same.
2007-06-12 08:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been together 7 years and have 2 children and for me yes it has changed dramatically and for the worse.But i think its mostly me.When you first get married its newly weds then after years of being together and dealing with kids,work,bills and everything that comes with it you sometimes tend to neglect sex.
2007-06-12 06:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I didn't have sex prior to marriage. So, it went from nothing to something. Even when we were going through our roughest most horrid fights we still had sex at least once a week.
But I understand how a sex drive could drop. Thrill of the hunt is over....
2007-06-12 06:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Complacency. Simple as that, most people become complacent that the role of trying (chasing) or teasing (flirting) in and out of the bedroom with one another becomes further and further between time. As time goes on we find ourselves in a routine of dullness, and no one generally will say to the other hey here I am!
2007-06-12 06:03:03 · answer #11 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋