Our marriage was over because of his addictions, and his final affair. Of the 20 years it lasted, 15 were so wonderful as to be off the scale ....., and the last three, in the depths of alcohol, depression and indifference... We divorced as friends...I left the state, And then he was killed. I remain angry that he destroyed our marriage (he admitted that), and still so torn with grief. Counseling hasn't helped, neither have anti-depressants... It has been two years... Does it ever end? Any suggestions?
2007-06-12 05:45:24 · 3 answers · asked by ladyren 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your anger is your own unhappiness that life didnot end up like you planned. it was not your fault. you were in a bad situattion that you could not control and you ended up with the loss of dreams. anger=frustration.
you must let loose of those origional plans and dreams and start with new ones. life wont be the same. but look for new hopes and dreams so you can adjust and plan a new/different future. your anger=frustration is based on a situation that you could not control. even the death, it happened and you have to live with it. had you been able to do something about it you would not be living with the anger.
2007-06-12 05:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear you are in this situation...I cannot even start to imagine how you must feel....!
If you have tried both counseling and anti-depressants, and 2 years have gone by, perhaps it's time for you to take another approach towards healing....I know many people do not believe in this, but here it goes anyway: Ask God to help you out. Really...From the bottom of your heart... Drop on your knees and BEG Him to put His healing hand on your mind, your heart and your body. He is the Ultimate Doctor, the Only One who truly knows you and who loves you even though He knows you are flawed....
The mixture of negative feelings you have right now are going to take its toll, and sooner or later you might even develop a serious illness...! Please remember we humans are a unit, made up of different parts..(.And if one part is sick , sooner or later it will contaminate the others....)
You have to be very careful, because these negative -and very powerful feelings- like anger, guilt, grief, pain can help you overcome things in a crisis; but if you keep them around for too long they will poison you from within.
I wish you well -and will keep you in my prayers. Please don't fall into the idea that God doesn't care or that He is pleased to see you hurting...That is not true....But His Ways and His Time are different from ours....Let Him guide you and heal you so you can be a happier, healthier person in the future. Trust Him....He is Love and Peace.
2007-06-12 13:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something you really enjoy and focus on that instead of focusing on your grief. Help other people and that will make you feel better.
2007-06-12 13:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋