My mom treats me with much love, she's nice and understanding. Sometimes I do'nt agree with her, she makes me do things I don't want to, she says it's out of love and I know it's true, but I'd rather not do them. Anyway, I don't fight much because I love her and I'm a good girl. I'm not so rebelious as many teens my age, when she tells me to do something I don't want to I complain but dont make a fuss and since she always says something like Hun, it's for your best, I love you and gives me a hug, I surrender, a bit frustrated but not resentful When someone trteas me with love it's hard for me to say no, especially to my mom. Some kids and even some adults say I'm weak and will never be a successful and independent woman, though I'm doing great at school. I must admit when I'm sad I liike wen I say mom, I'm sad and she comforts me with love, saying Oh hun, what happened, open your heart tome, I'm her for you. I gusee most teens don't do this. Am I really a weak girl?
2007-06-12 05:43:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Wow - do you know what? You sound like a STRONG person to me!
Let me tell you, it takes a strong person to button their lip when they don't want to do something; this shows strength of character and respect for the person who is asking you to understand that it's for your own benefit - even if it certainly doesn't feel like it at the time!
You are lucky to have an understanding mother who explains to you WHY she is asking you to do whatever it is. This could be why you are not a rebellious teen (yet! You have a few years yet to rebel ;-P ) - things have always been explained to you rather than a flat NO or BECAUSE I TOLD YOU SO and therefore you have nothing to rebel against!
It sounds to me like you are a sensible, intelligent young woman who is likely to grow up to have the strength of character to be a VERY successful and independent woman in your own right.
Please don't let anyone tell you otherwise! So what if you are quieter than most teens - some of them need to stop whining anyway!
But have you ever tried saying to your mum - "Okay, I'll do as you ask but it makes me feel (insert how it makes you feel, here!) and so can we talk about it before you ask me again, please?" - your mum sounds like she is very good at communicating with you and that you have a very close relationship with her, so she will no doubt see this invitation to discuss this as another sign of your growing maturity. Who knows, maybe she thought that, all this time, you were happy with whatever it is because you've never told her before!
I'd be proud to have you as my daughter !
Very best wishes.
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2007-06-12 05:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You're not a weak girl. You 'll see, learn, and understand as you get older why she had you do those things.
You're a good girl and respectful, don't lose that.
Your mom is teaching you to be an independent and strong adult in the future. To be a good member of society so you can be happy and able to take care of yourself when you're an adult.
Those who totally rebel and disrespect authority as teens are not being independent but foolish. They are the ones who end up trashy and irrespsonsible like Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan. No one truly respects or loves them at all. If you saw the news, you know how the public all over America was outraged Paris got out of jail only after 3 days.
Ignore those calling you weak. There will always be people in life putting you down. Dont' believe it, don't give in to their negative view of life.
2007-06-12 06:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweetheart, you are not a weak person you are simply caring & loving. I think it is wonderful that you appreciate people's love the way you do becuase most ppl take this for granted. If your grades are good & your heart is determined to do what you want to do you will succeed. The ppl that tell you your weak have no right. Your mother will not always be around but she certainly help u get your life on the road & help you stand on your own two feet
2007-06-12 06:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a weak girl, but actually very strong, because you do not succumb to the temptation to rebel against your Mother who loves you and only wants the best for you. You are also very lucky to have such a wonderful, caring, and kind Mother. People who say negative things to you may be jealous of the relationship you have with her. You don't need to be rebellious and fight against your Mother to be a "strong" girl. You will learn a lot from your her that you can apply to your life later. You are a special girl with a healthy, loving relationship with your Mom. Hold onto that and don't let people try to break that apart.
2007-06-12 06:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweetheart, you are not a weak person you are simply caring & loving. I think it is wonderful that you appreciate people's love the way you do becuase most ppl take this for granted. If your grades are good & your heart is determined to do what you want to do you will succeed. The ppl that tell you your weak have no right. Your mother will not always be around but she certainly help u get your life on the road & help you stand on your own two feet. You are a very sweet girl, & i wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-12 05:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No your not weak I am 14 years old and have acted like a kid in more than one way. A lot of the time I am really, really goofy, but when mom says baby what's wrong I always come clean and always feel better. Then I go back to acting like my old goofy self.....Those people who say you are weak are just trying to get under your skin and hurt you.As I was saying earlier I'm goofy but the reason I act goofy is to help with the hurtful comments people can say it always helps because before you can start hurting from the comments you start acting silly and you forget all about hurting.
2007-06-12 06:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by anomanous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ignorance of people often mistake weakness and respect. As long as you respect yourself as well as your mom you will do just fine in life. Just be sure that you don't fall into doing what ever a boy wants because he says he loves you. Its awesome you respect your mom, but remember to stand up for yourself towards others who may try to take advantage of you if they see how you don't make waves with your mom. You are a good girl and there isn't a thing wrong with that.
2007-06-12 06:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're definitely not weak! I'm the same way with my mom. And I'll tell you something, you should consider yourself lucky. Most teens don't have anyone to go to with their problems like you do. This makes them more prone to depression, drugs, smoking, and other harmful things. So just keep doing what you're doing and believe me you will be more than fine!
2007-06-12 07:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Duke Bball Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening to your mom is usually good advice. Sounds like she has figured out how to manipulate you very well.
Has she ever asked you to do something dangerous, or very embarassing? If not, I don't see much of a problem.
Now, you have to figure her out. You are getting older, and maturing, and someday will definitely NOT want to do what she says. [ wait for it ]. What does SHE respond to :
1] expressions of affectation - spoken, ' I love you '
2] works of service [ like chores without being asked ]
3] gifts
4] acts of affection [ hug, backrub ]
5] time with her
These are called love languages, and are great motivators.They will help you express yourself to the other person in a way that gets a positive response for both of you.
PS - when I was a teen, I kept waiting for my parents to get dumb, but mine never did! I did argue with them about some things, though.
2007-06-12 05:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not say you are week, but I do think that you are lucky. most teens don't have parents that care. I know some teens (myself included) who have been hurt by our parents so many times we don't want to talk to them about any thing. our parents make us do ALL the house work and do nothing themselves. they treat us like dirt. your mom cares for you and really loves you. that is something a lot of teens do not have. you don't have to be rebellious to be strong. and don't listen to any one who says that.
2007-06-12 05:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋