When I get older, I'm not sure if I want to work. I really want to raise a family. Its strange, but i WANT to have children, and cook and keep house. Is that so un-feminist?
2007-06-12 05:29:47 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you want to be a femenist?! I'd love a woman like you... hell im single.. drop me an email.
2007-06-12 05:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by beast9156 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being a mother and a wife is NOT "un-feminist." I love how people think it is a luxury for a woman to stay home and take care of her family. Not only is it a 24/7 job, but no one says thank you, no gives you a break, and you don't get sick or vacation time. I would love to be able to get a job and get out of the house a couple nights a week and earn some money too.... but you will do what is right for your family when the time comes
2007-06-12 05:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feminism is about equality. Can you feel equal and productive in a traditional housewife role? Absolutely! Your marriage and your life are what you make of them. Raising children is still the most important job. If you can find a partner that wants to live this life with you than by all means, go for it. I have four children, I cook and clean. I will say that I've kept a sense of career all along and as my children get older I have more time to devote to it. My career is important but I felt I had to really plug in and devote time to my children. I would never trade that time. My children are happy and well adjusted and they enjoy seeing me do what I love to do. My advice is to keep something of your own. Being a housewife and mother is rewarding but moms need a break and something to focus on besides husband, kids and home! Good luck :)
2007-06-12 06:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to and are able to then that's great. I have done both. I started out working for a while and when my hubby started working a better paying job then I started staying home. I love it, I love having a nice homemade dinner on the table for my husband when he comes home (he loves it too!) I have more time to experiment with my cooking/baking another thing my huband loves as well. I feel that for me, at this time, that it is the best thing. My kids will only grow up once and I didn't like the idea of some stranger at a child care being the one to share their moments growing up. It would have killed me if the kids had taken their first steps, spoken their first word at daycare. Some people don't have that option and need both incomes to make it work, there is nothing wrond with that either and they love their children and husbands just as much. It depends on your preference. It maybe a little old fashoined but there is nothing wrong with it. If you are able to do it and your husband and you agree then do it, have fun!
2007-06-12 05:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a perfectly logical thing and no you don't sound anti femanist. Many women want to stay home and raise their children, cook , clean, and watch the children grow and trust my hun that is a full time job in itself! If you can afford to by all means PLEASE do. I worked in the child care industry for twelve years and I would NEVER want to put my child in day care and then you have people like the Schwade's who trusted a babysitter and now their baby is fighting for its life in PICU unit because the babysitter shook him, so yes stay home enjoy the little moments with the little ones and don't worry what anyone says you are better than that.
2007-06-12 05:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're definitely not being old-fashioned. I think being a mom is the best job a woman can have. My advice to you is to get a decent-paying job and save up money for as long as possible. Then, when you actually start having children, hopefully you can quit your job and take care of them. That's my dream and all I can do is try my best to make it work out. I will probably still do something at home to make money on the side.
2007-06-12 05:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Garnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Most of us have to work and do the cooking and cleaning and raising the kids (and some of us even do the yard work and home repairs). I think a lot of women would like to just be home with only those responsibilities if we could. You gotta remember that we've been raised to do this ever since we were kids...playing with babys that peed, having little household toys like tiny brooms and stuff...and wearing dress up clothes like mom wears and having play makeup (remember tinkerbell makeup?)..it all teaches us what society thinks women are supposed to be like. We are just born to be nuturing, loving people anyway! (even though some do not stay that way). I see absolutely nothing wrong with that!
2007-06-12 05:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. Its not un-feminist... Feminism is just about the advancement in rights for woman. It that is what you want to do go for it. I hope you are able to be a stay at home mom.
2007-06-12 05:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mind may change about wanting to work; or it may end up being a financial necessity (as it is in so many households today - with or without children).
But to answer your question, you're not "old-fashioned" nor are you being anti-feminist. You're being traditional. There's nothing wrong with your feelings, as long as your living situation can SUPPORT your chosen lifestyle.
2007-06-12 05:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a mother and to cook and clean, but be prepared for not having that choice.
Most families to require two incomes to survive. You may have to work to help support your family.
By the way, you do not have to be a working woman to support women who work. Even if you get the life that you are hoping for, that does not make you anti-feminist.
Take care,
Troy
2007-06-12 05:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And it's not anti-feminist, because the idea of feminism is for a woman to have ALL the choices, and for other women to respect that.
However, still get post-secondary education and start a career before you get married. I became a SAHM two years after we got married, but I had two degrees and lots of work experience.
2007-06-12 06:28:53 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋