I can't help feel broken. I've had my world crash in on me this past week and everything that was normal and secure has ended. Now, we are dealing with financial problems and worrying whether we are going to get past this. I am helpless in this because I can't work, I have two kids and no daycare or family to watch them. Plus the job my husband just got leaves him on call so I can't help but be supportive. But how do you heal your broken spirit when you can't even heal your family?
2007-06-12 05:10:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Most people go through rough times in their lives. You have to remember to put it into perspective. There is help out there with food, shelter, daycare (4C), utility bill assistance... lots of things. If you belong to a church, you can usually get aid for a utility bill or two from them. Even food. Catholic Charities has meals (depending on how desperate you are to feed your family). So, you won't have to worry about starving. It might not be the ideal at times, but there are ways to 'survive'. Sometimes, you have to stop worrying about how to get what you had and start thinking about what is truly important. It costs nothing to play with your kids. It costs nothing to smile and laugh and help your family see that everything is going to be alright, because it will be. Determine what you HAVE to spend money on and do without the rest for awhile. That's hard, i know, but it will help in the long run. You don't have to have faith in God, but you do at least have to have faith in yourself. I prefer God, but to each his own and just so long as you have faith to lean on, you'll be ok. Faith will give you the ability to stop worrying long enough to enjoy life. Yes, i've seen hard times. Yes, i've pulled through. It is possible. This is the richest country in the world -- toilet paper is a luxury in many other countries. We are in the land of opportunity -- there IS a way to succeed. You just have to look for it and work for it. It won't be overnight, but you will get there. I don't even know you, but i believe in you. :) What you have and how much you earn should never touch your spirit. How you live and love is who you are. Bills will get paid and the children will get fed. Some how. Some way. There are ways to have a job and have children with you. Offer to clean someone's house. Offer to drive an elderly person to the store. You don't have to have an 'employer/employee' job to make money honestly. I know lots of stay at home moms that bring in extra money for the family. Some go to yard sales and then resell on ebay. The possibilities are endless.. think about it. Good luck!! :)
2007-06-12 06:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people find strength in God, I don't know if it works for me, but I aways suggest it for others. I have seen it work.
As far as your current situation, don't be mad at me please, but I would suggest you look at your current situation, realize that this too shall pass, but let it hit hard to never be in such a situation again. If you had the kids before you could afford the kids, never make that mistake again. If you made bad choices by moving away from family or not going to college when you had the chance, don't make that mistake again. If you have the problem of having a nice, rims, cable, eating out, putting $100 shoes on your kids feet, stop complaining. If you truly are here because of a series of unfortunate events or something, hang in there.
2007-06-12 05:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. My family suffers terribly from financial problems as well. We just bought a house, and my mother is having a hard time paying it each month. But if she taught me anything, it's to have courage. Never let yourself think it's over because that's when you really feel broken and hopeless. Pull that courage from out of you, pick yourself up and think calmly about what to do. Look for every possiblity until you can't think of anything else. Worrying and thinking of the negatives won't help you, they'll only make you feel worse. I hope this helps.
2007-06-12 05:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Cassandra 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry sweetie.
There is help out there in form of food stamps and aid to pay things like electricity. Contact your state Human resources. It is only temporary help so don't feel bad about asking.
All you can do is keep going. One step in front of the other sweetie. Hold your head up and do what you can.
Have you thought about taking care of other peoples kids for money? it is just an idea.
2007-06-12 05:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said:
"Now we are dealing with financial problems."
"Plus the job my husband JUST GOT....."
If you have made it this far then the "JUST GOT" should take care of the former. Good Luck.
2007-06-12 05:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Bo Did 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray...ive been thru enough h*ll for 3 lifetimes so i can sympathize.. maybe when theyre in school it will get better
ive had half my voice for 6 wks which i need for my job
2007-06-12 05:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cry. and pray for clarity to get through the moment. I do cry allot.
2007-06-12 05:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pray 1st....read ur bible cuz it has all the answers....pray again...dont be afraid to cry and express urself....itll get better!!
2007-06-12 07:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by lovelykay_17 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋