my ex-boyfriend (baby's dad) doesnt like kids and wants me to get an abortion and im not going too.
I still love my ex and im scared for my baby not having a dad that loves them.
I want him to be there, but he has been ignoring me lately.
Any advice?
2007-06-12 05:07:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
After the baby you are entitled to sue him for child support. You didn't get pregnant alone and he needs to realize that. He could have been more responsible just as much as you could have. He can sign away his parental rights, but then he's got no entitlement to the baby at all either in child support or visitation. Make sure that you tell his parents, though - I'm sure they may like to get to know their grandchild.
2007-06-12 05:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mischele, RN♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you feel is best. You will be bringing up the baby yourself. He doesn't want to be involved. You may be able to get some support from him $$$ wise but don't count on physical involvement with the child.
Are you sure you aren't clinging to the fact that you still want him in your life and using the baby to leverage that??? Think hard and long about your decision to keep the baby. It will change your life. But it won't change your x's. He is sticking to his decision, I'm sure.
If not an abortion, how about adoption. Many couples want a newborn. You will give the baby and the couple a wonderful change at a stable happy life.
THINK ABOUT IT.
Don't be selfish.
THE GUY is out of the picture, and you can't MAKE HIM be in the picture. Financially, maybe, only !!!!
Just for the helluvit, why weren't YOU using protection, if the GUY doesn't want ANY KIDS ?????????????????
2007-06-12 05:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by MELANIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never try to force a man to be a dad it will only make the child emotionally screwed up.
You are able to do this on your own...trust me! Maybe he will come around after the baby is born and reality is here! Do not get an abortion to save you and him, that would be a mistake. You have a life inside you that is more important than any other person in your life. Ignore him, you and your baby will be just fine. File for child support when the baby is here.
2007-06-12 05:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweety, I was 21 when I had my son and with an abusive ***** (sorry). He would tell me that I would never find someone being a single mom, blah blah blah. I was a single mom for 6 years and played both mom and dad. My son is wonderful and I know I raised him right. I am 30 now and happily married to a man who is going to adopt my 8 year old son. Don't be scared sweety, there are plenty of loving men out there who will not only love you to death but also your child. Don't let your ex bully you into a decision you don't want to make, let him ignore you and try to move on. He is not worth your child's time anyway. Good luck and be strong.
2007-06-12 05:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was never very good with kids. He hated other people's children but he still kinda wanted one. When we had our son, the doctor handed the baby to him and he hasn't been anything but a great father. If your boyfriend can look at that baby and not fall in love with him, he doesn't deserve to be called a father. Why would you want your child around someone like that? Children just need to be loved, it doesn't matter who loves them. Don't get an abortion, you will regret it later in life.
2007-06-12 05:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it def sounds like you're pregnant. Take a deep breath. It will be ok. Infact, it's a natural occurance ;o) No matter what, there's nothing you can do about it right now. Maybe you are, maybe you aren't 50-50 chance. Just try to keep yourself calm. If you're pregnant, remember babies are a wonderful thing, maybe a little shitty with the timing, but still. You're not the only one, and you will find lots of people who will help and support you no matter what. Stay in there girly, no matter what, it will all be ok!
2016-05-18 01:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion:
You are always going to love your ex, no matter what. But when you are going to be a parent, nothing in this world matters more than that child. You need to let him know that the baby is the most importnant thing and he needs to decide what he wants and don't let it affect you. If he's anything like my boyfrind, he'll grow up and come around. Good luck and congrats on the baby, it's the most amazing thing in the world to be a mom!!!
2007-06-12 05:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want this child, don't listen to your ex. If he really didn't want children, he should've been more careful. Move on with your life and focus on your child. Take him to court and get an order for child support.
Just because a man is not your child's biological father, doesn't mean they can't still be a father. You may end up finding a man who will love your child like his own. Good luck!
2007-06-12 05:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by NYCLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to abort it?! Find some other guy that will care for the child as it were his own.... hes out there! Otherwise.... you wil do fine on your own! Its better than having a father that wanted the baby aborted!! There are a lot of children with single mothers that turn out just fine! Dont worry bout it...if he doesnt want to be in the childs life, then screw him! He dont deserve to be.... then one day, he'll come begging to be in the kids life when its older and you can say F off!!! Good luck!
2007-06-12 05:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi the first thing is to get over him. there will be a man that will love you. 2nd don't get an abortion. in the bible god says that to get an abortion is like killing someone that is all ready born. so don't get an abortion. when the baby is born sue him for child support. when suing him for child support make sure you state he sees his child to every so often.
good luck,
hope the best turns out.
2007-06-12 05:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋