My husband is a big kid but I need him to be a grown up and clean up after himself.We have 3 children I don't need a grown kid.Last night he vomited on the floor and told one of the kids to throw a towel over it.After yelling at him he went and cleaned it up then my son told him that he also threw up on the back of my kitchen chairs I got on to him again cause he knows Mondays I scrub my kitchenincluding my chairs I told him too.I thought he cleaned it up before he went back outside only for me to find it dried on there this morning.Been marrried 11 years so I got too much time invested in him to leave now.HeHe
2007-06-12 05:05:52 · 11 answers · asked by Linda101 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is keep reminding him (or as men say; nagging). As the woman of the family, he's looking for you to clean it up. I know how you feel but, just have a glass of wine and do the do. Other wise the fight will continue. Or just put all of his mess on his side of the bed, then he will clean it up.
2007-06-12 05:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh...hell no!!! You really have a problem on your hands for sure! He better be disabled to be doing stuff like that.
In sickness and in health is what the minister told us when I got married. But this has gone way beyond that. He has issues. Lazy........and obviously has not respect for you, the house or himself.
Stop cooking his meals...........make him do something for himself. I am wondering about his hygiene too. If he does not clean up his own vomit, does he wipe his own as$ or does he have one of the kids just put tissue on his butt to cover it up. I don't know how you do it. But I wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-12 12:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one, first and foremost I wouldnt 'scold' him infront of the kids, lol. But I would not do anything for him including his laundry etc... when he does not have clean clothes for work or all of his underwear are dirty maybe he will get the hint that he needs to contribute around the house and pick up after himself, trust me one day with out clean undies and he might just think twice about not cleaning up after himself. ;) Good Luck
2007-06-12 12:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by arottiluver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
threaten him!! if yelling doesnt work then tell him you will kick him out if he doesnt straighten up. Dont divorce him just make him get his own place and see how he lives there. Maybe after a few months of nobody cleaning his messes up he will change and clean up a bit by himself. Then you can let him move back in. :)
2007-06-12 12:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no way---you have what you have---more than likely growing up, he was never "made" to do anything (mama's boy)---And if you decided to leave, he wouldn't grow-up, he'd fine someone else to deal with the same thing you have to deal with
2007-06-12 12:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kasey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep yelling at him, and don't clean anything for him, let him clean it, I'm having the same problem but with my sisters, i have to yell at them for hours until it clean, i cut their TV, even light just to be sure they know who's the boss
2007-06-12 12:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewwwwwww, that's gross.
I don't care how much time you have invested in him.
Lay down the rules and tell him enough is enough or your leaving with the kids.
PERIOD.
2007-06-12 12:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 2 great boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He souns like a disgusting pig. Make him clean up behind himself or tell him that you are leaving.
2007-06-12 12:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by joyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew what you were getting stop trying to change him.... although the puking everywhere is really nasty but that's your husband so deal with it or move on.
2007-06-12 12:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by davmarti1234 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Next time he does it and doesn't clean it up, rub his nose in it. I bet he won't do it again.
2007-06-12 12:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋