so instead of getting a divorce and making the kids sad.....
I got my game on... I went out and hooked with a hot 24 year old....
My wife seen our sex tape that we made is freaking mad...
Now she wants a divorce....
All I did was get an eye for an eye....
Was I wrong?
And should my wife be mad?
she was the one that screwed around first.
2007-06-12 04:54:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I walked in on her in our bed one day when I got fired from my work...
talk about a bad day...
good thing I had been drinking.
2007-06-12 05:02:43 · update #1
I took picutres of her before I busted in the room.
2007-06-12 05:03:40 · update #2
we live in an apt... I drive an 85 ford and she doesn't have car.. We have no savings... She can have the TV I guess but the 19 color isn't that great anymore...
2007-06-12 05:05:41 · update #3
Women like to see themselves as morally superior.
She had an affair, but she had an excuse for it.
You had an affair and there is no excuse for it.
Her argument is an emotional argument not a logical one.
If she doesn't feel bad about its not bad.
Emotional arguments are both selfish and stupid.
My wife tries to sneak those in every now and again and I reply with, "I feel you are wrong."
If she continues I say, "Are you saying your feeling are more important than mine." The natural answer is "No", but in all truth emotions and feelings have no value in a logical argument.
2007-06-12 06:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So instead of getting a divorce you got your game on? Hmmm that doesnt sound so convincing to me. Hey you know what she was the one that made the mistake, or whatever yes she was wrong but why would you go out and makes things worse? You also made a sex tape, dude you are in so much deep ****! Do you know what is going to happen when you guys try to get divorced? She is going to pin everything on you as the cheater, you dummy now you have a sex tape what is wrong with you! She can turn around and will not admit to her fault and nobody is going to believe your ***!! now you are going to have to fight for everything you have! Did you not think before you acted? Oh wait dumm question YOU DIDNT!!!! Well good luck with your ugly nasty divorce you will need it!
I feel for your kids you didnt want to make them sad, but you made it sooo much worse...
2007-06-12 05:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think that was the best way to go about it. Now she has something to use against you in court. It might have been better if you just confrunted her and seperated for a bit... then you could have got your game on and she would have never known and you could just laugh about it in your head everytime you thought about it. I dont see why your wife has any reason to be mad. She did start it. But im a woman and know that I would be mad. Thats just how we are dont ask why. I have no Idea.
Sounds like you two should just make your peace and get over it all.
2007-06-12 05:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with you need to decide what you really want from all this! Is your wife likely to realise how much she's hurting you and what it can do to you all as a family? When trust is shaken like this it is quite a blow and it's hard to get back on track without help. You need to talk to her about it and try to get an honest answer as to what is wrong between you and whether you can resolve your issues or not. If you feel it isn't going to have a positive outcome then you need to plan your own life and what's best for the children. Sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids, isn't the answer. You can try counselling but she has to be committed to making it work or it's just delaying the inevitable break up. You have proof of her intentions should you wish to keep that in case of any divorce proceedings. Children do survive family issues so long as you make proper arrangements for them to see both parents and try not to make a battle field in front of them. Depending on their age, they need to understand none of this is their fault and that both parents love them.
2016-05-18 01:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your wife make a sex tape for you to see?
I think you went overboard, because you where hurt and angry. If you want a divorce then get one. If not, the both of you should apologize and move forward.
When you say you caught her cheating, was she with the guy in the act or did you see her talking to someone?
Men can be so dense sometimes.
Peace
2007-06-12 05:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude thats just wrong bro, I mean have some self respect man, leave the dumb broad kick some dirt in her face, then hook up with a real women that how you do it, the kids suffer more this way and you show no respect for them. Sorrry for being so blunt but I hope that chick was not married and had kids too.
2007-06-12 05:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Feeling Lucky? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have just gotten a divorce. OF course we all want to get back at the person who hurt us, and we are giving them a taste of their own medicine. However, you doing the same thing, which makes you just as bad as your wife. Both of you need to grow up, and think about the kids.
2007-06-12 05:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you pretty much screwed yourself there by making a tape cause that is evidence that you cheated on your wife unless you have a tape on her you just gave her the leverage on your divorce. so it was not a good thing you did in those situation an eye for an eye doesnt apply.... sorry dude good luck
2007-06-12 05:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have never stooped down to her level. U should have showed your maturity and been the bigger person. Yeah she has a right to be mad just like u have the right to be mad! I think it was selfish because u and ur wife put your kids in jeopardy.
2007-06-12 05:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really about wrong or right anymore. It doesn't matter if she cheated, it's not an excuse for you to do the same thing. But to each his own, you shouldn't have lowered yourself to her level & became a cheater.
2007-06-12 05:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋