My heart went out to you when I read your question. You deleted it, so I couldn't answer you. My dad did the same thing with my mom. He manipulated my sisters & I into not wanting to see her, while he was sending her nastygrams. He would tell us that she wanted to seperate us, or to "steal" us away from everyone.
I resent & sometimes hate my dad for what he did. Eventually we saw her again when she came to visit us. My dad stopped being an *ss when he found someone else.
My advice to you is to continue trying to talk to your daughter. Try to go down to see her. Make the visits through your mom/bro, since you do not want to have contact with your ex.
Don't force her. If you do, you run the risk of pushing her away from you, as well as giving your ex the chance to say more horrible things about you.
KEEP THE VOICE MESSAGES & CONTACTS THAT HE'S SENT YOU! You may need it for a legal battle, as well as proof later for your daughter.
Don't give up. I believe that you can make it work.
2007-06-12 04:30:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really hope you see this & since you don't have any other form of contact, this is the only way I could hope to contact you.
Get your mom & bro to talk to your daughter. Sometimes it helps.
I understand if you can't necessarily, since my dad worked over her family members as well. To everyone he was "the poor poor man who was dumped".
Now it is not the same. The truth eventually came out.
I have read letters that my dad sent my mom. I couldn't believe that he sunk so low. There were so many experiences in life that I could've shared with my mom that he stole from me.
It was my & my sisters' choice to alienate my mom for so long, but when you are that age, it's so very easy to be manipulated.
I am hoping that you can get back in contact with your daughter.
Gently try to talk to her- that's all you can do.
2007-06-12 04:33:47 · update #1
Thank you so much for your advice. I will keep rereading and follow it. I am sorry that I deleted my question. I felt bad posting after someone said that they were annoyed with me and was getting upset with me in one of the answers.
Thanks so much. I really appreciate it.
2007-06-12 09:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a very wise young lady. I will thank you for trying to help someone out the way you have.
2007-06-12 04:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
STAREYES, I to have been following our questions and the answers- do not give up on yourself or your daughter- just remember there are those of us here that WILL support you and try to give your encouragement and support. Just be strong and keep asking questions and we shall respond.
2007-06-12 13:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry 4 you
2007-06-12 04:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by racer_girl_500 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Stareyes, but I hope she sees this; it's good advice, especially about keeping evidence.
2007-06-12 04:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by M S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a big heart, Tokyo Girl. Thanks for being there for all of us. We are lucky to have you.
2007-06-12 04:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋