I have been seeing this guy for about three months but things have gotten kind of serious. I'm 29 he's 40. We have had lots of fun together and he has even met my daughter in which she likes him a lot. He had told me he was divorced and has two kids which I'm ok. Now the story has changed and he has been married twice and has a child by each woman. It took me a day but then I decided ok I wil deal with it. He travels a few days during the week having to go to both places that each ex wife lives one is re-married the other isn't. He has been acting weird lately and i had booked something that cost $200 for his b-day and we had an argument so he didn't go but paid me back the money. He was supposed to go on a trip with me and my daughter this weekend to the beach but now isn't going and we were goig to split the trip and I have charged the hotel on my card. I feel that something is not right with this guy and don't feel I should continue to date him. Any advice would be helpful.
2007-06-12 04:21:34 · 12 answers · asked by Venus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's carrying extra baggage that you really don't need to be straddled with. It could be that he is still married, or it could be that he is a " collector"... a guy who loves getting a girl's attention & interest, but when he does, he starts to move on to someone else. My guess is you are not his only " love" interest and he is trying to juggle two women.
2007-06-12 04:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 40, he has been around and has 2 kids with 2 different women.
At 29 with one child, one would think you would be more cautious. You already have the vision planned out in 3 months. That's desperate on your side without running a few tests and verifications. Why would you trust someone so much after a short time. It's like you are so disappointed because he is not what you fantasized him to be.
You can't take his word for granted. Otherwise, you are gonna have another child and he has 3 children from 3 exes to visit.
2007-06-12 04:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that "something isn't right", take your own advice and do not date him. Especially when this involves children. If you've only been dating him for three months and have put that much faith (and money) into him, then you really need to think about your priorities, first of all being your child.
You also say that "his story changed". Your first line says "he was divorced and has two kids". That's all you do need to know at this point. Perhaps after only dating you for three months he's not yet comfortable spilling every skeleton out of his closet to you. Or perhaps he's playing you. Who knows?
Also, when seeing anyone, man or woman, who is divorced and/or has children with someone previously, you need to be a little more cautious about the situation. It sounds like you're trying to control him and dive right in quickly without getting to know him. I'm not defending him, perhaps he isn't the right one for you - but what I'm saying is that this relationship is very new and you need to make a decision that's healthy for yourself, and your daughter. Best of luck.
2007-06-12 04:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your gut instinct. He is obviously hiding something from you. It may be that he is trying to hide his own baggage and doesnt want to scare you off or he is trying to pull a fast one. Either way he is causing disrupt in your own life. Do what you know is right for the long run for you and your daughter. Whatever choice you make, good luck.
2007-06-12 05:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Womanizer alert! Trust your instincts! He sounds exactly like my ex-boyfriend who lived with another woman the entire 3 yrs we were together and hid it from me about being vague about his whereabouts, traveling around a lot, and breaking plans that would tie him up for an extended period of time.
2007-06-12 04:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup! I think your gut is right. I do think he is hiding something. He probably canceled his B-day arrangement with you because, he probably is still married and was already tied up with his family. Try not to say anything to him about your suspicions, try seeing it with your own eyes. If he isnt doing anything bad. Dont let him know you miss trusted him and feel realeaved! But I feel thiere is something fishy going on.
2007-06-12 04:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Erika Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've answered your own question. if something just"isn't right" then it isn't. let him go. why live with the unknown in the back of your head. there's a reason he's been divorced twice.
2007-06-12 04:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
40?? get out! Sounds like he is hiding something. Men that old can't be trusted, especially if he has more than one baby mamma....
2007-06-12 05:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him quick!! He is living a double life. You should hire a private investigator if you have the money. If not contact cheaters and they will follow him for free.
2007-06-12 04:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by starbaby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suspect that he is still married to wifey #2.
Investigate
2007-06-12 04:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋