I have never been with another woman but my wife and I feel the urge to discover what its like with another woman, is it ok to try it once and satisfy my curiosity or just live in this depression that I will never know? can any lady out there help me?
2007-06-12 04:19:02 · 26 answers · asked by Cuz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's totally and competely wrong. It's one thing to think about sex with someone else cause im sure we all do but to actually want to go out and do it for real? You need to understand that you made a promise and a commitment when you married your wife, it's not her fault that your going through some odd phase and you shouldn't be going into "depression" because you will never know. Sex has the same ending result with anyone.. you get off and thats it. We all have the same parts, your not going to find a woman with a beer flavor vagina so realize that and realize that your lucky to have someone that wants to be there for you for the rest of their life! Think about it.. when everything in your life is all said and done who will still be there for you ?
2007-06-12 06:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by 7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for any person man or woman to wonder about this. Do you love your wife ,and other than this urge, have a happy marraige? Are there children involved? If the answer to those questions is yes then why would you risk what you have for something you have never had? I dont think the fact you have never been with another woman is the reason for you feeling depressed. There is obviously another reason for the depression and you think having a fling is the answer, its not. If your marraige is good and you love your wife maybe the reason your thinking about other women is because your sex life has got monotonous, boring and routine. Try spicing things up, ask your wife if she has a fantasy and make it happen. Woo your wife again, leave saucy notes to each other but dont fall into the trap that an affair will help your marraige woes it wont, it will destroy it. Do you and your wife get enough personal time together maybe thats the problem,if you have children a marraige can become all about the family and as a result the couple in the marraige can become just parents. Buy her flowers, leave a love note on the pillow when you leave for work, phone her just to say you love her and play the dating game like you did when you first met and finally try and get someone to take the children overnight so you two can get to know each other again.
2007-06-12 10:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side. Don't kid yourself that once will be enough. If your sexual relationship with your wife was still hot you wouldn't be thinking like this.
Before testing the water elsewhere do things to spice up your sexual pleasures with your wife.
If you both decide to try it only once be prepared for problems. One of you will have a great time and the other might not and then the problems start....
Think carefully about this. Good luck.
2007-06-13 02:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you go with another woman you will no longer want your wife all thr trust your wife has for you will be gone, you must realise that you cood break your marraige up if this turns into a fling with another woman.
does your wife not give you what you need from the relationship?
my boyfriend has never been with another woman bt me n a told him tht if he wantd t experiment we were over.
can you risk losing your wife over a sexual urge?
i hpe you come to ur senses and realise that yiour with your wife and another lady is not an option!
2007-06-12 04:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not offering to satisfy your curiosity if that' s what you mean :O
Live with it - or worse depression will come if your wife ever finds out differently
2007-06-12 04:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by proud walker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you must satisfy your curiosity, pay a hooker. At least she'll go away afterwards. A normal woman will probably cling on, which would be disastrous. That way you will find out THAT WE ARE ALL THE SAME LAY DOWN!
2007-06-12 13:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who has been there, my hubby went out of town to work and had a woman with three of his dish network buddies. Then he brought home a print out of their escapades as a souvenir.
IT crumbles your marriage, makes her not trust you and she feels like nothing! She feels like it is her fault, and what did I do to make him do this to me?
I am not beautiful like the blonde tiny waisted, breast implanted woman in the photo, but I have NEVER been with another man and I have no desire for it. If he asked me, I would tell him NO!
I am also 6 months pregnant, and the thoughts of him coming home with something scared the daylights out of me! So I took a set of tests for STDs, and they came back clean, thank God in Heaven!
PLEASE, do not do this to your loving wife. She does not deserve this. Buy a wig for her and pretend that she is someone else, that way you can have a fantasy and reality!
Hugs and good luck
2007-06-12 06:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In its most basic form, its legalised consensual cheating. What on earth is wrong with being with your wife, what about those vow's you both took, what about the sanctity of your marriage...'to the exclusion of all other's'? Tell you something--if you feel that depressed about being with a woman other than your wife, then you really do need help.
2007-06-12 21:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't make any difference - its all the same. You need to spice up the relationship you have. If you have another woman all you will do is cause hurt and pain- because believe me you will be found out- us wives have a nose for these things!!! Invest so more energy into your marriage.
2007-06-12 04:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ellie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i thought you were divorced! Do you really think that this would be ffair to your wife! Talk to her about it!
I have never been with anyone else other that my fiance and he hasnt either!
Loving someone means you give your whole heart to them and never wanting to hurt them!
Try and spice things up a bit!
Dont do something behind her back! She will find out and you may lose her forever!
2007-06-12 04:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by emzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋