Can u fix me?

Question

I think im depressed. I dont care about things anymore. I hate talking to people sometimes. I describe my life as the by product of sadness taking a crap on hopelessness. I have no dreams or passions in life. I hate people who are better than me or have goals in life. My brother (he is 10, Im 17) He's nearly taller than me, better people person than me and has the ability to complete surpass me in every aspect of my life by 14. Im not really smart, athletic, or artistic. I can only do alittle of everything but Im not good at anything. I did sports (wrestling/football) to help find myself but it only reminded me how much I suck. In middle school I was very good at art now Im bad. It like the more I age the worst I get. I fear that Im slowly going into maddness with all this self loathing. I went to therpahy when my mom was in the Twin Towers but I hate it. I makes me feel crazy and in turn even more depressed. The only thing I found Im good at is putting myself down.

Im not a loner. Read my other question where I ask if im a loner.

I always stop to think about me dying and if anyone would care. I hope to God Im not emo! I hate those fags. Plus Im too much of a puss to kill myself.

I honestly believe at this rate I will go crazy. I always get depressed for no reason.

I dont want to get any resonds like God will show you the way and believe in Jesus. I respect religion and my family is religionous but I honestly find it hard to believe in something I cant see and get a response for. I lost my faith years ago.

I sound emo... damnit

Answer 1

I can't even fix myself, so If I can't do that, then I sure don't think I could fix you.

Answer 2

I know what you are feeling like. Can you spare some precious time of yours, to read whatever I have written.
I know already many have attempted to answer your Question & you must be tired of reading all of them. But remember I am always with you... like the a strong shelter in the stormy whether. Would like you to understand somethings which might make you feel better.

(1) Whatever THE ALMIGHTY gives us is a GIFT.
(2) LIFE is also GIVEN BY HIM.
then what is life?
Is it not a gift?
& if it is then Why cry? the one who has given it has also provided us with some or other unique abilities.
Have you ever played a jig-saw game? the same is with life connect it together to get a better potrait.
till now if you have understood then proceed forward...
you have mentioned that in middle school you were very good at art.... which shows that you are now able to connect the pieces. What else were/ are you good at? May be Singing, Computers, exploring the inner world and many more things...like caring for pets, & the like.
Just think!
Start Exploring yourself now this is right age to do so. Before it too let.
NOTE: Don't compare yourself with others.
Compare between your own abilities.
This shall help you to lead a stable & happy life.
Only YOU can do that Because its your gift(life).
So why wait/ come on, Lets start.
In case you need any assistance leave a note here on yahoo answers.

Answer 3

Oh boy I don't think there is enough room in this box to properly address all the points that you could improve. First of all, if you've lost your faith then there isn't much to live for for anyone. So you need to fix that, it's part of recovery. Second, you are NOT a bad person no matter what it may seem like. I went through this same kind of depression when I was 18 and I was too chicken to end my life too. Good thing. Only I knew God had a plan for me and would not let me die even as much as I wanted to. Anyways, I still battle these feelings. For some reason the smallest insecurities and stupid things can get me down, but not for long. One thing I have noticed, complacency breeds these ideas. Stop using so much energy focusing on the problem and focus on the solution. Get mad, get pissed off, get angry about the things you don't like in your life and make a conscious decision to improve them. When you're angry, there's no time to be bored or dwell on depression. Set goals. And strive to reach them. I promise you the more energy you focus on finding ways to improve, the less you will focus on how bad it is.....I'll write more later if this helps.

Answer 4

Hey there. You hold the answers of how to fix yourself. First of all..you are feeding your soul food by all your negative statements about yourself so you keep yourself in that state. What would happen if you start to tell yourself positive things and start to appreciate the things you do have like a brother, roof over your head, plenty to eat and all your senses. You have a computer and most likely an IPOD, games and lots of fun stuff.

Take a look at some others around you that may need some help and focus on them. Is there someone who is hungry or cold?

I'm sure you are good a plenty of things. Find one thing you love or may love and just go for it & mostly just have fun and dance and be silly.

Answer 5

The fact that you lost your faith indicates that there is still hope. A good psychotherapist can help you if you really want to do the work required to help yourself. Just because one did not work does not mean that another won't. Try not to hate anyone. You sound homophobic. Some really cool people are gay, and if you met one of them you would agree. You don't have to be gay to be cool with them as a group. Try to give more to others than you give to yourself. Helping other people is a good way to help yourself. It gives you purpose. Don't let sibling rivalry get you down. My little brother is, and always has been more success full than me. I am happy for him. He ain't heavy, he's my brother. Lighten up on yourself and the rest of the world. It'll all be over soon; until then just be cool, don't be a fool.

Answer 6

Life's a *****, and then you die. Words of wisdom I learned from my mother when I was a little kid.

To be honest, you don't sound all that different from how I feel most of the time, except that we have rather different situations. Right now, the way I stop from loathing myself is by rerouting those emotions to some other part of my brain, which either leads me to punching things randomly (even when there was nothing in particular to make me feel bad). This isn't exactly the healthiest way to deal with emotions, because I feel like I'm just putting up a dam in the back of my head and the pent up emotions are spilling over slowly as they wait for the dam to completely fall apart when I get really depressed. Holding the dam up in itself takes a lot of energy out of me, but it's the only way that I'm able to even stay mentally stable enough to still hang around with friends.

I also understand how you feel about art, that you used to be good and now you're not. I feel that way all the time when it comes to my general schoolwork. I've always been an honors student at the top of my class, but as time goes on I've found it harder and harder just to maintain that image in public and even harder to maintain it in my own self image. For this, I just recommend you find a hobby to excel at, rather than trying to find a skill that may not present itself until later in your life.

I went to a therapist, still do, and I still don't like it enough to open up to him all that much, but I recommend that you try to put more effort into some sort of therapy. If you find a good therapist, he may be able to help you in a number of ways. this feeling you have could be the caused by a deeper underlying mental illness that may need to be diagnosed.

Answer 7

How about we start with your statement, "I can do a little of everything." Yes you said that. I took out the only because only and everything don't match in sentence structure. Only being singular and everything being plural. You can do a little of everything. Spend more time telling yourself that instead of saying my life is the product of sadness taking a crap on hopelessness. Self esteem comes from inside. Remember I can do a little of everything. If you can do that, you are doing more than many people. If you want to do more, all you have to do is try.

Answer 8

You should listen to some of the others it is very natural to feel what you are feeling, I struggled for a very long time with feelings of worthiness, and having no purpose from the time I was 16 until about 24---I was really lost, it killed my parents they tried to do many things to fix me, but they never mentioned therapy, I think it could have been the one thing that would have pulled me out of that crap faster. So believe it or not you are lucky to be going to therapy--I still think I could benefit from some!

Answer 9

C'mon man, still? Gee I thoguht I would have cheered you up yesterday. So much for that eh? Well when I used to feel like that at that age I just wrote a lot of poetry. I mean a lot. Doesn't have to rhyme. Just pour it out on paper, everything. The suicidalish thoughts and all. After a long while I was worried more about quality writning than the thoughts and it helped. Write some gory short stories too. And keep them to yourself. Trust me, when people read this stuff they get TOO worried about you and it's annoying.

Answer 10

any idea about emo? i don't know what it is? anyway let me share with you this writing. i hope this could be of help.

Dealing with feelings

by: Hans Diehl and Aileen Ludington - Health and Home Nov.-Dec. 1998 issue

Some experts estimate that as high as 30 percent of the population of developed Western countries suffer from anxiety and depression seriously enough to need help. Billions of tranquilizers and antidepressants are gulped down each year in desperate efforts to cope. Yet the problem grows.

But aren't feelings of depression a natural part of life?

Yes, depression is a normal emotion, but it can also be a symptom of a wide variety of medical and psychological illnesses.

How do people know when they've crossed the line?

Depression are characterized by feelings of sadness and dejection, often accompanied by lessened physical activity. Let's look at some of the more common types:

The Blues often follow periods of excitement, fatigue , or other such stresses. These depressions are short and self-limiting, rarely requiring treatment.

Reactive depressions result from intense life crises such as losing a loved one or a job, a separation, moving, or a serious illness. The effect is often protective, giving time for healing to take place. Supportive measures are indicated, with more aggressive treatment if the depression is severe or prolonged.

Biological depressions, on the other hand, are often inherited. They come and go, usually with no discernible cause. These depressions often respond to treatment, although they may persist for several months despite treatment.

Psychotic depressions are those in which individuals lose touch with reality; they require professional care.

How can a depressed person be helped?

Diet . A simple diet of fresh, natural foods at regular intervals decreases physical stress. Eating only fresh fruit for a day or two can work wonders in clearing the mind and banishing fatigue.

Rest. Periods of quietness and calm are especially important in today's fast-paced, pressured life. As for sleep, most people do best on seven to eight hours a night.

Exercise. One of the most exciting findings of recent years has been the benefits of exercise. Regular , active physical exercise elevates mood, increases the sense of well-being, improves sleep, relieves stress, promote health, and helps to prevent disease. A brisk one-hour walk each day will do more good for many depressed people than medication.

What else can be done for depression?

Psychological factors are important as well:

Structure. All people, whether depressed or not, need structure in their lives. Structure improves efficiency and stability.

Productivity. Humans have a basic need to do some kind of productive work, whether heading a corporation, washing a car, or cooking a meal. A depressed person, especially, needs the feeling of completion, accomplishment, and satisfaction in doing something useful each day.

Goals. Encourage the depressed person to make a list of positive and interesting activities, and then work on one item at a time. Check each one off as it is accomplished.

Choices. Even severely depressed people can make simple, everyday choices like deciding whether to get up in the morning or stay in bed; whether to watch television all day or look for more strengthening activities; whether to dress and groom themselves or stay in a bathrobe. Such choices, made day by day, matter a great deal because they mold the future. Even people with serious mental problems can improve their ability to cope with their life situations.

Spiritual achors. To be worth living, life must have meaning and value, otherwise a chronic emptiness and a fluctuating sense of despair set in. Spiritual growth can bring answers to anxiety, fear, guilt, and resentment. It can restore energy and zest for living.

What about medications?

Medications may be prescribed for specific reasons, and for stated lengths of time. Chronic use can lead to dependency and/or increased depression.

Depression is no longer the fearful, discouraging, chronic affliction it once was. By improving physical health, developing positive mental attitudes, and pursuing spiritual goals, most people can deal with their feelings of depression and live rewarding and productive lives.

Answer 11

Your not depressed ( maybe suffering from a bit of teen angst but not depressed) believe it or not thats just life and a part of getting older. Everyone i know is better than me at everything
but when it comes to sucking iv got them all beat. Dont let it get you down, when you get older you'll go to work and wont even have time to be depressed.