2007-06-12 03:53:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not wrong, but it will be painfull to one party when it is all said and done. Eventually one of you will move on, and the other will be left in the dust...and chances are someone is still connected more then the other. You may be looking at your situation as good sex, he may be looking at it as a way to get closer to you, and back into your life...because lets face it, you can go anywhere and find someone to have good sex with...so why does it need to be your ex?? Someone has more then sexual tension here- and that person will end up hurt when its all said and done. IF you are over- then be over, why linger on...its like you are trying to hold on to a piece of each other and using sex as an excuse.
2007-06-12 04:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That shows one of two things. Either you still have feelings for each other and are not happy being married because there are other aspects of your lives that have gone in separate directions or well, ok, maybe it only shows one thing. Having great sex tells me you still love each other. Unfortunately, John Lennon was wrong, you do need more than love. If you have honestly tried and decided the marriage is just not going to work, be glad you came to this realization while you still love each other. If you have not done this, perhaps you are being a little hasty in the decision to divorce. I will not give you guidance one way or the other as I am trying to save a marriage that should have ended years ago. I still have hope that we can make things better, but although a marriage does require that you think about the other person involved, it should not feel like a second job for which you don't get paid. I hope this gives you something to think about or at least a better understanding of your situation.
2007-06-12 11:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is the wrong thing to do, from a legal standpoint, if you truly want to get a divorce, because it will delay your divorce.
If you are filing for divorce due to unreconcilable differences, then you have to wait a year of no sex and no co-habitating before you can get divorced. That resets everytime you sleep with him.
If you are filing for divorce due to infidelity, then sleeping with him after you know he cheated will show the courts that you condone the behavior, and you will not be permitted to get a divorce on those grounds anymore.
Is it wrong from an emotional standpoint? That is not something for me to say. If you are having sex, then maybe you want to get back together. Are you willing to forgive whatever went wrong? If you can't forgive what happened, and if you can't try to work things out, then it's time to cut the ties and move on in your life... Staying when you really don't mean it is wasting time.
...But then again maybe you like wasting time?
2007-06-12 10:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kestra SpiritNova 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Some really, really judgmental answers here, eh?
Golly, how the heck would we know what the situation on the ground is other than they have great sex and they're getting a divorce. No dichotomy there for me! What's one got to do with the other anyway. Sex is sex and marriage/divorce/love and death are whole other things.
Forget the guilts and enjoy the sex!
2007-06-12 11:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by crow3862000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it isnt wrong, my wife and i have split up a few times, once for a year, but the sex is great so we just keep going and going and going and going,, divorce has nothing to do with great sex, it just means you get along better than you think, it wont hurt the divorce at all, but might strengthen the bond between you two, good luck in the sheets
2007-06-12 13:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, listen to your question. Your basically saying "I can't stand this guy and am taking steps to separate from him, but when he gives me pleasure and feeds my ego, I have a hard time stopping him. Is this wrong?"
On the one hand, I can hear your turmoil, but you don't realize that you're also sending mixed messages to him. You're devaluating the essence of the both of you down to a physical act. I'm sure you are worth more, and although you'll have to stop the relationship with him, you'll feel better in the long run, and will be able to move on ...hopefully to a better and more valued relationship.
2007-06-12 11:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by victorygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy!!?? why would you do that ,sound like your being used.Why are you getting a divorce then ??If you're still having sex ,that's just re damn diculous.It will also take for ever to get the divorce.If youre still having sex then move back in. That's just plain stupid.
2007-06-12 11:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missy, I would not consider it wrong since you still legally married. I am going through a divorce myself, and I would love to get some from time to time (but then again my soon-to-be ex is in love with someone else, so I am sure that would complicate things for her).
2007-06-12 11:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Scott O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont mix two things. may be it works out this way. it also depends what r the reasons for divorce. if it is other person then may be you are not able to resist him or you do need sex in that case move on you can have many opportunities.
2007-06-12 11:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you got married with him cause he rocked your world in bed and not because you loved him. Just keep getting bootie calls and go ahead with the divorce. Hopefully you will stop being so shallow and selfish in the future and find someone you really care about.
2007-06-12 11:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by locumbeta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋