Please anyone with previous experience....HELP!!?

Question

I am 9dpo....and it seems as if this wasnt our month...again. My hubby and i have been ttc for 5months now with no success...and it is starting to get really stressfull...
I feel fine, and have no symptoms, other than , i am always hungry, very tired, alleries are killing me , and for some reason, i am having a hard time wearing my contacts, which i have been wearing for 11yrs...
I just thought that if i was i would have so type of symptoms by now, AF isnt due till the 18th, and i am already getting depressed...
Anyone have any advice, of helpful hint/tips on how to stop thinking about it, of any expierience....
Any help would be great!!!!
Thanks!

Answer 1

I have been TTC for 8 mths.
I recommend going out and doing some fun things to relieve stress. I love going to the beach, hanging out with friends etc...

I decided the last time, that I was going to take a month off and relax and then start trying again next month. That way I would be refreshed and ready to pee on the stick again. good luck, I hope things go right for you soon.

And besides you never know this just may be the month you find out you are pregnant. I have a 15 mth old and I did not have symptoms with him until I was about 7 weeks along. My first symptoms were just being so tired.

Answer 2

Hi Brandy,

Don't give up yet. My husband and I tried for almost two years to get pregnant with my son. Temping, charting, legs on the pillow, Instead cup, Clomid, Robitussin, timing, bd daily, every other day, every three days, praying, wishing, hoping, everything and then we decided enough was enough. We decided to start the adoption process in December and learned we were pregnant about three months later. I know, I know, how do you not stress when you're trying to have a baby. Stress is normal, it's going to happen.

I did not have a single symptom when I was pregnant with my son. Not one, don't give up yet! In a few more days take a test. I know it's frustrating to ttc but, you are still pretty early into the game. We've been trying again for almost 20 months now. Depending on your age it's recommended to see the doctor after 6 months of trying. If you're 35+ see your doctor next month (provided you aren't pregnant now) and discuss Clomid, charting and temping. I don't know if your doctor will see you after only six months if you're younger but, it's worth checking into.

If you haven't, you may want to check out www.fertilityfriend.com it's a great website that helps charting.

Good luck on your journey!!

Answer 3

I went through it all and it is very hard. I'm sorry for you and am hoping you will be at peace with it soon. You say you have no symptoms but, it sounds like you do. I had a really hard time emotionally being on all those ridiculous drugs. I pushed everyone away, couldn't stand to be touched, had ridiculous hot flashes all summer, was incredibly moody and irritable, and yet all those symptoms weren't given any creedance or consideration. The drugs are very ahrd on you in amny ways. I only went through 3 cycles because I could not do it any longer. I felt like I was betweena rock and a hard place with no way to win or get out. It was dreadful and I felt constantly awful. I now have an 11 yr old son whom we adopted at birth and he is a joy.

Answer 4

Well, I have been TTC for 3 years now, and sorry to disappoint you, but if you can not become pregnant, it gets MUCH MUCH more stressful.

Anyway, fill this time with something you like. Hobbies ect. Or, you could start planning for a baby. Baby planning could take FOREVER so you never really run out of things to do with that. lol.
But really, just try to preoccupy yourself. Your symptoms here really don't sound like pregnancy symptoms. But, you can always try again next month. It can take a normal fertile couple up to 1 yr to concieve, so hold in there.

Answer 5

The more you think about it, the less likely you are to fall pregnant. If you put the idea out of your head and just have fun trying, without timing and things like that. It will happen :) We tried for 5 years on this last baby. Then stopped trying and stopped talking about it. In fact i was going to have my tubes tied because i was tired of trying to get pregnant and within a month i became pregnant. It was very very odd but stress puts alot more un needed pressure on your body.

Mom of 4 boys and 38 weeks with boy 5 :)

Answer 6

I have been TTC for 15 mobths now, and I still cant get my head aound the whole 'stop thinking about it thing' Its all I think about, while im at work, home, bed, making dinner... all I can think is ovulation, babies, ovulation, temperature's etc etc!
We are going on holiday in 7 weeks, and as luck would have it ive worked it out that I will ovulate whilst there! Im hoping this helps!
Good luck!

Answer 7

I don't have any advice about ttc or to stop thinking about it, but the contact thing is kind of strange. I have always been told that your eyes change quite a bit during pregnancy. I could never wear my contacts when I was pregnant. But that could be just from your allergies too. Good luck.

Answer 8

We've been ttc for 9 months now. I was really stressed in the beginning, but not now. Just remember...people get pregnant every day...there is hope and it'll happen when you least expect it!

Answer 9

my husband and i tried for two years,spending money on specialist and everything. we did the propping up on the pillow, feet in the air everything you can think of nothing seemed to work. we gave up after sitting in the middle of the bed crying everytime i started my cycle. it's the stress of trying so hard and wanting so badly thats not letting you enjoy the moment and let go. as you know stress can ruin everything stop trying so hard and let it happen... it will, just hang in there let the stress go and relax!!!!

Answer 10

i feel for you i really do, me and my husband lost due to and ectopic pregnancy back in feb and its been about 4 months of trying and nothing, and around that time im always like, it wasnt our month again, sucks big time, this past month i was so sick of trying i was like i give up, and im about 4 days late, still scared to test for it to be a bfn... i would just stick with what your doing try and track your ovulation as well, best of luck and baby dust to ya!