I do not want to generalize but I have found this way too many times to not make me wonder.
2007-06-12 02:46:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
guys who say they are "straight acting" in my experience tend to be really caught up on how they are perceived by others. probably bad experiences. usually once they let their guard down they show some more "feminine" personality aspects. i think it's all stupid. people should be who they are. All the acts are just a waste of time.
when people ask me, i tell them neither. i'm a nerd. so there you go.
2007-06-12 02:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jnr528 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with ADK and Geramd. I do believe it is internalized homophobia. Just look at hte phrase: "straight-acting". They are not straight biologically, yet they profess to act this way?
2007-06-12 04:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
geramd4040 has nailed it. To put it a different way:
If you care too MUCH about being str8-acting, that's nelly.
Me, I'm apparently part butch and part nelly. I don't flame, but I'm not conventionally macho--sports mostly leave me cold, cars are little more than transport, trucks don't excite me, etc., and I love most musicals. I like Judy Garland and Tony Bennet about equally well, neither to idolatry levels. (ANYbody, male or female, my age who cares about Madonna or Brittany strikes me as weird.)
On the other hand, on nearly all the male/female dichotomies, I come down male. Biology, it would seem.
2007-06-12 04:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with ADK. The problem with the term 'straight acting' is the word acting. I am gay, but get called straight acting because if you met me you probably wouldn't guess I was gay at first. I don't act, I am happy with who I am. In fact, if I tried to change my mannerisms in order to appear more gay, then that would be acting. It annoys me when gay guys try and claim that I haven't come to terms with my sexuality just because I like football, cars, and don't like Madonna. A gay guy is a guy that likes other guys. The way you act, what you wear, and what you do after that is irrelevant.
2007-06-12 03:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by MrP 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, I think guys act the way they are. Where you say "straight acting," I say "masculine acting." I do not think "straight acting" is a show that someone puts on. I think it is who they are and how they act. Just because a guy is gay does not mean he is feminine or has to act feminine.
Gay is all about how you FEEL on the inside, it has nothing to do with how you ACT on the outside.
2007-06-12 02:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Not in my 40yrs.
I've never run across this at all.
In fact I've run across just the opposite. "Straight Acting" gays in this area are just gay guys who don't put on "airs" or play up the "campiness" to the extreme.
These are guys who work in industries where behaving in an "effeminate" manner would hurt their careers not just because of their coworkers...but through clients who demand a professional demeanor.
Would you go to a doctor who flitted around on his tippy-toes and spoke with a pronounced lisp?
Would you put your money into a bank who's President called all his employees "honey-child?"
I'm rather sick and tired of the stereotypes and BS proliferated by straight society that all gay men act like Flamers. It's even more disturbing that even within the gay community if you're not a Big-Ol'-Drama-Queen that you're thought to not be "really gay."
2007-06-12 03:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
it just means a guy acts more straight than he does gay. Does not mean internal homophobia. Gay guys are not all the same
2007-06-12 02:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
I have to agree with "Death" and "MrP".
In my experience "straight acting" means nothing more than not being a "camp" personality. It isn't internalized homophobia at all.
2007-06-12 03:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes. As if "straight" means masculine and strong. Gay means weak. Straight acting also allows gays who are not that fully happy about who they are deal with themselves and also allowing people to feel more "comfortable" around them. To essentially, not embarrass them.
This can also be applied to gays who say, "I am gay, but it's not my life. It's not the largest part of who I am." Of course it's the largest part of who you are. It's the reason why your rights get voted away, or you can't walk down the street and be affectionate with your partner, or get married, or have a hard time adopting kids. It's the LARGEST part of who you are. Again, this is also away of allowing straight people to tolerate you as well. Since being gay is not the largest part of who you are - there will be a slight chance they'll ever have to hear about your boyfriend/girlfriend and those "freaky" gays.
2007-06-12 02:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
The term: yes obviously I mean just look at it.
The behavior it gets applied to: no, of course not.
2007-06-12 04:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by geramd4040 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋