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2007-06-12 02:22:44 · 10 answers · asked by pookie 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
*makotto, leave me alone*
2007-06-12 03:58:05 · update #1
If you are a rational type of human being then it will be impossible because nature made us social and communicative creatures who crave companionship.
How about instead, you try a different tack.
If you really really want a happy relationship then decide what type of person would make you happy. Write it down on a piece of paper, add, delete or edit it as many times as you like, then when you are sure what you want (as opposed to what you don't want) send out a message to the Universe.
Join a singles club, join a dating club, join all the clubs you can and be on the lookout.
This does not mean you have to compromise your standards, it means you are doing something constructive about finding your ideal partner.
2007-06-12 13:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A funny question. I take a lesson from my mother, who had no patience for older, divorced women who moaned and groaned about not having a man around. Her advice was: "you need to be able to be marooned alone on a desert island and be happy with your own company." Develop yourself, was her point. Also, (I love this one), "never be with a man who doesn't make your life better than it would be without him." Really; we've moved forward. Women don't need men for support anymore; we're not the victims of our biology, thanks to birth control. Commit to being the kind of person who is complete and happy, with or without a man. Your own life is, ultimately, your own creation. A good partner is nice, but there's always a trade-off. Be happy. If you're alone, enjoy not having to pick up after anybody else or stay up all night reading if you want to. If you're with somebody, I hope it's nice.
2007-06-12 11:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by sharmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not brainwashing, its something that is within. Sounds silly I know, but it wasnt until my last breakup that I realized this. I know can proudly and honestly say I dont need a man to be happy.
When it came down to it I looked at all I had created for myself in my life. I am a college graduate, a CPT in the US Army, and as far as material posessions go, while I may not have everything, I have what I need and in most cases what I want.
Its all about self worth. If you can step back and see everything you have currently and eveything you, yourself has to gain, it will become very easy to say to some one " I am happy as I am".
2007-06-12 10:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sabresin07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find some old, happily married women and talk to them for a while.
Then go find some old, happily unmarried women and talk with them for a while.
Decide who you'd really like to become. Brainwashing is a bad thing. Just be real with yourself - but find out what the end results are before you go down that road.
2007-06-12 14:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is going to sound corny, but you need to believe that before you even start a relationship. If you are happy with yourself, then everything else will fall into place. Find things to ocupy your time: work a little bit more, study, find activities that you will enjoy to keep you busy. Once your schedule is packed and you have no time for relatiobships, you will notice that you love yourself more. Then everything will fall into place.
2007-06-12 09:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Makotto 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First think of something you always wanted to learn to do and take classes in it. Fill in these classes on your calender. Call freinds to make "dates" for meals either out or at home. Fill these in on your calander. Find cool stuff to do in your community and fill this in on your calender. Any remaining days are filled in with "dates" with yourself. Be specific and creative so you will be looking forward to your time with you. A movie night, indulge in ice cream night, etc.. Fill a month's worth of calender and you will see that even if a man did ask you out you would have to check your calender and tell him your busy. By the end of the month you will actually BE happy without a man.
2007-06-12 10:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by leavemealone 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
*sigh* you can find one, broke your heart, or you found one that was a *** (for lack of a better term). Correct? Unless you want to grow old and alone i dont think you can. Maybe for a little while. Dont worry the good ones are out there.
2007-06-12 09:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Adam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
brainwashing, hell no it's just the way it is
try to go on with your life, you will see
it would be sad if we depended on a guy to be happy, you can be happy with and without!
2007-06-12 11:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by sweetera 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need brainwashing because it is true.
2007-06-12 10:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a vibrator! :-D
2007-06-12 12:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by germangirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋