2007-06-12 00:46:27 · 34 answers · asked by kktsmarumo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Papa drove a truck nearly all his life You know it drove mama crazy being a trucker's wife The part she couldn't handle was the being alone I guess she needed more to hold than just a telephone Papa called Mama each and every night Just to ask her how she was and if us kids were alright Mama would wait for that call to come in When Daddy'd hang up she was gone again
Mama was a looker Lord, how she shined Papa was a good'n But the jealous kind Papa loved Mama Mama loved men Mama's in the graveyard Papa's in the pen
Well, it was bound to happen and one night it did Papa came home and it was just us kids He had a dozen roses and a bottle of wine If he was lookin' to surprise us, he was doin' fine I heard him cry for Mama up and down the hall Then I heard a bottle break against the bedroom wall That old diesel engine made an eerie sound When Papa fired it up and headed into town
Well, the picture in the paper showed the scene real well Papa's rig was buried in the local motel The desk clerk said he saw it all real clear He never hit the brakes and he was shifting gears
Mama was a looker Lord, how she shined Papa was a good'n But the jealous kind Papa loved Mama Mama loved men Mama's in the graveyard Papa's in the pen
2007-06-12 00:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by sausage_eater 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
wow. The question you should ask youself is what do you want to do? Chances are he might not be there for you and your baby so you have to prepare yourself for that. Do you think you can handle taking care of a baby on your own? If not you have a lot of options. If you think you are ready just be strong and make sure you get some kind of child support from him. If he does decide to stay with you then that will be ok too. Just prepare for drama from the other ex-wife and the other 2 kids. Good luck.
Don't let the other answers upset you. Getting pregnant is a part of life and a part of being a woman. Accidents happen even if you use protection. Don't be too hard on your self. Age does not make a difference either. I was 19 when I had my first child and we are doing great. If you need someone to talk to feel free to e-mail me.
2007-06-12 00:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by M n M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing unless you decide to have an abortion or put the baby up for adoption. If he's married with 2 kids chances are he's not going to leave his wife and family for you and the baby. Even if he does I wouldn't trust him to be faithful to you. Ever heard the line "Once a cheater always a cheater" trust me if he can cheat on his wife with you, he can and most likely will find someone and cheat on you. Have you told him about the baby? And what was his reaction? If you haven't you have two options tell him and see what kind of support he is willing to offer if any or not tell him at all either way do yourself a favor and break off the relationship now before his wife finds out about it(if she don't know already). Do you really want to become known as what they call a homewrecker? Homewrecker is what they call someone who ruins another person's marriage. If I were you I would end the relationship now. If you want the baby keep it but whatever you do leave the father out of it. Let him go back to his wife and kids. Believe me you don't want the town calling you a homewrecker and you don't want his 2 kids to not only hate you but hate their father if he were to leave them for you. You might have to be a single mom for awhile but some guy will eventually come along that will love you, be faithful to you, and will love your baby like his own.
2007-06-12 01:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont listen to some of these people. Dont put the baby up for adoption unless YOU want to. You just need to tell this guy whats going on, he has to make a decision now. And chances are him and his wife will split up anyway now. If you can prove he is the father, he has to pay you child support unless yall are gonna be together. And either way (if his wife is smart) she will divorce him because he was unfaithful. Just remember that he did it to his wife, so what makes you think he wouldnt cheat on you? BUT people do change. I actually was dating a married man, he was unhappy though, he was miserable, they basically just lived together, and shared the same last name. They had no relationship. I finally told him I needed all of him or none at all and the next morning he was at my house with all of his stuff. He had left her. And his daughter. And HONESTLY he has never been unfaithful, he has never cheated on me, and we have never had any trust issues, so people can change. Just keep that in your head though, if he did it to her, he COULD do it to you. I wish you the best of luck. And I think you should keep the baby if that is what you want. Be honest with him though. And one thing I have learned from experience (from my hubbys ex wife) DO NOT HOLD THE CHILD OVER HIS HEAD!!!!! Let me say it again. DO NOT HOLD IT OVER HIS HEAD! Dont say things like "well if you are not gonna be with me you will never see your child" Hubbys ex did this and really after going thru all of that it made him almost lose intrest in his daughter, and that is NOT a good thing. You should push him to see his kids he already has if yall turn out to be together. And if he is not with you and wants to see your child, you should let him. If not, it really will make their feelings change for their kids if they dont have the time alloted to spend time with them and know their kids. Best wishes and good luck. Congrads on baby!
These peoples answers are stupid. I will be more than happy to hear from you if you wish to further talk and ask advice. I know EXACTLY what your going thru. I have been there, (well not pregnant but with a married man who is now my HUSBAND) PLEASE email me if you want:
Christianenmandi@bellsouth.net
2007-06-12 01:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A. You were stupid in the first place for having a relationship with a married man WITH KIDS!
B. You got pregnant.
C. He won't leave his wife for you.
D. Here are your options: raise the child alone or put it up for adoption.
I would also seek guidance/therapy because you are not going to have the emotional support you need during this pregnancy unless you have a really close, supportive family and parents at home. Good luck and I hope you make better choices in the future.
2007-06-12 00:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by toothfairy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all stop being stupid. Knowingly dating a married man is just not right. Why in the world do you want to break up someones marriage. How would you feel if you are in his wife's situation. What goes around comes around. So I dont think he will stick with you, if he has been cheating on his wife. Please put the child up for adoption. I dont think you are ready to raise a child. Next time think twice before going out with someone who is married.
2007-06-12 01:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by November Rain 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not a whore.
Firstly, you need to tell him you are pregnant and see what his reaction is - talk to him about what you both want and find out the outcome. Although you might want him to leave his wife and start a life with you, if you know deep down that he never will then you should stop contact and start building a life for you and your new baby and face up to the fact that he already has another life. But, maybe he will want to be with you and the new baby - in which case you have to ask yourself whether you will ever trust him after what he has done to his current wife and children.
2007-06-12 00:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, he has a right to know about the situation you both created. Don't be upset with him if he refuses to leave his wife. Why destroy the lives of his two children that are already part of his family? Please don't be vindictive and strike out at his wife and family. What he did was horribly wrong, but let him deal with his family. It is never your place to tell them and do further damage.
Treat this as a hard life lesson to NEVER become involved with a married man again.
Be prepared to support this child alone. Please look into adoption for your child and place it in a loving, stable home.
2007-06-12 01:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by ChibiKris 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's up to you about whether or not to keep the child. But I can assure you, a man that cheats is not the kind of man you want to be with. He won't leave his wife. Most never do. And even if he did, your whole relationship is based on lies! That's not a good start at all. He won't be able to be counted on for help with the child, so seriously consider your options. You're pretty young to be raising a child on your own.
If you keep it, definitely don't hesitate to file for child support! He helped make it so he can help you out financially.
2007-06-12 00:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is way uncool.
Having children is a serious, adult decision.
Children require care, nurturing and a stable home and are a huge financial responsibility.
Everytime, I see a young, unmarried person under the age of 25 having a baby, I feel so sorry for that child.
I wish I could feel sorry for you but I don't. It's not cool to be irresponsible.
Do the right thing for your baby! Get help from your parents, with two children already, I'm sure your boyfriend is probably history.
2007-06-12 00:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie Oh! 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋