Want to kick the guy out after sex? I get so turned off by cuddling and experience negative sadness after the climax, like I get a dirty feeling and I want him OUT! I do NOT want to be touched after sex.
2007-06-12 00:06:39 · 15 answers · asked by fatal beauty 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think maybe it's from underlying issues with men. Maybe been hurt badly in the past, not wanting to get emotionally attached. After sex is when people feel the closest, which is why men usually want to either fall asleep or get up and leave LOL. The body produces certain chemicals after sex, certain pharmones(sp) that lead to... what's the word.. well.. just becoming more emtionally attached.
I'm not really sure, I've never understood women (or men for that matter) with this problem. Though I'm not judging, so don't take it that way. My best friend actually feels the EXACT same way you do, she doesn't like to cuddle, or any of that stuff afterwards, once it's over with - it's over with and she's done. And she's got a fiance, go figure lol. But I know her past, and her problems stems from being sexually abuxed as a child.
But, who is to say what's normal. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Some people like to cuddle aftward, some people don't. Some people like peanut butter, some people don't lol.
2007-06-12 00:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, everyone has different feelings after sex. I have alot of friends that feel the same way you do, not just women but men aswell. You may be feeling very emotionally and physically drained after climax/sex (becuase when you orgasm there are all these chemical reactions that go on in your body) that you need time on your own to recoup/relax and you need your own space to do so.
Sex should be a positive experience and you shouldn't let a little thing like this detract from that. If you are still worried maybe talk to a sex therapist, they will give you lots of great advice and reassurance that you are completely normal.
2007-06-12 00:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is odd for a woman, most of them think the cuddling part is the best. It's the men that have a natural tendency to want to move on. Maybe you aren't really in love, and just want the sex from this guy?
2007-06-12 00:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, but it does happen. you probably are a very solice type woman that takes comfort in just the pure eccstacy of sex when you have that feeling, after you climaxed you feel cold and disintrested and want to rest and you don't want him there, i think you just need to reshape you idea about intimacy, begin with better foreplay and romance, know the man your with, have slower sex, and climax slower, and be in each others arms whilst having an orgasm and try to *** together, try to think of a cuddle as a "thankyou and i appreciate you and that was great and i love you" and not meaning sexual things. you need to know what love is
2007-06-12 00:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I only like cuddling. Is that abnormal? I also want to be left alone when I no longer feel like cuddling. It can be quite sudden. Is that abnormal?
I think every person is different. Maybe you are not in a monogamous relationship (married) though, so that could be part of it....
2007-06-12 00:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well who is it that youre having sex with? i mean if its a stranger or something no kidding you feel dirty. but if its a boyfriend or even just a friend, i think youll have to live with it. at least if its a boyfriend you will. but i used to feel awkward cuddling with someone after i had just given myself up to them, but i guess i just grew out of it.
2007-06-12 00:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats because you know what you did was wrong either because you never wanted to in the first place but convinced yourself otherwise, you are too young and feel guilt about engaging in sex, or you understand that you don't feel enough about him to have sex, but you did anyway.
It is your brain telling you to stop this behavior. By no means am I saying pre-marital sex is wrong. Im just telling you to listen to your body (and not when its all fired up and horny, but when its calm and cool and collected)
2007-06-12 00:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by meggybucks1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
like me,too!when i've had sex with a woman just a one night stand,i want to kick her away in front of me...i mean that's the normal sensation after sex if you doesn't love him or her.
2007-06-12 01:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by arkijones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt say normal but more of that it varies with women. unless you jus sleep with the guy and afterwards only realize what you've jus done that makes you feel like that.
2007-06-12 00:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have obviously never found the right man!
2007-06-12 00:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by NJGuy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋