is he bored with me? what should i do? help?

Question

my bf and i been seing each other for 5 month, we only see each other on weekend, every weekend from friday till sunday i would go up to his place. but lately he says that i don't have to come on friday but instead come on saturday nite because he would be tired after work on friday and not in mood to do stuff he has to work on saturday. we haven't had sex for a month already. he wont reply my text msg by saying hes too busy with work. normally when i leave he would kiss and hug me but last week all i get is a handshake. when i asked him he said that i dont need to worry i already and will always have him. what should i do? is he bored with me? should i quit this relationship? am i being too needy?

i have try talking to him. and have tried asking him for a break-up but he would say stop asking nonsense and that i wasn't thinking clearly. i am hurting...real BAD. i can't concentrate with my life.

Answer 1

handshake? something is up. I would be upset too. break it off before he does. but I would talk about it first.

edit: well if you talked to him there is really nothing more you can do but leave him.You'll just get hurt in the end anyway

Answer 2

Oh honey. I feel your pain.

OK if you talk to him or end it you are only going to end up with what you don't want - a break up. And let's face it his actions are speaking louder than anything he could put into words anyway.

I'll let you in on a secret. Men. ALL men, want what they can't have.

Make yourself unavailable. i.e. do not call him, text him, or email him. When he calls you, (and he will), be busy and return his call at your convenience, and when you do keep it brief, be warm and friendly (smile) but maintain your distance.

If he wants to see you, you're going out with friends. Don't tell him who, be vague. If he asks say 'oh no-one you know'.

Let his imagination work overtime. Give nothing away. You're not missing him, you're far too busy to be missing him.

Now this is hard to do and the easiest way to do it is to make sure you are busy. So really fill your diary up as much as possible. Go out with friends, do stuff you enjoy doing, spend some time on yourself.

And if at the end of it all you don't get him back, what will you have lost. Nothing - coz it's on the cards anyway. At least this way you'll have had a ball doing it and you will come out the other side feeling good about yourself.

Louise H

Answer 3

Take it from a guy.... he is not the same... something is going on.... he either needs your help or needs to break from you... talk to him frankly and tell him that:

1-You will not take his work excuses anymore.
2-Your feminine feelings are telling you he is not close to you.

Ask him what he wants to break, if he says "If this is what you want then I will do it" it means he wants to break and looking for an excuse.. if it happens then break from him immediately... staying in such a relation would only hurt YOU.