My mate asked if he can borrow my car tomorrow, that was yesterday. And I said yes to him. We both knew the car needed engine oil and he asked me if it needed oil, I said yes and I will have a look.
After a while he changed his mind and came back to me and asked me if he can have the car today. Because I didnt have to use the car I said yes, BUT forgot about the oil. And my mate did not bother checking the oil. He just drove it off. Guess what happened, the engine blew up.
He came back, told me the story, I didnt blame him as we both knew it needed oil. But this morning, he had the cheek to tell me it was my fault giving him a car without oil.. I was absolutely gutted as its THE DRIVERS responsibility to check the engine oil. Do you think he was fair to put the blame on me? The car was given to him at no charge ,just as a friend.
2007-06-11 22:09:24 · 25 answers · asked by Olderwiser 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
how could he ignore the indicator light , and he knew i never had time to check as he changed his mind in half an hour
2007-06-11 22:20:29 · update #1
If I understand correctly, your mate knew about the problem in advance. He could have (shoulda/woulda) asked if you had gotten to it yet, since he changed the schedule. PLUS, he should have gotten a much needed clue (idiot light, engine making funny noises, etc) and could have prevented the tragedy. If he was my mate, he would be owning up to at least partial responsibility with cold hard cash, instead of being a dummass and talking trash. Tell him to pour himself a big ol cup of shut the 'eff' up and get out his wallet. Well, at least on the bright side, you won't be payin' those outrageous gas prices. Happy walkin'!
2007-06-11 22:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by The Pandachrist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this wasn't anyone's fault, just a genuine mistake. You both knew it needed oil and then he changed his mind wanting the car early. If I had been him, the oil would have been the first thing I would have thought to mention if I had wanted the car early. Simply put this down to a lesson taught, as I am sure he will not be asking you again to borrow the car.
2007-06-11 22:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair of him to put the blame on you. You're both responsible, in that you both knew about it and neither of you did anything about it, so I think it would be fair to split the cost of the repairs evenly. And this will be a lesson neither of you will ever forget. Thirty years ago I burned up an engine because I neglected to check the oil before heading out on a long trip, and I've never again forgotten to do that.
2007-06-11 22:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dan H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation that you have got yourself into. But in my view, i think it is half and half. He should offer to help you with the costs as a good friend, if he dont he is in the wrong, also if he doesnt offer help or refuses, dont bother wasting any of your time on him. He obviously does not respect you enough to take blame on his part. He was afterall the driver and he was aware that the engine had low oil the day before.
2007-06-11 22:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by london lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These things happen. Ultimately and i know this is not what you want to here but it was your responsability which im sure deep down you know and must be annoyed at yourself for not putting oil in it. However your friend should be a bit more sensitive to the fact that your engine just blew when he was driving and that you are a nice guy to let him use it. I dare say its a mistake that you wont let happen again and an expensive one. Good luck and dont let this spoil your friendship!
2007-06-11 22:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by juicy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are friend why didnt you both make sure the car was safe it sounds like you both could be bothered realy is that the same as all the choice you make if it is someones fault it should be both of you learn a lesson think with your head not your heart sorry but thats the way you make better friends with each other .silver fox....
2007-06-11 22:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by aidanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both at blame, you both knew it needed oil, and with it being your car, you should keep that kind of maintenance up.
He is probably just saying those things because he is mad at himself for forgetting.
2007-06-11 22:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by twyla 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You both knew about it but he shouldnt have drove it off knowing it needed oil. He shouldnt have blamed you coz he knew it needed it.
2007-06-11 22:20:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both of you were responsible to a degree but the overall responsibility was yours. Also silly for lending your car.
2007-06-12 01:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie Bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no his fault
he's frightened that you will blame him
he knows he should have checked but he feels anxious at having to take responsibilty
just ignore it
if he's a true friend he will offer to pay something toward a new engine
2007-06-11 22:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋