A 'friend' of mine who I have financial dealings with sometimes 'forgets' to bring cash with him when he buys things from me. He never seems to remember to pay me unless I remind him. Then he remembers.
"Oh yeah sorry"
I think I've seen a pattern emerging! This guys is not short of cash. I am!
What should I do about this guy?
2007-06-11 21:21:59 · 20 answers · asked by tuthutop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop dealing with him financially! No money, no purchase, and no credit! Simply remind him that business is business and make sure that he is all paid up with you. Money and friends just don't mix. Friends (some such as this one) tend to take advantage of friendships.
2007-06-11 21:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Becky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, the same guy constantly fall for that line and ends up cashless and waiting...
After the third time, it should be quite apparent that this person knows that your going to supply him with money when he doenst have it. The only reason he doesnt give you the money back ASAP is because you allow him to go on without paying you. This is why you have to ask him. I bet you if you didnt ask him, he would of never payed you.
The next time he ask you for money, all you have to say is that you only have enough for you, and keep saying that until he gets the point. Make sure when you hang out with him, you carry loose bills and change so that you can accurately count enough money to support yourself. This is the best way to do it without being rude and nasty.
Its understandable that this person is going through some issues, but your not a personal bank. You work for your money as well. Dont let someone use you for what youve earned, no matter if its a friend or not.
If you two have plans to go somewhere, make sure your friend has cash on him, and enough. If you have to ask, do it. You could be like, "yeah such and such is gonna cost about $45 to go to, if you dont have it we can go another time".
Dont feel guilty at all, he should feel guilty for what he is putting another friend through.
Good luck and lay down the law!!
2007-06-11 22:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person for wanting the money back, but you have broken the third most important financial rule. Never lend or borrow money from friends or family. It never ends well. Most likely you are not going to get the money back, unless she wins the lottery, or if you decide to take legal action. Im assuming those are both equally not likely. So you did make a mistake. I am sorry if the response hasn't been that helpful, but there truly is nothing you can really do.
2016-05-18 00:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda have a friend like that.. their kinda taken advantage of you, cause he probably thinks that you wont remember then it will all be good. But yea the pattern will keep going if you don't stop. the way I had to do it with my friend was when they asked for something and didn't have the money I just acted like i didnt have it.. or in other cases they would ask my to loan them money an said they would pay me back, but never did. An this kept going on till I said Im broke an dont have cash with me. I dont know if this helps you any. But dont let your friend treat you like that. your to good to be treated like that.
2007-06-11 21:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by farquhar_31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy is taking the mick.,..if he comes back again tell him that he MUST have the cash on him before you hand over the goods....OR you could just stop being so generous, there's a guy who lives in our block who has never got money, he's always knocking on our doors asking for money and cigarettes and various other things...he's able bodied and does not have a job, he gets his benefit money and blows it in the bookies, in fact he's just a bum, i loaned him £20 once because i felt sorry for him, he said he had no food an was waiting on a loan.. and after a month i had to go and ask for it back, i had seen him before that and he ignored me in the street, so i decided not to loan anything to him again...in fact i stopped loaning money to everyone else after that, he seemed to think that because i run my own business that i was not short of cash, but that's not the case, the principle of it is, i was kind enough to loan him, so he should have been kind enough to pay it back....just don't be so generous next time...say no if he comes round again
2007-06-11 23:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT lend anymoney to him, if possible, just bring enough, or hide it in your card compartment, show him your empty wallet and remind him to pay you EVERYTIME you meet, im sure he will think twice about borrowing from you next time. Good luck.
P.S: This kind of friend is not worth making, keep things to business is the safest bet for you .
2007-06-11 21:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by jade s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The kind that is hoping that they can get away without paying it back.I would stop lending him money.If a person intended on paying the money back you wouldn't have to ask them for it they would give it back befor you even had a chance to ask for it back .People don't forget that they owe you money they hope that you will forget instead.
2007-06-12 00:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man I use to have friends who would do that to me all the time. Just Call :it" on him... be like "Dude, why don't you ever have money!" Tell him your sick of this...He might have real problems.. Also start paying for yourself, when he's buying you something, don't let him. Just split things and pay only yours. If he starts to forgets money for himself as well, it's time to get new friends. But do look into see if he really has REAL serious problems..
2007-06-11 21:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by sweetwater2785 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like the kind of person that don't want 2 pay it back i would say get back wot he owes u then never lend him again treat this as a lesson learnt
2007-06-11 22:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by miss walker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A forgetful person, an untrust worthy person, a person suffering from annesia, a parasite. Life is complex and you'll have to find it out yourself
2007-06-12 00:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Y!@n$werer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋