A man on my street hung himself. He wasn't a very nice man. He was extremley aggressive, always in trouble with the police, fighting and shouting abusive language to my fellow neighbours.
I just feel he's done a very selfish thing, and hasn't thought about his family. I feel for the them!
The police had been called out several times to his house over the last couple of weeks. He was arrested last week - though not sure what for. He hung himself in his garage Saturday night(rumour has it he was on a suspened sentence, and was looking at a long stretch), and his wife and son's girlfriend found him.
I'm not sure if to send a condolense card, plus where to send it to as the family aren't their. No one actually likes this family, as they've all caused trouble in the past, but not with myself.
What would you do?
2007-06-11 20:26:08 · 19 answers · asked by trackie1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would do three things.
1. Make use of spell check before posting.
2. Think of a better suicide-by-hanging pun than "suspended sentence".
3. Think of a better suicide-by-hanging pun than "long stretch".
You aren't funny, and you aren't convincing. It is disgraceful to amuse yourself on this forum at the expense of those with legitimate questions who want legitimate help.
If I'm wrong, email me and I will give you a serious answer.
2007-06-11 20:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no matter what, it was a life and that life had family and friends who did love and care for him. U say u dont know where to send any condolences so... just pray for the family. If u happen to see them, then u can send a card or say something from ur heart in the way that u are sorry to hear the tragic news ect. The guy u speak of sounds like he lived a very troubled life that was oviously so bad that he felt the need to kill him self. Learn from this, u cant change the way people act or control their actions, but u can be a friend or at least someone who prays for another so maybe they will find the strength to go on and choose to be a better person. Dont follow the crowd and dog others. be better then everyone and look for the good in others. Maybe he felt he was alone in life. I dont know, good luck
2007-06-12 03:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right in your heart. No one is a saint and we all make mistakes, if you feel for this family. I'm sure you will find one way or another to get the message across to them. Cards or flowers, if the man lived right down the street, then wouldn't you want to send it there.
Yes, it was pretty selfish of him to have done this and inflicted pain to those that loved him. However, whatever pain he must have felt, he felt leaving this earth was going to make it better. Who knows, what would I do? I would send something to the family, it's not their fault, he was the person he was. You will feel better about your choice not by asking others, but doing what you feel is needed in your heart.
2007-06-12 03:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My aunt hung herself, so from listening to what my dad and grandparents have talked about before, anyone sending their condolence's is helpful. just because they were rude doesn't mean they are not going through a hard time. and obviously they had some major issues, so maybe there was more to the reason why they were always shouting. imagine your self in their position, would you like it if someone sent you cards? or flowers? send the card to where they were living, eventually the card will get to them, and they will feel a little bit of happiness to know that someone was thinking of them.
2007-06-12 03:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by glow g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would write a quick note or card and leave it at the house. If they stop by to pick up belongings they'll have it and if not no harm is done. You'll feel better reaching out to them just because that's the kind of person you are.
2007-06-12 03:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is send a card or send a meal over to them when they return. He was the pain the in butt not the family. they are suffering right now and don't deserve rude neighbors.
Good luck!
2007-06-12 03:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First understand that he was a sick man in need of psychological help and not that he is selfish. Secondly his family maybe sick too.
Recommend some help for them maybe through a friend or parent. When you take over your condolence card, you may be the best person to initiate the process of healing for them.
2007-06-12 03:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by noble 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By sending them a card, you'll be showing them you're a good target. Avoid trouble, if you're religious type pray for them. And don't think he's done something selfish, that man was gonna end bad anyways. (dead in gang fight, police shooting, overdose, etc)
2007-06-12 03:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by polainaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would Jesus do? Forgiveness toward the family for their faults. Regardless of who they are or what they have done, they still lost a brother, uncle, nephew son... Try to get contact information and send them a card. You never know who is an angel...
2007-06-12 03:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do anything. If they weren't friends with you then its not really your business what happened. It will seem rude to send a card when you don't know the truth behind the story.
2007-06-12 03:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋