In love and she is 5 years older; what fears to marry her? Plz help?

Question

I am in love with a girl who is older than me 5 years, me 26 and she is 31 years; and we have started talking seriously to be together as we find the happiness together; and looking to be engaged then married.
If you are in my shoes; what are fears will you face and consider regarding age difference, aging, physical, youth, look, health, relations and the coming future?

Please try to see it from my side and her side too.

Thanks

Answer 1

My wife is 8 years older than I am and she had two children when we met.

Prepare to do some growing up, fast. if she has children, expect to find some white hair, on your head. That is your biggest concern right now (growing up, that is).

Women, in general, mature more quickly than men. You've probably got some catching up to do. At this point you work on embracing responsibility and stability. These are things that she will need from you which I'm sure she has already been concerned about.

5 years really isn't that much as far as health and youth go, my wife is healthier and in better shape than I am, that really depends on the person more than the age. Besides by 31 you would probably have a good idea whether or not she is going to 'let her self go' however, not necessarily.

On the shiny side of the coin, she is in her s.exual prime (yay) and she may want more than you do ;)

On the other side of the coin, she may tend to mother you a bit, or a lot depending on her personality. If you see that from her it doesn't necessarily mean that she's trying to boss you, it's just part of her nature. Just nicely let her know that it bothers you and that you have a need for her to respect you and being mothered feels very disrespectful, whether she means it that way or not.

Being married to a bit of an 'older w.oman' can be wonderful, they are usually more mature and have grown out of young stupidities.

You can have a very happy and loving relationship with someone of that age difference, I do.

Answer 2

I met my husband when I was 27 and he was 24. I am now 33 and he is 30. Married for 3 years and together for 6 years. But in my case, I was married and divorced once before we met. I have one daughter who is now 13 years old with that marriage. I was young when I got married at 19 back then and didn't know what I was thinking and doing. I thought I loved that person, but I was so wrong. He was older than me 11 years old and he was also my first...In this current marriage, I am very please and happy. He is very generous, loving and caring husband. He is very good to my daughter as his own. That is why I fell in love with him so deeply. And we are planning to have a baby in six months. My point is few years older or younger is not really matter in the relationship as long as there is love and respect for one another. Communication and compromise are also a plus. My first marriage fell because of that too. Well, as long as you love each other, anything else wouldn't be a big issue. If there is then there is no true love.

Answer 3

My husband and I got married when he was 25 and I was 33.
When we first met and started seeing each other, I asked him
if it bothered him that I was older, obviously it didn't. We have
now been married almost 20 years and its been great. The age difference has never been a problem, I think because
we share the same values and enjoy a lot of the same things.
A couple of years after we married, my brother came to visit
with a woman he was seriously interested in, but she was
hesitant because he was 5 years younger than her. So he
brought her to visit for the weekend so she could meet us
as we had the best marriage he knew of and the age thing
wasn't causing problems. They are now married for 15 years, have a great daughter and he has helped to raise
her 2 older children from her first marriage. She admits that
she was totally wrong to hold his youth against him as they
have made a great life together.
The key thing is not to think about numbers but to focus on
the qualities that are important to you and build on that.
Sharing the same values, having the same desires, enjoying
doing things together and truly being in love is more important
than where on the calendar you started.

Answer 4

HONESTLY..5 years is nothing!! What's 5 years..There should be little or no difference in the aging process and if you are in love that wouldn't matter anyway. As far as health goes there is no difference in 5 years that even matters. You are really worried about the wrong things here. When ur 70 she will be 75..who cares..you will both be old!! Seriously there should be no differences with just a 5 year age gap!!!

Answer 5

The age difference is nothing...you are both still very young and will age at about the same rate, hopefully. The only thing is in regards to having children because once a woman reaches the age of 35 her fertility will lessen and she may have a harder time getting pregnant. So I guess that really just depends if you guys want kids and how long you had planned to wait before trying.

Answer 6

Man let me tell you, my wife is 10 years older than I and yeah there are some differences, but we've have never had a problem with age.

As for aging and physical. go to the gym. We have always spent a lot of time outdoors whether running or just walking the dogs we stay physical. and looks...come on if she it beautiful enough for you know, she will always be. Would you leave her if she had a bad accident?

Don't worry about the small things. Not trying to sound like a hopeless romantic, but everything will workout if its meant to be.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

will if its meant to be whats the problem love is love if its was me which am in the same boat as you do what you feel is right..( will its like this))stop looking at the negatives what could happen later in life and start looking for today can you really see your self with some one else or see her with some else. can you hang with that being unhappy for the rest of your life being with some you don't love knowing at night when you make love to this person you see her and she see you as she lay with this other man. what am trying to say is do whats right thats what wrong with some marriage today people end up with the wrong person then there kids in void only God knows your future and god says its OK to have some fears or its OK to have fears but don't let your fears won you over have this fear and still marriage this man or woman and as for the sex part theres ways you can make that better but also of your that IN LOVE then sex WOULD NOT be a problem when your that in love you have the best sex every I KNOW TRUST ME OK !!!!

Answer 8

dont u know woman ? the older the better!!!!!!!!!!!! the point of all this is are u happy with her? young or older it does not matter when happiness is the major issue here! shell love having a younger man who can catch up to her!!!!!!! lol get it? kool ......... my sister is 52 her husband is 31 been together for 7 yrs ......and they look more and more in love than ever . u know what if u asked this question is cause u are not sure of this next step .... is u dont love her for real step out! cause that's whats important . love is for ever ... lust dont last long
gl

Answer 9

That's not a big age gap, I won't worry about the age thing, I would just be sure you are open and honest with each other and get married and commit to each other forever through all the hard times and good times, My husband is 8 years younger than me, I love him to death, but we've gone through alot of hard times to getting used to being married and being a couple of instead of two single people. Just make sure she is the one for you!!!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

It's only 5 years, there isn't going to be a big difference. My husband is 17 years my senior. We have a good marriage and four children. My husband is very fit, and I love him regardless of what the future might bring.