i need help?

Question

i want a divorce but i dont know how to tell my hubby of 3 year help me plz

Answer 1

If your husband of three years isn’t aware that things aren’t working out between the two you, then you need to sit down and have a serious talk. Maybe you guys just need to have a little boost in your relationship. Are you sure divorce is the answer for the two of you? You don’t give us enough information to really help you. If you are looking for how to tell him you want a divorce? There is only one way. Sit down and tell him that you are leaving! Do NOT just serve him papers. That is immature and rude. The only time that is acceptable is if he is abusing you and you need to get out and can’t tell him face to face. Other then that be an adult, you where adult enough to get married so now be an adult and tell him your leaving.

Good luck and I hope things work for the both of you!

Answer 2

This all depends on the kind of relationship that you still have with your soon to be ex-husband. If you are in any possible danger of physical abuse, the best thing would be for someone else to tell your husband, preferably a lawyer or some other type of law enforcement person. However, if you are able to verbally communicate with him, the best thing for you to do is go to a public place and talk quietly about your desires. Publicly, so that the danger of creating a scene will be far less likely. I have been divorced since 2004 and I can tell you that the best thing that came out of this mess was that she was able to just tell me she wanted out and that I was able to give her that with little or no drama. I was just as unhappy as she was, and it was a huge relief to me when she let me know that she was already thinking about doing what I was afraid to initiate myself. Just do a couple of things before you say anything. Ask yourself these questions.
Are you sure this is really what you want? and
Are you sure things can't be worked out with a little counseling? If the answers are yes and no respectively, then go ahead with your plans. Just be safe and try not to let things get ugly. I am just now beginning to talk to my ex, and we have two children involved. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Tell me my lucky one , why do you want a divorce when you made a vow three years ago that until death do us part. I am quite aware that he is not dead yet. Then tell me... why are you afraid to tell him. be honest with yourself. Are you afraid to look the man you promised three years ago to love him in sickness and in health that you have had a change of heart. But why? isn't it best to tell him now so he can start his plans to seek an alternative who is not a coward ,who is totally conscious of her role as a wife , and is not afraid to speak her mind to her own rib, and wont go and tell the world before she tells him.

Dont think I am trying to put you down in anyway. I dont know your story. All I am doing is to give you a chance to rethink your desire ,your want as you call it and focus on you and your need.

You need to know that when you say I do to a man, it means that other unlucky women who may have been genuinely in love with this man and his well-being has to turn their heads away in pain , so that society does not stereotype them.

Please if you realise you have made a mistake in love, (which many people do but lack the courage to admit to early and waste their lives in misery,) do the womanly thing and prepare a good environment for you husband , tell him what you want and why. You may be surprised at the response....

If he has a temper and a history of being abusive, the best thing to do is seperate first, then send the request by mail or through your lawyers, no explanation necessary.

Answer 4

If this is something that can be worked out please do so...there is so much help out there to give up so easily. Get counseling and communication is key. If this is beyond working out and you are truly unhappy then talk to him about what is bothering you and let him know that you need to move on. Then serve him the papers. Good luck...

Answer 5

two weeks ago you said you were 16 meaning you got married 3 years ago that means you married at 13 years old

why not just come to Jesus and get it all together-help from above=according to Jesus the Word of God made flesh (John 1:1&14) "Faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the Word of God." Romans 11:17
If ones faith is in anything else they are trusting in error and will fail
this is what brought me as a Jew to the true faith in Jesus my savior best friend and joy and inner peace of my life and heavens promise too!=may I suggest true love that never ends and gets better every day-worked for me to come to true faith &=Love is the salutation of the angel to the stars.
For God so loved the world, He gave His only begotten son, that whoever believes in him wont go to hell tormented forever perised from God, but have the more abundant and everlasting life. John 3 & 10 and dont forget
Revelation 3:19&20 Jesus saith "I love you and ask you to repent from your sins (even one lie) and ask me in to be your friend."

how I got this true love that lasts-I prayed "Jesus thank you that you love me unconditionally, I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen."

Revelation is a key -and Romans 1 said when we are unthankful and chose to worship the created instead of the creator-we need a new beginning in our life.

praying for you to find the true faith too, in amazing grace that saved me. David

Answer 6

Say the exact same thing you just said to all of us strangers...but just be SURE you know exactly WHY you want a divorce cuz you bet your a** thats gonna be his #1 question!! And who knows, maybe he wants one, too.........

Answer 7

Tell him you want a divorce.

Answer 8

Try to mitigate and not possible apply in Court for mutual divorce.

Answer 9

Any relationship consists of communication. That means, you need to discuss what is bringing you to this decision.

Answer 10

say "i want a divorce" there is no nice way of doing it..