i dont want to live this lifestyle, but is it to late because i already had sex with a guy.
2007-06-11 19:10:00 · 15 answers · asked by websterweb2003 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Officially, no. Human beings can not choose to be either gay or straight. Although we can choose whether to act on our feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed.
Some therapists who undertake so-called conversion therapy report that they have been able to change their clients' sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual. Close scrutiny of these reports however show several factors that cast doubt on their claims. For example, many of the claims come from organizations with an ideological perspective which condemns homosexuality. Furthermore, their claims are poorly documented. For example, treatment outcome is not followed and reported overtime as would be the standard to test the validity of any mental health intervention.
BUT... what are you basing your sexuality on? Do you feel a sexual attraction to males? Or did yu just have sex with a guy once? Do you like females the same way? Just making out with a guy doesn't make you gay - Feeling sexually attracted to one, and feeling love for guys does.
2007-06-11 19:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Xavier 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with a guy doesn't constitute a "one way trip to gaydom". You may simply have been bicurious, acted out on these feelings, didn't like it and then realised you were straight.
However, if you secretly liked it and fantasise about doing it again, then you have some kind of attraction to guys whether its a gay or bi attraction (an attraction to guys and girls).
Sexual orientation isn't something which can be voluntarily changed. Other people in this forum have rightfully said about so called "conversion therapies" which have dubious claims.
Just because so called therapies don't work doesn't mean that sexual orientation is fixed. Some bisexuals report that their attractions vary over a period of time - days, months or years, and this can cause confusion - the confusion being caused by internalising the either/or belief.
2007-06-11 19:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may already have had sex with a guy, and this is a clear indicator that your attractions are towards men. But if you feel that you don't want to live this lifestyle, then you have the right to say no. This is your life and you know yourself more than any other person. However, if you don't see any female as attractive in a marriage/sexual/family way, then what are you going to do? Are you going to commit a big sin by lying to a woman and treating marriage like worthless garbage? They say that there's nothing wrong with being a homosexual, but the truth is that even though it is different, it is another form of sexuality and all the golden rules apply to it just like with heterosexuality. No to adultery, promiscuity, abuse and other evil ways.
2007-06-11 19:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by naturalissexy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How To Be Ungay
2017-01-09 10:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go anyway to want to go. It could be that you were curious, and now that you've had an experience, you need to go your way. You had to know, and I wouldn't be one to keep you from what it is that you really want.
Be warned though, the thoughts do not leave completely. But with patience towards yourself, you can succeed in you plans. It is important to know that yuo are not being unfaithful to yourself, what you have decided is actually a good thing. You just had to discover what it is you really wanted.
2007-06-11 19:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to change your life is to change the people you hang out with.
Find new friends that have the qualities that you want for yourself. You will pick up their good habits.
Don't listen to those who claim you can't change. They only say this out of their self interest. If people realized they make a choice in who they have sex with, they would lose political ground. Don't be their pawn, think for yourself. Many people change preferences many times over during their lives.
Get into a support group.
Good luck! Hope you reach your goals in life!
2007-06-12 05:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No ur ****** like the rest of us....but you don't have to come out of the closet and live a great lifestyle just make sure ur partner doesn't say anything...drinking daily helps tho...and for the person above me (martin) god dosen't care what you are as long as you have love in ur heart its not ur fault he made you...
2007-06-11 22:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by $Rich$ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
having sex doesn't make you gay. However if you are romantically attracted only to/ as well as guys then your bi or gay. There is no cure. The APA says there is no cure. The ex gay movement has shown no results and furthemore has been proved to cause detrimental affects.Read link for more info.
2007-06-11 19:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u are attracted to someone it shouldnt matter whether they are male or female,sometimes the attraction is just there,practise safe sex and be open to your partners,if u want to have a relationship with a female have tests done to make sure u are safe and clean,sometimes u dont need to share your past.Just put it down to experimentation.goodluck
2007-06-11 19:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by bundy2175 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never heard of any way to become "ungay". If you are, you are, and you are born that way. No way to change it.
2007-06-12 02:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋