2007-06-11 19:01:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless you have an "open" marriage where you are both allowed to still act single then NO it is NOT ok.
2007-06-11 19:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by ladylupus1965 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you mean "girl friend" as in a friend that is a girl, then I don't see what the big deal is. One of my best friend's is a girl, and we do talk often on the phone. My wife doesn't mind at all.
As long as it is friendship, platonic type, then it is safe. I feel like my friend could be my sister. There is no flirting (good sign it is NOT platonic if that is going on) or anything like that. My wife has extended conversations with her too (usually about my friend's crushes on the new doctor at work, or embarrassing things from my past before I met my wife). My wife is also very secure that I am madly in love with her. I don't let her forget it.
I think the important thing here is that I didn't make a big deal of it, encouraged them to talk to each other (without pushing it) and they developed their own level of friendship. I doubt they would hang out together, but they do like and respect each other.
Talk to her, get to know her. Who knows, maybe she could be a good friend to you too.
If you feel like your husband may be a little naive, and you are seeing something he is not (i.e. she is actively pursuing him), then you need to educate him on the female flirt and deception that some women engage in.
If he is pursuing her, right in front of you, then he has disrespected you and you need to kick him to the curb. You can't win back the kind of respect a man should have for a woman in a marriage once it has been lost or never there.
2007-06-12 02:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all do you mean girl "FRIEND" or romantic girlfriend? Romantic girlfriend....get out while you can!! If it's just a friend,the question is do you know her? Do you trust your husband? Do you trust her? YOU need to be ok with your husband having girls as friends especially when he kicks it up a notch and becomes her phone buddy. I would have to TOTALLY trust that my husband had nothing but good intentions,but I must say..I trust my husband COMPLETELY and him having a girl pal that's his phone buddy too would definitely make me wonder what the heck is going on. First of all, I don't know many men that just talk on the phone the way women do so I would be wondering why he just suddenly has to have a girl pal to talk to on the phone. He can talk to you or call one of his guy pals. My husband has many friends that are girls just as I have many men that are my friends but I can guarantee you out of respect for each other, we don't come home and gab on the phone with them. Beware even if you trust him, women are catty too you know. Good Luck!
2007-06-12 02:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Christy K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question is IS IT OK FOR YOU ???? If my husband had a girlfriend and was talking to her on the phone, I would say take your things and move out.
2007-06-12 02:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband had a girlfriend. I don't know if he talked to her on the phone. I divorced him.
2007-06-12 03:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the boundaries are in your marriage. If you and your husband have an agreement that he can do this, then yes, but if that were the case, you wouldn't be asking this question.
No, it's not. Set the boundaries. Let him know that you will not live in a marriage where you are not respected and where your marriage vows are not kept.
2007-06-12 02:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if it's o.k for you to have a boyfriend and chat evey day with him. If the answer is YES, than it is o.k for him to have a girlfriend. In general, it is wrong to have some one else other than the spouse. Some couple are crazy and may share their every thing.
2007-06-12 02:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by peteseng 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HELL TO THE NO! it's not o.k.
Being a husband means he's NOT suppose to be having any kind of girlfriends what so ever. Doesn't marriage mean anything to any of you?! GOSH!!!!
2007-06-12 02:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a question you need to ask yourself...My husband wouldn't, I'll tell you that much.
It's not a jealousy thing, it's a respect and commitment thing.
2007-06-12 02:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Tikled_Ivory 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she truly a girlfriend or is she a female friend? If he has an actual girlfriend then no way. You need to tell him he has to go!
2007-06-12 02:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by Colleen G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋