we are always confused in case of personal or external relationships.sometimes I feel everydbody is good & the other time I feel they are bad.Is because of human behaviour or something else?how to judge a person?
2007-06-11 18:58:18 · 8 answers · asked by laxmi v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think almost always its our perceptions and expectations that creates a problem. With our parents,bosses, we place them on a pedestal and then when they do not match up to it, we get disappointed. With our friends and partners, we get in with a lot of baggage on our expectations and when they do not satisfy that, slowly we get confused , angry and detach ourselves or make it messy with confrontations.
I think with friends its best not to judge or advise, just be there. It always works though its difficult.
2007-06-11 19:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by myopic_illusion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyday we meet new people, new relationships are formed. The truth is , no one knows for sure what the real intentions are for keeping in contact. However having volunteering or having obligations to stay in relationship, no one one truly knows thw qualities of the other person.
This breeds uncertainities in relationships and sometimes what was initially thought of as a match made in heaven is later revealed to be a plan of the devil.
Also we are all unique individuals , there are no two individuals who are alike. We think differently , come from different backgrounds and experiences and has different goals.
The initial stage of any relationship then must be conflictual as different forces converges.
The decision to maintain these relationships overtime then will be determined by the ratio of conflict vis a vis the level of compatibility.
Confusion then is a product of the uncertainity attached to the initial stage and moreso to all the stages of human interactions.
Accept that even if you are married to one person for fifty years or stays with one boss for forty, the process will always be the same as new issues emerges seeking clarifications and eventually a resolution or a decision to stay apart.
2007-06-12 02:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by noble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...human psychology....real interesting topic....I believe in each person there is always a good side and a bad side. When a person does things that u approve of or the way that u believe is good u feel that the person is good and when the same person has a difference in opinion and does not behave the way u perceive as good u feel that person is bad.And on judging a person...ur inner mind is the best to guide u...its just that mostly we do not listen to that inner voice and get confused.
2007-06-12 02:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kutts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging a person is purely circumstantial. Even after ages of studying the human brain scientist still have not been able to study mind - because its the most complicated illogically logical in the world!!!
2007-06-12 14:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush to good, or bad judgements. Take you time and slow down your relationships. You will be able to see much more clearly by moving slowly.
2007-06-12 02:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are confused because we dont know what to expect, and what is happening we are not able to accept- so be clear in the direction for your relationship- u will not have confusions.
2007-06-12 02:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by k b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
judging a person is a very complecated issue, you should move slowly and not get carried away by words.
2007-06-16 01:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by puppy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is the foundation of all differences and disputes. Every body is there to power fuel in fire.
2007-06-15 03:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋