2007-06-11 18:54:24 · 14 answers · asked by Boogie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You asked two questions here. Can an abusive partner be rehabilitated?
Yes.
Can he be trusted to never abuse again?
No.
The first question pertains to the abuser, the second question pertains to the abused.
She will never trust again, no matter how col you are, no matter how much you love her, no matter if you become and absolute angel, Dude, they NEVER forget and they NEVER trust again.
I rehabilitated and I never abused again. 20 years later, she left me, citing the abuse of 20 years earlier.
A new woman can trust you, but the one you abused, NEVER.
2007-06-11 19:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by Alvin York 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some can but for Me I can't trust anyone that's Abusive! I hate Abusiveness. Some abusers just say it's
their fun thing.. such as those yahooers that abuse the vegetarian vegan area. There's now a team to crack down on those that abuse that area.. they promote meat eating in that area that offends us Vegetarian &Vegans! I consider their act abusive. Abusers can't be trusted ever. I've also been bullied way back in my school days! So that has an effect on my attitude towards bullies or abusers! A while ago I said I'd flag everyone I notice promoting meat eating in the Vegetarian & Vegan area and I keep my word always! Sometimes I miss a few cause time is important and I skim down the articles sometimes!
2007-06-12 07:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is a thorny one. On the one hand, the abuser believes he can be rehabilitated to never abuse again. On the other, You have the victims of abuse, and all that support them, telling you that "once an abuser, always an abuser", and their answer is a definite NO!
The only way for your question to be answered is for the abuser to seek rehabilitation, and continue his (or her) therapy, and for active involvement of the partner (if any) in the rehabilitation. The reason for this is that the abuser has forfeited his right to ask your question of themselves. It is those around them that will answer it, and then it is only an answer in that person's case, and not a general answer.
2007-06-12 02:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anton U 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can be done, just like any problem can be rehabilitated BUT the person must want it and earn the trust back! No slip ups because then your right back where you started being an abusive partner who now has shown he cannot change!
2007-06-12 01:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by smackthat27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not likely, usually people who are abusive have some underlying mental or emotional problem, like having been abused themselves as a child and now has built up agression. You would need some seriously heavy therapy, and it still wouldn't be a guarantee.
2007-06-12 02:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
once they start hitting and promise to never do it again, and you forgive them, eventually they will do it again. it is impossible to trust that it will not happen again get away from an abuser and do not trust what they say
2007-06-12 02:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
from my experience. no, there is no help for those who are doing the abusing. and who ever is in that kind of relationship needs to get out soon. real soon before it gets worse. things like that don't get better.get out. seek help.
2007-06-12 02:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I does happen, but it is a rare occasion. Anger management classes do help.
2007-06-12 01:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be possible, but I don't think the partner would be very smart to test it.
2007-06-12 01:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. you need to run from abuse or any sign of it. it kills immediately or for many years slowly. choose one or run.
2007-06-12 02:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by noble 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋