Do you think you can really truly love and forgive your spouse for cheating? It's been 5 years and I can't get over it.
2007-06-11 17:09:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, in that case, it is your fault. If you choose to stay. It was your choice, however, you have never chosen to get over it. When you forgave did you tell yourself that youj also choice to get over it.
2007-06-11 17:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it is possible to forgive but sometimes harder to forget. I believe that if we are truly devoted to making our relationships work and we still want the person that we are involved with... we first have to realize that no one is perfect. We also have to consider how the situation has changed our lives. I don't really feel that love is over-rated... I just feel that some people has little to no clue of what love is or what it means to really love someone. If you really love your husband and you still believe that your marriage can be enduring... you should consider trying to forgive and the forgetting part will come as well. If you value what you have... communicate how you feel with your husband and then, try and move on... don't allow past issues to hinder a faith of love and trust in your marriage. However, if it continues to bother you... then, maybe you need to consider that your marriage has run it's course because without trust and forgiveness... there is nothing left to work on. Good Luck!
2007-06-12 00:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it's very difficult to love someone who is self-centered, deceiving, liar. It's also very hard to forget about something like that, particularly if the person chose to lie to you day after day over an extended period of time. Even enemies treat each other better. So, I don't blame you for having a hard time. It seems best when wives just get divorced from their cheating husbands and move on. The ones who stay married, usually are never really happy.
2007-06-12 00:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a hard thing to get over. If you truly love him then ,yes, you can get over it. Try counseling. It does wonders. You have to heal you and you have to forgive in order to get passed the hurt your feeling.
2007-06-12 00:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lookin 4 ants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey loving someone with your all is one thing and cheating is another. Meaning that he was unfaithful to you and your trust has gone for him without trust you loose a lot of things and gain all the wrong feelings and thoughts.
Love is real and sometimes it could be a pain in the butt, but mostly in the heart.
2007-06-12 00:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my husband will ALL my heart.We've been together since I was 15 years old (34 now) He's my only,Im his only...we have 4 kids.....But if he cheated...I just dont think I could forgive him.And I KNOW I could never forget about it.
If you decided to stay,that was your choice and you wanted it to work.So try and make it work.
2007-06-12 00:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by ...Tammy... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think it's better to keep trying to find a quality man then to just write them off altogether and always be lonely. Real love is out there, it's rare, but you might as well try.
2007-06-12 00:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heal all wounds. It may take you time to forgive but you'll never forget. Unless you've forgiven him you'll never get over it.
2007-06-12 00:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by berry71bleu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are capable of it. I'm not sure I could get past it. Once they have broken that trust, it is very difficult to place my trust in them again.
2007-06-12 00:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋