I need my baby's daddy to submit a blood sample for dna testing in regaurds to paternity. My ex is in the usmc's. He lied to me and I found out not too long ago that he is married and his wife is also 7/8 weeks pregnant like me. He said he wont agree to dna testing because he doesnt want his command involved. He also promised to take care of me and he hasnt done that either. I have no job right now, and I need prenatal care and a place to live. I cant move on anything i think, until i can prove he's the father. Which we both know he is, but he trying to play hard ball. I threatened to tell his command so he went ahead and spilled the beans. And he wrote me a smart alecky email saying that he's not going to loose rank and his job in the usmc is secure. So i guess infidelity is tolerated in the armed services. But I just want what me and my baby deserve and that is to be cared for like he promised.
2007-06-11 15:36:29 · 4 answers · asked by ? 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Im not asking for anyone to judge me or my situation thank you!! I just need legal advice and I cant afford to pay for a lawyer. Although i appreciate your sympathy I know my situation and will take care of my responsibilities as a mother. I would have a job and a place if I wouldnt have believed his lies. Its a too long of a story and Im tired of defending myself. We planned this child, and now he's backing out, because I found out he's married.
2007-06-11 15:52:17 · update #1
While I sympathize with your situation and agree that that there is paternal responsibility here, there is ALSO maternal responsibility. After all, you WERE there when the child was conceived, were you not ?
I agree that you deserve financial support from the father, but you also need to learn that he is only one of TWO parents, and you bear as much responsibility for the care of the child as does he.
2007-06-11 15:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by acermill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the best of my knowledge, paternity testing can only be done once the baby is born b/c they take some blood from the baby to see whose genes he or she has, so as far as that goes, I think you have to wait till the kid is born.
If you don't feel like you are ready to be a mom - and trust me, being a single mom is a LOT of work even when you have a great boyfriend/ partner/ husband helping out, than you should consider other options which include not having the baby - it's just an option, not advice either way - or giving the kid up for adoption. In many cases, the adoptive parents - who you would pick - will pay for your prenatal care and housing while you are pregnant. Use that time to get a degree or training so you can support yourself once that is over. In the meantime, I would recommend Planned Parenthood. They provide prenatal care on a sliding scale basis, which means if you can't afford it, it's free or nearly free. FYI, while I am not condoning it, the Marines are not going to take a stand on whether this guy had an affair on his wife and at 8 weeks pregnant you may or may not be able to carry the fetus to term and still have all the options available to you either way. If you want to use the pregnancy to punish this fellow for being a jerk and getting you pregnant, you are not ready to be a mom and it is not going to make this jerk come back to you or be a great dad to your kid or great husband to you. Sounds like this is not the kind of guy I would want to raise a kid with for whatever its worth. If you need a free lawyer, call your local Legal Aid office and they can help.
2007-06-11 15:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I hate to say this you need to go to your local Job and Family Services. They will set you up on medicaid until after you have the baby. Put his name on the birth certificate when the baby is born.Then you need to go to the Child Support Agency, they will set you up with a free 1 time paternity test, and they will make him pay child support even if he denies being the father or denies taking the test.After wards the welfare office will probably make him pay the money back that you received.I hope this helps, take care of you and the baby first let him worry about how he is going to pay support on probably two kids.
2007-06-11 15:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by boo76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. he's not willing to be a dad, looks like you are not ready to be a mom too, what's the best solution here? you have to think really hard now, it's not easy to bring an innocent child into this world with an unstable situation like this. when you are a parent, you do whatever you have to to survive.
2007-06-11 15:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by myohmymyohmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋